@raphjd You are right, criticism isn't "phobia".
But one of the people here everyday create a new topic calling trans "mutilated, confused, mentally-ill or groomers", and spreading fake news and misinformation about them..
The guy also calls trans and autistic people mentally-ill, and this is ableist per se.

Religious people will call their persecution towards gay people "criticism" too, but it doesn't make it less persecutory.

@Kinkys-0 There's another video here on this site where the bottom is pissing himself while being fisted and having billiard balls inserted into his hole.

I had a similar case but I was the hookup, it started all just nice, after the sex dude started talking about past romances, I honestly don't know why people do this. I thought it was bad enough but then he started to teach me about League of Legends out of absolutely nowhere.

Just like you, I don't actually care, but I do my best to listen, but in my case it was a oner, while with you things seem to be developing a pattern, exchanging sex for emotional support, if anyone is using the other it is happening mutually.

Even though you don't particularly care for his problems, if you're at least somewhat of a nice person, you'll be interested in not help making his problems worse by taking part in his harmful behavior.

You could simply ask why he is on Grindr when he clearly has not got over his ex. Maybe he thinks this is what he needs to overcome it, or maybe he just wants the sex as he works on it somewhere else. Probably he didn't even put much thought to it.

@cp2000 I hope what I write here isn't a "therapy session," as @ianfontinell-0 puts it...

Thank you for sending the links to the torrents. I downloaded some of the material, and it's pleasant to view. But to the greater point of "straight" guys having "gay" sex, and enjoying it, we need to make some distinctions. (Note, though, that the guy on the torrent page was never seen to engage in any gay sex, even if he showed his hole.)

Categories like "straight," "bi," or "gay" are difficult to define, but they're about who people are attracted to, who they form deepest relationships with, etc. It's something of the mind.

Actions like "gay sex, [and let's assume that it's two men] are just that--activities. They don't necessarily reflect someone's orientation. Many of the models/actors whose films appear on this site are in fact straight guys, some married with kids, but they can enjoy a good blowjob, fucking a tight, slippery hole, or having a prostate orgasm. They especially enjoy being paid for doing this stuff. It doesn't mean that they're gay.

You mention the possibility of generational differences: I think you're asking if "straight guys having sex with another man" is limited to "millennials." I don't know of any studies on this, but I think the answer is no. Rather, I think guys who want to experiment or play are more likely to do so within their own generation, as that's who they can best relate to, and they probably have most of their friends in their same generation.

Thanks for raising an interesting topic.

@Sleepyalot Contrary to popular belief, piss isn’t sterile. It can carry bacteria (and viruses, if the top is infected). It’s riskier when it comes into contact with mucous areas like the anus. The top drinking lots of water can dilute the piss, reducing the likelihood of irritation or inflammation, but this doesn’t lower the risk of STIs.

If you’re already going bareback, piss isn’t a huge deal STI-wise, but it’s still one more transmission vector. The primary risk comes from semen and blood, though piss can contribute. With or without it, you’re already committing to the risk of infection.

I’d argue it’s less risky to drink it than to have it inside you elsewhere, as the digestive system is better equipped to process bacteria and other agents, unlike the anus, which is particularly vulnerable.

It is something that I would definitely be prone to experimenting occasionaly with people I trust, but not something to be doing frequently, specially with unknown partners. And of course, always make sure to clean properly afterwards to reduce the risk of irritation.

@ianfontinell-0 your primary concern is how many times I used the word "trans".

I did that because I don't know what pronouns to use for this person. The person I am referring to has said they don't even know what to call themselves!

This person doesn't understand the situation, I don't understand it, and I am not sure this mess can ever wind up not destroying a lot of lives.

It seems that this person with XY grew up heavily conflicted because the parents allowed a male cousin to fuck this person hundreds of times from the ages of 3 to 17 (5 to 19 for the cousin) and how could they have not known? The person says he/she feels guilty because of enjoying the sex, but now calls it rape. Now he/she says that he/she loves raping straight guys! WTF is that? He/she even posted photos of all the cuts made with razor blades, and explained that he/she hid those cuts with bracelets.
As for the family of this person, it seems that the slightly older sister and this person don't speak. The mother ignored the situation, while the father ENCOURAGED it! (he is a mega woke freak).
The problem now is the person's psychiatrist decided that the person should change names from a very MALE name to very FEMALE name, start using the pronouns SHE/HER instead of HE/HIS, and get rid of the gay boyfriend and get a straight boyfriend.
The person did everything the psychiatrist advised, but it has not solved the problem. The person is still saying he/she wants to commit suicide and said it WILL do that once Trump is president. The person is also feminizing the straight boyfriend, and giving him estrogen in his food without his knowledge.

This person calls itself an "EVIL BITCH" so I am at a loss to know how to refer to him/her.

One other perplexing thing. Anybody that says he/she is "beautiful" get's blocked! Does not make any rational sense.

@ianfontinell-0
Very helpful - thanks for such a reasoned and detailed response. Guess I'll just have to sit down and grind through my database manually. Maybe one day I'll be able to monetize my beautifully tagged database! (dream on......😢 )

@eobox91103 there is also the issue of someone ELSE sticking their cock in the same vagina you stuck your cock into.. and that other cock is what caused the pregnancy.. but YOU are assumed to be the daddy.

@john32123666 well.. that would be synonymous with being a sissy or femboy.

Words take on new meanings over time. I found this website that seems to be referring to lesbians as "girlies". I think it's one of those labels that doesn't have a clear meaning.

My best guess at a definition is someone who is in some way female, but there is something about them which is not entirely female.

@lololulu19 Vaginas & prolapsed assholes? I can think of a few 🙂

(but let's keep it vague here, not get debate-y)

@kberg333 industrial silicone is super cheap and guys usually apply themselves at home, or have a bud it applied on them, it falls more into a body modification fetish than a proper plastic surgery. I have seen injected dicks that still look appealing, even though the majority become an atrocity that has barely no use.

As for the methods you mentioned, I don't think I have ever seen an example, and based on a quick google search i just did, if i ever saw one it most likely passed as a natural dick.