If you are on PREP and do bareback, then STD has chance.
How do you think of that?
PrEP is a defense against only 1 STD: HIV. That said, of the FOUR STD's that are not otherwise curable (the other being: HPV, Herpes, and Hep-B), only this one (HIV) is generally ALSO fatal if not detected and treated quickly.
Let me say at the onset of this reply: whether to take PrEP or NOT to, along with the separate decision whether to wear condoms during sex, or not to do so, is an intensely personal decision. A decision that should be made with the input and consultation of your own personal physician, and based on your own morals, beliefs, and risk acceptance.
What I write below is my own set of beliefs, and is shared as an example: one man's path... and not as an attempt to persuade or dissuade any one from coming to a different set of conclusions in their own path!
IMHO: A great deal of DAMAGE to the male sexual psyche was perpetrated in the 1980's and 1990's in the name of promoting "safe sex" - when, truth be told, sex has never - in the history of mankind - been truly SAFE.
The correct term, and the only one used by medical professionals, is (and always was) safer sex - as in: less risky vs. riskless.
As a result, a generation of men (and some women can be included as collateral damage) have been "raised" to believe that sex is unnaturally risky and downright dangerous! I can't count the number of younger men I've met who are essentially AFRAID (even TERRIFIED!) to have sex! (with or without condoms!)
I'm sorry, but if humanity had ALWAYS been this afraid of sex, then - as a species - we'd have died out a long, LONG TIME AGO!
Do the math: Nearly every one of the 7.7 BILLION people on this planet were put here because some pair of humans had sex - not just any sex, but they fucked! Assuming straight sex produces a pregnancy that goes full term only 1 in 20 times, that's 154 BILLION straight fucks alone in the past 75 years or so... add in the gay sex, and the sex with birth control, and there have likely been about half-a-TRILLION acts of fucking on this planet in the past 75 years! And that doesn't count the non-fucking kinds of sex!
Again: If sex was THAT dangerous, we (as a species) simply would not exist!
That doesn't mean we should go back to the 1970's "free love" era when we (especially we gay men) were fucking almost anyone who would let us! That kind of promiscuity really CAN be dangerous! But surely we - as sensible people - can understand that sex is a natural, instinctive act - even if we're gay! There is nothing "wrong or dirty" about it! It's as basically human as eating food and drinking liquids!
As you can imagine from my writing above, I take PrEP - to prevent HIV infection - because I prefer not to die of HIV (though it is a largely treatable disease today - thankfully!). I have had sex (recently) with an HIV+ person, who was on medication and was undetectable... and we didn't use condoms.
In my opinion, the safest people to have unprotected (condomless) sex with are the people on meds: HIV- on PrEP and HIV+ on HIV meds and are undetectable. These people are actively working to protect themselves and others from HIV, and because of their medication regimens, they routinely get tested for HIV - as well as other STDs.
Men who proclaim themselves HIV- but haven't been recently tested - and who are not using condoms - are playing Russian Roulette with their HIV status... they put themselves and others potentially at risk by not using condoms. Further, they play this "risk-game" essentially "trusting" that their partner is telling them (or even knows) the truth about their HIV (much less other STD) status.
Men who know that they are HIV+, and either are not on HIV medication, or haven't yet achieved "undetectable" status are putting others at real risk by not using condoms. There are some men out there who are perfectly willing to do this, and to LIE to their partners while doing so. I personally think lying about your HIV status is criminal... your mileage may vary.
As for the other (non-HIV) STD's, I take my chances... tho, I do take some precautions - like not hooking up with every Tom, Dick, and Harry who hits me up on Grindr or Tinder - but, when there is a genuine attraction, I have sex... without condoms usually, though I honor and respect the wishes of my partner should they prefer the use of condoms.
I want to re-iterate: the decision to NOT use condoms is my personal choice, and it is a decision made with the input of my doctor of choice.
If you'd have made a different decision, I respect that... but I no more want to convince you that my choice is right for you than I want to hear you try to convince me that your decision is right for me.
FINALLY: Before anyone goes there - this is totally NOT analogous to COVID-19; HIV is an STD, where COVID-19 is a highly communicable, aerosol spread disease. The only similarity is that they're both caused by viruses. That said, the common cold has more in common with COVID-19 than the HIV virus!
I want to say again that I appreciate the differing beliefs and experiences of others - so long as they are shared, as I have shared here, as an example of what decision you made (and, perhaps why). But in any case, not as an attempt to persuade or dissuade others from making their own, informed decisions and choices.
