I was 35 and content to know I was unlikely to ever have children of my own... then (and I'm not joking) the condom broke once, and my daughter was conceived. I married her mother (I did love her, and she/we were great for about 10 years! Then her mother had a stroke and moved in with us, and my wife turned into a very wicked witch). We tried to have more biological kids, but complications during my daughter's birth left her unable to carry more children... so we became foster parents, and along the way we adopted... and adopted... and adopted! All told, I have 9 beautiful children (and one.... no, they're all beautiful, all unique [no full-blood brothers or sisters], and all joys in my life)
I lived a wild live until 35, and you could make a case for it being a WILD almost-25 years since then... but I have no regrets! My kids are all awesome, each in their own way!
It is irritating when people fill up the boards with this kind of stuff.
Agreed. And most of these spam-topic posters don't realize that at five seedpoints per new topic, they would need a whopping 120 just to get to 600 points and a 10 GB reward. Meanwhile, most of them have accrued deficits much deeper than that.
To the topic, yes, overpopulation worries me, how much more can we inflict on this planet? And to bring it all around to this Parenthood board:
You can't prevent bullying for any particular detail. When a kid wants to make fun of another kid, the details are irrelevant. Bullies are sharks, they will find whatever detail makes someone unusual and relentlessly tease them for it.
What's important isn't making them immune to bullies, but making them the kind of person that people don't want to bully.
But how or what can we do this? I am not father already, but think about how a kid can be bullied because of the parents sexuality freaks me out. Specially because as I fight against a depression illness, I got totally worried if the kid (s) can, because of the bullying, got depressed too.
if there is no problem with the girl then just have sex or go to IV clinics.
The original poster made it very clear that the woman they were "partnering" with for pregnancy was a platonic friend, and he wanted to gain information on how to move forward without having sexual intercourse.
Do you truly read other people's posts before you give out useless advice?
I saw the play Dear Evan Hansen last night (brilliant stuff), and one of the central, recurring themes is the weight of parent expectations on the child, and vice versa. And how even families who try to talk through these issues often have difficulty revealing their own selves, and their own "truth".
As applied to this thread, the play reminded me of how much that "wanting to have kids" is such a small, small part of raising a child. It requires such a deep investment, on so many levels, that I would be hesitant to do so if there was a significant "enthusiasm gap" between me and my partner.
Agreed. Personally I think everyone should be sterilized at birth, and the only way of reversing it is no pass a series of competency classes, mental evaluations, a financial back ground check and 5 years of parenting classes. Some people should NEVER have been parents, and I can't imagine what it must be like to be the child in that situation. Trust me when I say THAT issue is a hetero one. Teenage girls who think it is all going to be fun and games, then reality hits and it's all bad.
I know a lot of gay couples who plan to add children, and most of them will make great parents. But having seen what my sisters have been through.. I know it is not for me. I can go grab theirs and spoil them when I want then take them home.. I am good with that.