Posts made by ColinTNM

No there aren't. Gay men were invented by well off middle-class white Americans sometime after the second world war. Strange but true.

I think like everything else it's a spectrum down to personal choice. Some people prefer to be monogamous, others don't. I don't think it matters what humans 'innately' gravitate to, we do all kinds of thing outside our innate nature, so that is neither here nor there.

Heterosexual people have been conditioned for monogamy because it suits the structure of human social bonds since farming was invented probably and we led a more settled lifestyle rather than hunter/gatherer. Whereas homosexual men especially were conditioned in to accepting 'second best' of anonymous or serial encounters mainly out of personal safety and staying under the radar. Both these became fetishized, and now we have the norms we have today.

In reality just like the spectrum of sexuality, some straight people would prefer a more casual sexual lifestyle and some gay people a more monogamous one - feelings are influenced by social norms, but if it was a level playing field, I think we would see a more even split. Much like gender norms.

There is also an element of mental conditioning and 'slave' or colonial mentality about gay men and monogamy, there's a lot of layers to unravel and explore to get to the bedrock of the question - the surface answer of 'gay men can't make babies so we can fuck who we want, when we want' suits some people for a variety of reasons and does not suit others likewise. Personally, I always find it interesting when people tell others what they should be doing because 'everyone else' in their group does it. Says a lot about them.

Hi, I haven't received any message for what must be a few weeks now. Previously everyday I would receive several reseed request messages at least - so whilst I am not complaining about not receiving so many of those, it did strike me as odd that I hadn't received a single one for weeks.

Just wondered if something had changed in how reseed requests are received, or if there is a site-wide issue with messages, or it's just me?!

Thanks

Edit - I did just receive an admin message so I know my inbox still works. I guess reseed requests have changed maybe?

Russia is a failed state and dictatorship (don't worry the USA and UK are only a few years behind), but these two men are true heroes.  :love:

Going through a serious (and completely unnecessary except in serious cases of phimosis) medical procedure to please someone else is never a good idea. If he has warped and ill informed ideas about circumcision that's his problem - not yours. Him acting like this over such a non-issue gives you an idea about his personality, personally I would take it as a red flag warning.

Is there anything going on with message this week - I usually receive a number of reseed requests every week but I haven't had anything in my inbox (so to speak!) for most of the week. Not that I'm complaining, it just seems unusual.  :police:

I think he goes by different names but at one time was wehoerik or something similar (weho = west hollywood).

If he thinks touching his own dick is gay, he's got bigger mental problems than are being displayed here.

The mental knots straight men tie themselves, I honestly don't know how some of them get through the day.

I don't know if he used you or you came on too strong or what, I don't think it matters. Whatever is going on with him is not your fault or doing, his erratic behaviour is his own problem and not caused by you. I would honestly forget about him and move on for your own peace of mind and happiness.

If you are looking for a relationship and not a hook-up, I think you can still use apps but be clear in your profile that you are not just looking for a quick hook-up - you don't have to say you're looking for a commitment that can scare people off even if it's what they want too. If you meet up with someone, take it slow - just have a coffee or a drink or an activity on later dates, don't end up in bed together than first, or even second, or third date. Get to know someone before it gets physical. That's more fulfilling and fun for me any way, hook-ups are like a wank deluxe, I want more than that usually. that's just my preference.

Good luck

There's a difference between a virus being CREATED and USED.

@fuckall:

i shower every day and don't get it. If you get it that fast get it checked

Have to agree. Getting smegma that fast sounds like a medical issue. I can think of a couple of times where I've been sick and didn't get out of bed for a couple of days and I've never seen smegma in my entire life - I assumed it was something you got after weeks, not days.

Shower daily and wash your knob, it's easy most men learn this in childhood.

Outing someone is indefensible. There is only one exception to the rule - if that person is actively harming other gay people with their behaviour, i.e. being a hypocrite. Example - politicians who vote for anti-gay legislation but engage in homosexual activity in their private lives - they deserve to have their careers and reputations destroyed for being a self-hating hypocrite.

I agree raphjd, that's why I thought breaking the categories down too much could become counter-productive.

Two categories of FTM and MTF whilst not perfect would sort out many of those problems and is certainly better than Shemale.

• FTM category: Where at least one performer is Trans male presenting - the majority of scenes in FTM would be classed as gay as the emphasis would be on male-presenting performers.
• MTF category: At least one performer is Trans female presenting - majority of scenes in the MTF category would be straight with some lesbian as the emphasis is on female presenting performers.

In the case of both FTM and MTF performers in the same scene as does happen, it would be at the discretion of the uploader to decide, with maybe a preference towards the MTF category as it would contain both male and female presenting performers and thus for simplicities sake lean more towards "straight" (for want of a better term).

Actually I would like to hear from any trans people on here to see their thoughts on a more appropriate rebranding of the Shemale category too.

Hi. I was wondering if there was any traction for the idea that the Shemale category is out of date in 2019 and should be replaced with one or more categories that would be more appropriate and accurate today?

No doubt when the category was created, the term was more common, especially in porn. But today it is definately seen as an inaccurate and hurtful pejorative.

A simple category rebranding to 'Trans' would be helpful I think. Or further still, as there is a lot more FTM (female-to-male) trans porn these days too, maybe 2 new categories replacing Shemale: FTM Trans and MTF Trans? Whilst I am aware that labels are becoming less important for many these days as gender lines blur and fade, it does still make sense I think to have such descriptive categories of porn, which after all is a product and people do want to be able to find accurately what they are looking for. Breaking down categories even further would seem counterproductive and I think the two categories of FTM and MTF would suffice.

I am in no way blaming anyone for the creation of the Shemale category back when the term was more prevelant, but I think most would agree it is outdated. Any thoughts?

Back to normal for me. Thanks to the site tech guys  :love:

Thanks for the update  :police:

@bobcat666:

I think it would be rough.  Unless the woman was hyper sexual it would lead to the men constantly fucking each other and then constantly talking about how their wife never wants to have sex and how difficult women are, and then the woman is over there starting to think her husbands are just gay.

Your view on the sexes is really stifling for both. Women aren't emotional jelly and men aren't rutting beasts.

@munozkd:

I wasn't a fan of Queer as Folk UK. The US version was waaaay better. Hence why it only got 3 seasons in the UK. Who knows? Maybe the reboot would be better?

I like both versions, but "hence it only got 3 seasons" doesn't make any sense. Firstly, it had two series not three. Secondly it had a finite story to tell, and they told it. There was no need to drag it out in to an endless soap opera with diminishing returns, and its to the writers credit that they didn't do that (hence the ridiculous final scene that almost ruins an otherwise fine sophomore series, which was meant to put a final end to the story).

Much like the US remake of the The Office, the US remake of QAF starts out quite staid and muddled as it tries to shoe-horn Northern British archtypes in to an American world. Again like the Office remake, it fares much better as it leaves behind its origins and forges its own stories for the characters independently in the following seasons.

If Russel T Davies is on board, so am I. I don't think they could ever match the cultural relevance of the original series which was incredibly important for visibility at the time on UK TV, there had never been anything like that before (a rimming scene in the first episode) and very little like it since unfortunately. There is much more acceptance and visibility these days, even if they go for high shock factor, it would be nothing compared to what you can find with a simple google search or loading any number of free apps on your phone. They would have to work a lot harder 20 years later to match the originals impact.

Definately without. I can't stand those stereotypical heady cologne scents.

Absolutely.  :blind: