@dadesnine It's just a convenient word to describe my situation, because I'm literally involuntarily celibate. I do not care about their rhetoric and do not visit their communities (tried, once, several years ago, after hearing the word for the first time, but got bored in about 5 minutes and quit).
Alas, I tried to see several therapists - they didn't know what to do and just talked about some vague things like shame, failing to elaborate when pressed, tried to get a hobby or something, which drained the last bits of interest from my life, and tried to start meeting people - this ended in a disaster, mostly.
When you're covered in boils, and the doctors just shrug after 8 years of futile attempts to cure you, you begin to see speeches about not giving up and finally finding someone as an elaborate trolling. Don't see how big and proud gay comminuty can help with that - people are people, and avoiding such things is a rather reasonable instinct which I cannot judge.