Posts made by bi4smooth

@ashjames07 said in Would You Be Straight if You Had The Choice?:

Yes, atm I would

Babysat my nephew a few times recently and he's so adorable and he seems to like me. Makes me want to be a dad.

But I am a scientifically minded person, I got nothing against adoption and it's something if I settled down I would not pass up with my husband but it's not the same

I struggle knowing the purpose of life and understanding it fully, procreation, my own family, it's important to me that one of my children are physically and biologically mine, so I have a family to leave behind.

We all die and are eventually forgotten, but for me to just end and leave nothing to prosper.. It does mess with my head more than I've cared to admit, the struggle of being gay whilst agreeing with being here to be a dad to my own child is the reason I should be here.

Not being able to have that for obvious reasons is upsetting, Holding my nephews and niece makes me want my own

If I had the choice, I'd have been born a white male of Royal lineage from a rich and peaceful country - but NOT too close "in line to the throne" as to be a public spectacle everywhere I went.

Since I'm wishing, I'd also like a 10" penis, blue eyes, flawless skin, perfectly flowing (not thinning) blonde hair, and a personality that made me the envy of all the free world.

The point? Being gay is how I was born... I was born with a lot of good (great!) things (not least of which is being born in the USA), and some less than great... but they are what they are, and I don't generally fantasize about how things would be different "if"... but when I do, I go all out! LOL

The reason your laptop fans get so loud is because the fans are inside the laptop - where space is at a premium... tiny fans have to spin VERY fast to move a lot of air.

Consider a laptop "cooling pad" - it's basically a "stand" you put your laptop on that has vents and rather large fans underneath... more air flow at higher air speeds, but at slower FAN speeds means a cooler laptop with much much less noise!

Most office supply stores carry them, as does Amazon (what don't they carry?)

@lololulu19 said in Risk of AIDS in sex with women vs men:

I was having a discussion with someone about the rationale for engaging in gay sex.
I pointed out that with gay sex, you are not risking having an unplanned, unwanted baby, or trip to an abortion clinic.

The person I was chatting with responded with "Well, with gay sex you are risking AIDS". At first, I thought to myself that he had a point.. but then.. I realized.. his point was nonsense. You get AIDS by having sex with women too. In fact, it seems the way many if not most people got AIDS was not from sex, but by sharing dirty needles.

My question is.. Is sex with women any less of a risk of AIDS than sex with men?

And.. let's not forget that women are like incubators for a plethora of STDs.

Not sure what that comment above (about teachers) was about, but it's incorrect to believe that the incidence of HIV infection when having sex with an untreated HIV+ partner is that much greater in men than with women.

The "abundance" of HIV in the gay community in "white" countries (large parts of Europe, North America, & Australia) does not extend itself to other parts of the world: AIDS is mostly heterosexual in Africa, as well as most of Asia and Latin America. This is in large part because the "gay" communities in those cultures are less "out" and so are considerably less "promiscuous"...

That said, transmission from an infected woman to an uninfected man, or from an infected bottom man to an uninfected top is considerably less likely (tho far from "hard")...

The idea that "straight" people get HIV primarily from IV drug use is a homophobic trope designed to further demonize those infected with HIV... and it is factually incorrect.

@lololulu19 said in Anal sex.. for women..:

Men have a highly sensitive prostate gland which gives great pleasure when stimulated, about 1.5 inches up their ass.
Women have no prostate gland.

With that in mind, is there any reason why a woman would want to stick a vibrator (or cock for that matter) up their ass? They have nothing up their ass to feel pleasure. Men do.

Women have a clitoris "in the area" - but you are biologically correct - no prostate. That said, the clitoris is way more than just what you see (on the outside)! It’s shaped like a kind of wishbone - and can extend to the anus.

Let's not forget - a nice part of anal sex is rimming - and most women enjoy that just as much as men do!

@Kekkaishi said in English Words Pronunciation:

@bi4smooth I remember an encounter many years ago where I worked as cashier at a drug store.
A customer enters who speaks English natively. I don't remember the details but he asked me a question (in English of course) and I answered using the word "either" (pronounced I-ther) in regards to comparing two products or something. The weird thing is that he seemed to not understand my meaning of the word, not until I used E-ther to "correct" mysellf.
But most likely I misused the word altogether in a sentence

I would fault the customer there - E-ther and I-ther pronunciations are generally considered interchangeable in English... I don't think there are "rules" about when one gets used vs. the other.

My example above wasn't intended to say one was correct and the other not, rather that I personally use both pronunciations!

@raphjd

Actually, the use of the word to describe a female human can be re-defined by "society" long before any legislative body gets around to it! And word "definitions" come from common use, not legislatures!

To wit:

• Actors used to be male, as there was Actress for women... no more: they're all Actors
• Literal (literally) used to mean one thing (as opposed to "figuratively"), but now it means BOTH - because people came to use the phrase incorrectly so much ("I am literally sweating my balls off here!" - I don't think so!)

@Kekkaishi

E-ther vs I-ther pronunciation for me is use-case:

"You can E-ther have cake or ice cream, but not both"

vs.

"No, I didn't like that move all that much I-ther"

There I go - screwing up the English language again! My middle-school English teacher (who almost failed me!) would be so proud! LOL

@Kowmei

We are "taught" by our mass media (whether porn, or billboard advertising, or whatever) that there are certain things we must prefer...

• smooth twinks
• hairy hunks
• chiseled torsos
• long hair
• tattoos

Personally, I find many of those turn-offs (a small tattoo is fine, but covered in tats? not my thing: even studios I normally collect, I'll pass on, for example, Chris Damned... I'm sure he's a lovely man in person, but I'm no more attracted to his over-tatted body than I am to Roseanne Barr's!)

That doesn't make me judgemental - I've long held that gay "sexual tastes" are a "rainbow of fruity flavors"!

I like watching twinks have sex - but I like 'em even more as they age into their late 20's! (I hear Helix's Jessie Montgomery is considering a comeback! I'd LOVE to see that! Even if his costars would likely be literally half his age! LOL (No, not quite really half his age - Jessie came to Helix in 2012. If you ASSUME he was 18 then, he's 28 now... but still, that's close enough to 30 for me! LOL)

But can someone please tell me why ALL "daddies" shown in gay porn have to have hairy chests & beards? (one exception: LeGrand Wolf - tho he does have a hairy chest)

As much as "twinks" and "daddies" are the hot thing now, in my youth, the "gay norm" was guys with mustaches and hairy chests! Eww for me, then and now!

Not trying to hijack the conversation tho - I think you're attracted to who you're attracted to by a "matrix" of inputs - some environmental, some biological, some social.

Also, hearkening back to the original post: I do NOT believe homosexuality is caused by a lack of a loving father figure in childhood. While that may be a part, I've known plenty of 100% straight men who had issues with their fathers!

IMHO, more gays had issues with their fathers growing up - not because their fathers were "turning them gay", but because their fathers were uncomfortable with their gay sons! (not having a close relationship to your father didn't make you gay - rather, being gay caused you to have a lesser relationship with your father... and in as much as you were a kid then, that's on your father, not you!)

@Kowmei
Faith gives many people strength - sometimes profound strength! I appreciate and applaud that...

But leaning on your faith and using that strength to make it through grueling cancer treatments is one thing... using your faith to storm the Capitol so you can keep "your chosen one" in power is totally another...

Again, while I didn't say it in these words before: Faith and Religion are a double-edged sword. It can be used for Good and for Evil equally as easily!

@Kowmei

Another very interesting Forum topic resurrected from the Forum of old...

Personally, I try to avoid "direct causal relationships" from my childhood to my adult life. I think the "3D matrix" that makes up the formula that determines who and what we're attracted to (sexually, socially, and every other way) is so complex that no 1 piece is likely responsible for "all" of it...

To wit: yes, the absence of physical love or emotion from your parents likely will impact your desire for that later in life (wanting to fill a void, so to speak)... but your choice of who to fill that void is less likely tied to that than you would think.

I have worked as a counselor (church) for many people who have had "parental love" issues... some blamed that for their sex-addiction (mostly straight, tho some gay as well)... more than a majority of those people also fantasized about sex with a parent or parent-like person. (My point is: that's not a "gay" thing, that's a "human" thing!)

For me personally, I've always been attracted to men in their 30's and 40's... when I was a teen, I was attracted to them... when I was in my 30's and 40's I was attracted to them, and now in my late 50's I'm still lusting after guys in their 30's and 40's... My first "real" boyfriend (live-in) was 12 years older than me (22-34), and my current boyfriend is 20 years younger than me (58-38)!

