Posts made by ColinTNM

you tell them if they cannot accept you then they can go fuck themselves and they're going to miss out on being a part of your life and it's entirely their fault because of what closed minded cunts they are. Simple.

next time say "I'm sure she's a great girl but no thank you, I'm not interested"

you don't owe them any bigger explanation than that, it's not rude to say no. Incidently, you don't have to "come out" with the rainbow flags and gold hotpants to be honest about who you are - not coming out and being in the closet are two VERY different things. being in the closet sucks and leads to uncomfortable situations like this (I remember them well from my Uni days) but being honest about who you are doesn't mean everyone has to know your business. think about it.

get new friends.

never understood why people get so pissy about being top/bottom, if you only choose one you're missing half the fun. lighten up lads, it's just sex.

you'd have to be especially paranoid to suck with a condom on. either that or love the taste of rubber  :cheesy2:

Well it's like going to a graveyard to meet the living. Sure you might find the odd breather, but it's main purpose is for the stone cold dead. Hook-up apps - their main purpose is no strings fucks.

I don't know what's wrong with talking to people IRL. Most of my friendships and romantic relationships have come from real life meetings. Again it all comes down to getting from it what you put it. If people hit you on grindr etc and you say "hey great, let's meet for a coffee and a chat" - well they'll either say "yeah let's do it" or they'll break their cover and show they were only it for a webcam wank or whatever. Either way it's your job to weed them out, no one said it would be easy.

@2222:

I'm sorry, but I already said it many times in different threads and different sites that I don't believe in "bi" term. A gay dude attracted to woman doesn't make him "bi" or a straight dude enjoying gay porn and somewhat having curiosity behavior to other dude doesn't make him "bi". There are only two polar, North or South, there is no middle polar. All you need is find yourself deeper with open minded.

That might be how it is for you, but you can't speak for other people because you don't know what's going on in their head.

As someone who ISN'T polar north or south, I can assure you that's how it is for some people even if it isn't for you.

If it's a serious relationship you are going to want to tell her sooner or later. why wouldn't you. Everyone is so gung ho about coming out, but people here are advocating deception and lying in this situation? Double standards, sorry.

It's probably going to take some adjusting and TIME. Even if you were dating a 60yo woman it would take a lot of adjustment for your parents to get used to. But the more they see he is not taking advantage of you, which would probably be their main concern, and that it is a real and loving relationship they will get used to it and grow to accept it. it's no different to them adjusting to any other kind of relationship they hadn't imagined for you. Let your parents have their little temper tantrums and shock and awe about it, it's a natural reaction, they will get over it eventually, and if they don't it's their loss at least you were honest and didn't try to keep it a secret from them which I think would feel more hurtful to a parent than their child finding love, in whatever form they find it.

If you are clear in your profile what you are looking for that should weed out the ones just looking for a quick fuck. you're going to get less hits and replies of course.

dating/hook-up apps are just a tool, people used to (and still do) say the same thing about clubs that you're only going to meet casual hookups but plenty of people find more there too. it's all about putting out what you want to get back.

let them do it on their own terms, it's not your business.

Never thought it was up to much personally, very flimsy stuff. But we need more gay-centric shows on TV. even bad ones! 

I've been getting "500 Internal Server Errors" - 3 or 4 reload attempts usually bring up the site but it's been like it all day.

Have some respect for other customers (and dignity for yourself) and take it home.

@Spintendo:

That's what I thought, thank you for the clarification.

On this subject could I also ask a question regarding duplicate torrents and dates. I recently reported a duplicate that was rejected because of upload dates, but I think it may have been an oversight on the part of the moderator (it happens, I'm not blaming!) because of the "original upload date.

Example of identical torrents:
Torrent #1: Upload date 2015-03-02
Torrent #2: Upload date 2015-05-10, Original upload date: 2012-04-24

Does that make sense? In this situation I would report torrent #1 because torrent #2 has an original upload date well before, even though the upload (refresh?) date is AFTER torrent #1. Am I correct in reporting torrent #1 in this type of instance?

Thanks.

@raphjd:

Why live the hetero lie?

There's a difference between not coming out and living a lie.

imagine: you date guys, you introduce your boyfriends to your friends and family - but you never sit anyone down and reveal "the big secret"
want to know what happens? absolutely nothing. Nobody gives a damn that you're gay because you don't give a damn. it's 2015 and it's completely normal.

being gay isn't unusual and it doesn't make you special, so we should stop treating it so, then everyone else will follow suit. You don't have to "come out" to be open and proud of who you are, it's really not that big of deal.

yes don't worry too much about labels and the little boxes other people will want to put you in. do what you like and what feels right, as long as it's consensual and everyone is enjoying it it doesn't need a name or a label.

natural is best. but if everything else is right, it doesn't really matter.

what sort of risk do you mean. Like the risk of bruising from the pressure, from suffocation or from eating ass for so long?  :cheesy2: