Removing the guilt of being gay
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I know a young man who sends me images and videos of his cock and ass. He's had 3 girlfriends in the past 2 years, and seems disgusted with all of them (for good reason). He and I even AGREE that they are cunts. Anyway.. he is still in the closet.. which is fine by me. The only person in the world that needs to know that he is gay is ME. And I already know that.
However, I want him to be happy, and I want him to remove the guilt from being gay. I came up with an idea to try.. I am very interested to see how the wise and knowlegeable homos on this site think of it.
I already send him porn daily.. and he accepts it, but doesn't really acknowlege it. I would prefer that he sent me messages saying things like "Wow, that guy cums like a geyser!" "I would like to lick that guy's ass and balls like an ice cream cone!" etc. Anyway.. my idea is to show him the finest in gay porn (which I already do) BUT mention to him that the performers in those gay porn videos are actually straight.. and some of them have children! (Supposedly all but one of the Bel Ami models are straight.. and people like uber bottoms Chad Knight and Kurt Wild have children). Even if they are gay.. I might imply that they are straight. In this way, my young friend will hopefully get the idea that he can be gay, and still think of himself as being straight. Of course, over time.. that delusion would fade away and he would admit to himself that he is gay. In fact, from my observations.. most gay guys do not admit to themselves that they are GAY until about the age of 28.
What do YOU think? -
I would encourage you to stop and examine your motives here:
- are you interested in his being "out and proud" for his own benefit, or
- are you interested in his being "out and proud" to suit your own wishes and desires about him
I can't answer that - only you can. IMHO, the best way for you to make him be more comfortable with his own sexuality is to:
- Be comfortable with yours - without forcing it onto him
- Be accepting of his - regardless of whether it "goes" where you want it to go!
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@lololulu19 said in Removing the guilt of being gay:
...The only person in the world that needs to know that he is gay is ME. And I already know that.
I already send him porn daily.. and he accepts it, but doesn't really acknowlege it. In this way, my young friend will hopefully get the idea that he can be gay, and still think of himself as being straight. Of course, over time.. that delusion would fade away and he would admit to himself that he is gay.
What do YOU think?The only one that needs to know he is gay is YOU? Seriously?
Sending someone porn daily in hopes that he will get the idea that he can be gay. That his delusions fade away...
What do I think - I think the term for that is GROOMING and goes back to all those scary stories they would tell kids about evil faggots recruiting kids to be gay. Are you actually trying to be poster child for the homophobic right???
As @bi4smooth said - examine your motives here.
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@Mrker1234 I think you missed something I posted earlier.
I was not the one who initiated this "grooming".
I have a facebook group, which HE joined, which has zero to to about anything sexual. He decided to ad ME as a friend. I had no idea who he was. We exchanged some typical messages that people exchange all the time. To my astonishment, he then began sending me clips of himself masturbating, and images of his erect cock and ass.. repeatedly.. over the period of months, and continues to do it. I never asked for it, I was plesantly surprised...
So get off my ass about "Grooming" -
@lololulu19 To be fair he might not be interested in the kind of porn you sent, people have different tastes, hehehe.
In all honesty, sexuality is something complicated, you won't be able to break him out of it, that's something that comes from within. If you are worried about him and wants to help, all you can probably do is assure him that he can open up to you, whenever he's ready he'll open up. Everyone deals with it in different ways, he's probably dealing with it in his way.
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@lololulu19 said in Removing the guilt of being gay:
What do YOU think?
Per your earlier post: https://community.gaytorrent.ru/post/292373
"I'm offering him the finest in porn and friendship and helping him out financially - not with money - but with things he needs."
Later on: "And.. being closeted, he will be exclusive to me! Whoopee! He's already told me that I am his exclusive porn model."
He allows you, an older man, to write and send gay porn without judging you, but doesn't reciprocate your more sexualized messaging. He makes you feel special one moment -- but overall, just keeps this discussion puttering along while he receives gifts.
The irony is that while your actions are consistent with grooming, you are actually the one being groomed to be catfished.
Take a step back, and see it for what it is, for your own good.
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@flozen That would be true.. and it has happened to me before.. however it is different in this case.
He has not ASKED for anything.. he's not after money.
He GIVES me nude erotic pics of himself... without me even asking for them.
It's a very strange situation.
I am treating it as if I am opening a door, and it is completely his decision on whether to walk through it or not. -
@flozen oh.. and I considered that he might be catfishing me.. but.. that is not the case. I am 100% sure that it is him messaging me, and those are photos of himself.
He seems to send me stuff everytime he shaves his pubes and balls.. which is when he is extremely horny.