I certainly agree with the generalized comment that mixed-generation relationships can be fraught with challenges... but people in relationships always change! It's only human! What makes a relationship work is how you adapt together to each others' changes. I've known plenty of same-aged relationships that have failed because "they changed" and they couldn't adjust... and I've known a few x-gen relationships that have lasted decades - because as they changed, they adjusted and accepted each other. IMHO, that's what LOVE is!

@Kowmei

I agree - this is a once-popular discussion area that I'd like to see return.

My own religious upbringing was more like a "comparative judeo-christian religions" course - we started out Methodist (because my dad was the choir director), then went Presbyterian because my mom liked the minister... I sang in that choir for many years. Then I started attending Catholic Mass because I'd joined a Boy Scout Troop there and I wanted to earn the religious "medal" in Scouts - so it was the Catholic one for me!

Meanwhile, my father ALSO was a choir director / sometimes fill-in cantor for one of the largest Jewish synagogues in the area. (One Passover, the normal cantor up and quit 2 days before the services... my dad filled in and no one was the wiser, until one old lady discovered that a "gentile" had been the cantor "that week" and had a hissy fit! It nearly cost the Rabbi his job!) Anyway, we would attend those services too...

At 58, I consider myself a pseudo-agnostic. I don't dis-believe in God, I just don't think the "real thing" is looking at me in particular to see how often I masturbate or what language I speak what words in... I think those parts of religion are primarily used to "control the masses" (which is fine when its messages like "don't eat pork because the trichinosis will eat your brains out", but less fine when its "you must eat fish on Fridays because the fishermen need more money" or "Vote for Candidate A because he's a better Christian than B")

So, I'm afraid I just don't have much of a place in my life for large-scale organized religion... I find it a "convenient" place for people with non-curious minds to go to explain that which they cannot explain otherwise. And I don't like "being controlled"... LOL

That said, I find the community and socialization of local churches to be (usually) refreshing and enjoyable experiences. I attend a Unitarian Universalist congregation these days, but also sometimes sing in a Baptist choir - admittedly solely for the music! - I say that, even though I haven't sung with them since 2020 (the pandemic ended choirs for those who successfully blend science and religion, don't ya know, LOL)...

I tried attending a local gay (MCC) church, but found the people there very judgemental and cliquish. I didn't want to expend the energy they were demanding to "fit in with the right people" ... my last day there, I told one of them that "if there are right-people and wrong-people in this Church, then I'm the wrong person for this Church"

Mind you, I don't "worship" Science either - most decent scientists will tell you: most of what we know scientifically is only "mostly right" - there is so much we DO NOT know yet, it'd be foolish to assume he have anything "completely" right ... and that is the nature of Science, after all: to question the things we "know" so as to discover where we've been wrong!

Remember, it was the "scientists" of the time who used leeches and "bloodletting" to cure the sick! Funny thing, we "modern people" were so sure those "stupid" people from the past were "dead wrong" (a pun, as their "treatments" often quickened their patient's pathway to death!) - but now, today, leeches are commonly used by modern medicine - especially in post-surgical recovery. They apparently DO help in re-establishing blood flow!

Anyway - that's why I call myself pseudo-agnostic - I'm literally always questioning things... even (especially) myself!

I would encourage you to stop and examine your motives here:

• are you interested in his being "out and proud" for his own benefit, or
• are you interested in his being "out and proud" to suit your own wishes and desires about him

I can't answer that - only you can. IMHO, the best way for you to make him be more comfortable with his own sexuality is to:

• Be comfortable with yours - without forcing it onto him
• Be accepting of his - regardless of whether it "goes" where you want it to go!

OK, so lets get down to "brass tacks" here:

• Regardless of whether they are legally valid in a court (and that would likely be different depending on which court it was heard in), the Site Owner has told content owners that he will take down posts here that infringe on their ownership rights.
• The Site Owner wants to avoid running afoul of the law - especially the idea that this site exists primarily to facilitate illegal sharing. As a precaution, the Site Owner has given content owners wide leeway, and has prohibited the discussion of avoiding, invaliding, or otherwise getting around the protections that he (the Site Owner) believes exist under the DMCA
• the opinion of the site owner is the only opinion that matters here - and it is his opinion that this topic is not allowed on his system

Please understand that:

• this is not your site - you are but a guest here
• your continued pursuit of this topic may well get your account suspended - you have been directed to the warnings already
• you are free to start your own site if you disagree (this isn't the Politics section, but much as Trump has done with Trump Social after being banned by Facebook & Twitter), but you have no "rights" here - we area all just guests on someone else's site!