@bi4smooth In a way I get it: If you are a parent you are happy/ecstatic/scared all of that and more and some nurse comes along and asks you 'do you want to circumcise your child?'. And of course! You want the best for your child and it's payed by the healthcare insurance so why not? Yes! you say! I want what's best for my son!
There! In that simple arc of a story is where the parent is being EVIL. Did you catch it?
You invaded the personal freedom of a new person! The fact that you are his parent does not give you the right to invade/impose on his freedom. That's EVIL.
If later on the kid wants to do it. Great! More power to you!
You're obviously not a parent
What-if that child grows up to be a VEGAN and you've fed them MEAT and DAIRY all through their childhood!
What if you raise your child a "good Christian" and she turns Atheist at 14?
You can play what if-s all you want... if you, as a parent, are doing what you feel is best for your child, then you are decidedly NOT EVIL
And your self-righteous, judgemental soul can deal with it... and may your God have mercy on your soul!
The most common Side Effect is is nausea and diarrhea. Most symptoms resolve within one to two months. To avoid symptoms, take before bed (if you are asleep... how do you know you had nausea?) or on a full stomach like the cherry on top of the ice cream at the end of a large meal.
they also use drugs (and injections EEK!) to increase the volume
Maybe shouldn't ask, but now I am morbidly curious.... what substances would increase the volume?
I don't know - I'm not involved in any current-day porn production (as I have said: in the late 1980's I was in a porn flick [or 2], and in the 2000's I was a part-time recruiter [talent scout] as well, but nothing but an illicit consumer these days)...
But I do know some current-day porn performers, and they tell me that some studios will LITERALLY inject something (I don't know what, and I cannot - for the LIFE of me - understand why anyone would submit to this) directly into your penis to give you a "better" erection (and, apparently, a move voluminous ejaculate)...
@vmalar I was skeptical of your question -- until I got the old search engine going, and found that "kegels for men" are indeed quite real, and useful for a variety of conditions or overall male wellness.
Kegel exercises work specific muscle groups in the pelvic floor area to help strengthen and tone this region. This helps incontinence and bowel control, but clearly there's an opportunity for new erotic horizons, as well:
When doing Kegel exercises, a man will feel his penis “jump” and slightly raise. It’s more visible with an erect penis than a flaccid penis, and you will see and/or feel a slight, upward movement. Gaining more control may also help a man to last longer in bed.
So, for anyone with an interest, take a look at the links below. The first three are for reading, and the last is (ahem) a short video clip:
I cannot imagine a more personal decision to have or make.
Some things to consider about circumcision:
It is primarily a cultural and/or religious decision (e.g.: it is a ritual part of the Jewish religion, very common in Islam, and previously was a highly-common cultural practice in America (US)... although the percentages in the US are down to about 50%, and continue to drop ca. 2021).
Because it is/was a US Cultural preference, there are all kinds of false reports of benefits to circumcision (increased sensitivity, health/safety benefits, claims that women prefer circumcised, even reports that children who were circumcised grew larger penises!) - the vast majority of these reports in favor of circumcision are false or misleading (for example: report of circumcised men having fewer health concerns than uncircumcised ones are usually based on conditions that are easily resolved by simply teaching young boys HOW to clean their penis - the same way young girls have to learn HOW to care for their vaginas to prevent health problems).
There are some (rare) medical conditions for which circumcision is the preferred treatment.
There is ABSOLUTELY NO consensus world-wide - even in medical communities - about whether there are medical benefits to being or not-being circumcised.
Long story short: if it was done to you as a child/baby, you don't have a say. Sorry, but blame your parents, or pediatrician, or religious leader...
If it was NOT done to you as a baby, you can choose to have this done to you... but really, why?
In case you're wondering, as a 50+ year old white US citizen, I was circumcised as a baby. I've never known anything different. But, I have known 2 men who have had the procedure done AS ADULTS, and both later regretted it. (Your mileage may vary, of course).
@clockedin Ah, another person who turned to dota 2. I remember dumping hundreds of hours on that when things were rough. Nothing like having complete strangers on the internet say the worst things over voice chat to make a bad mood worse.
Honestly, a nice, calming hobby goes a long way with keeping dark thoughts at bay. People crave a sense of purpose, visible progression, and entertainment to keep their mental state well. A good hobby will help with all of this.
Always talk to a doctor. It could be many things, even (depending where you live) the change of the season, the heat from the summer time… But it may be something more serious than simply feeling tired "because of the weather".
Making an appointment with a doctor would be the best thing to do to find out what's happening.
Considering the author does not say his age, this is likely an apt suggestion.