@Kekkaishi said in English Words Pronunciation:

I have some words that I hear sometimes that are pronounced differently. Therefore I'm not sure what is the correct way to pronounce these words.
I will write the word and then the 2 variations phonetically for better understanding

Ideology: E-diology or I-dioloty

Either: E-ther or I-ther

Devisive: di-VI-sive or di-VAI-sive

Beyond: be-Yo-nd or be-O-nd

Resource -> re-So-rce or re-Zo-urce

So which is it?
thanks.

You have discovered why English is such a difficult language to learn...

In some examples, the different pronunciations have different meanings:

• read (verb, pronounced: red) is the past tense of read (verb, pronounced reed), which is to "look at and comprehend the meaning of written material"
  For example: He had read (red) "To Kill a Mockingbird" earlier that year, so he had no difficulty when he was asked to read (reed) it out loud in class.
• Plus, there is read (noun, pronounced reed) that is "someone's understanding of a topic or event"
  For example: The General's read (reed) on the battle was eventually proven correct"
• Then there's read (adjective, pronounced red) denoting a high level of understanding
  For example: He is well read (red) in the Greek Classical Poetry - making him a total bore at parties!
• And finally, there is the location on the board game Monopoly: Reading Railroad - (pronounced correctly as red-ding)

Then, there's the famous song from Gershwins' "Shall We Dance" called "Let's Call the Whole Thing Off" where the on-screen couple argues about English word pronunciations:

Things have come to a pretty pass
Our romance is growing flat,
For you like this and the other
While I go for this and that,
Goodness knows what the end will be
Oh I don't know where I'm at
It looks as if we two will never be one
Something must be done:
You say either and I say either,
You say neither and I say neither
Either, either neither, neither
Let's call the whole thing off.
You like potato and I like potahto
You like tomato and I like tomahto
Potato, potahto, tomato, tomahto.
Let's call the whole thing off
But oh, if we call the whole thing off
Then we must part
And oh, if we ever part, then that might break my heart
So if you like pyjamas and I like pyjahmas,
I'll wear pyjamas and give up pyajahmas
For we know we need each other so we
Better call the whole thing off
Let's call the whole thing off.
You say laughter and I say larfter
You say after and I say arfter
Laughter, larfter after arfter
Let's call the whole thing off,
You like vanilla and I like vanella
You saspiralla, and I saspirella
Vanilla vanella chocolate strawberry
Let's call the whole thing off
But oh if we call the whole thing of then we must part
And oh, if we ever part, then that might break my heart
So if you go for oysters and I go for ersters
I'll order oysters and cancel the ersters
For we know we need each other so we
Better call the calling off off,
Let's call the whole thing off.
I say father, and you say pater,
I saw mother and you say mater
Pater, mater uncle, auntie let's call the whole thing off.
I like bananas and you like banahnahs
I say havana and I get havahnah
Bananas, banahnahs havana, havahnah
Go your way, I'll go mine
So if I go for scallops and you go for lobsters,
So all right no contest we'll order lobseter
For we know we need each other so we
Better call the calling off off,
Let's call the whole thing off.

@Virtuorgasm6 said in Gangbang fetish.:

I have always had a huge fetish for gangbangs. Let me also add that I am a completely versatile guy. When I say I have a fetish for gangbangs, I don't just mean as the bottom, but even as a top. The idea of multiple men using their bodies to pleasure one man is extremely arousing to me.

Now here's the problem. I'm recently dating someone. I really like the man and I love his energy. I don't want to ruin my prospects with him by bringing up orgies and gangbangs, but I do want to explore that side of myself with him.

What is a good way to bring this up?

It's actually good for couples to DISCUSS fantasies - that doesn't mean you're pressuring your partner to FULFILL those fantasies (and if you value the relationship, you'll understand - and put on hold - your fantasy if it's not something he's interested in).

To wit: how many couples have a "hall pass" celebrity? (Oh, Brad Pitt is my "hall pass" - if I ever meet him, I get to fuck him "free" and my partner has already agreed!)

MY partner and I met because he wanted to TRY bondage & blindfolds... it turned out he did NOT like it (tho I do...) So, we started dating - and we don't do bondage anymore.... I still love it, but he doesn't, so it's just fantasy right now... c'est la vie! He's a great guy, and the sex is good - with or without the bondage!

Really, darling - you're not supposed to mix alcohol and your anti-depressants! THIS is the result!

First of all, if you were requesting access to porn sites in the 1920s, those were called speakeasys There was no Internet in the 1920's... and porn was a Federal crime! (As was almost anything approaching being gay!)

But also, I'm not aware of any site that requires members to upload content.... share (aka seed), yes... upload new content, not so much.

Now let's let the alcohol wear off and take an extra pill or two of the happy-pills and maybe you'll talk like you have some sense again...

Aw hell, who are we kidding! ROFL!

There is no end to the ways stupid people can twist their religion to suit their own un-holy purposes!

Again, the more we learn about the relatively few examples of vote fraud that existed in 2016 & 2020 (the Trump Elections), the more the rationale of the Trumps in claiming massive fraud makes sense.

Newly reported (yes, by CNN) Matt Mowers, then an aide in the Trump White House, voted in the NH primary (as a NH resident) in Feb 2016, then turned around and registered to vote back in his original, home State of NJ in June - where he used his parents' address to register.

It's unclear which one was fraudulent - but based on preliminary research, it appears that BOTH may have been fraudulent:

• He had never been a NH resident
• By the time he re-registered in NJ, he was a full-time resident in DC

Again, IMHO, the Trumps knew how much fraud they'd committed themselves (not individually - and Trump himself is not responsible for this moron's behavior), so the only way they COULD have lost - given how many "extra" votes they'd arranged for - fraudulently - the only CONCEIVABLE way they could have LOST, would have been that the Democrats cheated even more!!!

In a typical year, the few hundred or so cases of prosecuted vote fraud are usually about 50/50 Democrat/Republican - after all, neither Party WANTS their people to commit fraud - these are lone actors (usually evangelists for the far right or left who think they're doing the right thing by cheating, because so much is at stake!)

But both 2016 and 2020 have been shown to be anomalous - far more Republican fraudsters have been found and prosecuted (so far - it is TRUE that, if the Dems were all brilliant and deceitful geniuses, they could have hidden all of their fraud, leaving mostly Republicans to get caught)...

Believing that is akin to believing that every other nation on the planet conspired to lie about COVID-19 - solely to ensure Pres. Trump's defeat in 2020!

It is notable that this electioneering genius (yes, that is sarcasm!) is currently a candidate for Congress in NH - where he actually does live now. (NOTE: It is possible that he lived - for real - in NH in 2016 and CNN just couldn't prove it... CNN isn't exactly known for their in-depth research when the preliminary evidence shows a REPUBLICAN did something wrong! Just because they're biased doesn't mean they are always wrong!)

Even if he DID live in NH in Feb 2016, changing and using his parents' address in NJ to vote again was most likely illegal & fraudulent. (Now, if he'd rented an apartment? That might be something different...)

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@lololulu19 said in Upload privileges revoked for 90 days?:

@fredfranco I think I have been hit with the same penalty.

I didn't have any DMCA issues for several months.. maybe even for over a year.. but 2 days ago I got 3 in less than an hour, and I can't upload anymore.

It seems that all torrents with the word "Staxus" in them have been removed from the system. Removing Staxus from the site is like removing Florida from the map of the USA.

Sigh...

Some of you act as-if you have an inherent RIGHT to download Staxus content without paying for it!

Having been a member here since 2008, I can tell you that this kind of thing is not new. (Look around: how much Bel Ami or Freshmen content do you see? There are other entire studios that are totally absent as well!)

The site owner has always made it clear: his intent is to provide a platform where people can share their porn, and their thoughts about porn, openly and freely. And when that sharing is demonstrably shown to be in violation of the law, he will abide by the law!

Why is it that you accept the rule about banning pedophilia, but you argue about the rule that says that a legitimate DMCA take down request will be honored?

Sometimes studios go through a "spate" of these things - there was a time when Corbin Fisher was actually SUING people who shared their content online!

Typically, these enforcement periods come and go - ebb and flow... in the meantime, find other porn you like!