@ianfontinell-0 the "shared debt" problem with a marriage reminds me of something else...

if an unmarried couple both sign a lease for an apartment - and they break up (as happens quite often), and one moves out.. then what happens?

@CrusaderRab Congratulations! You guys are an inspiration!

Unfortunately not, in Bulgaria gay marriage is not legal.

I feel like with the global housing crisis as it is, we're returning to a place where cohabitation becomes a financial imperative. I'd be the first to advocate for independent dwellings to allow greater freedom for radical polyamory, but instead we're weighed down by the gravity of financial necessity.

So touching

Please don't make this thread political.

If you want to be political about it, post in the thread in the politics section.

@flozen Yah. Her being there was effing awesome. 😏 🤘

Great news!

Yes (United States). Do I ever want to marry again? Hell to the NO.

I mean, probably, but right now, I just wanna be on my own.

I'm not a big fan of marriage, either, but feel the Original Poster is calling it "meaningless" as a statement of fact, when it's really a subjective opinion.

I guess you mean whether marriage equality is legal and moral, right?

Obviously both: it should be legal in those countries where it is not legal yet. And of course it should be morally accepted. In any case, I don't understand what moral has to do with it.

@coolparty123:

Any pointers for a strong relationship?

Communication, Talk, talk talk - about everything and anything - Even death and funeral arrangements or cancer etc etc.
Don't let sex be top priority or it will erode everything you've built.
Try always to see from each other's perspective, and it's ok if you don't absolutely like the same things - just don't be condescending about it or harbour nastiness - otherwise, you're harbouring destructive traits and you really should live alone (as you will find this in every person you grow with)
In ways of supporting your partner, sometimes, you might have to sacrifice your patience, or some of your time, or time with your friends, to be with this "best friend and lover" , but nothing too drastic -
As long as each partner aims at putting forth 60% to care for each other, then there's overlap for when times are super tough.
As your relationship transcends years as opposed to weeks, you start to acquire history. It can be overwhelming as you might wonder what you might be missing looking at the green grass over yonder. It's nothing, you're not missing much at all. You also will have to start ALL over again from the beginning, only to survive 3 years more with the new guy before you find out you don't like it every time he smells his fingers after he eats chicken 😉

You should also talk to your partner about monogamy (if that is what you both seek) and revisit this subject every few years. WE men  do tend to get a tad boring, so sometimes a  relationship needs reassurance that the sex hasn't become something that isn't working anymore or is no longer "enough"  - People do change - or … People finally show their true colours.... 😞

I could go on and on. I will stop for now... 😉

Agreed to raphjd's comments above, with particular attention to whether the domestic partnership law legally entwines you in any financial aspects, present or future.  As well, was this partner named in your medical Living Will?  For receiving the disposition of your remains?  Is he in your estate's will?  (And if you don't have those documents, for heaven's sake, get them drawn, no matter your age.)

The formal dissolution of the domestic partnership is a prudent step to protect your assets and formally reestablish your "single" status.  It will likely require filing the related paperwork at City Hall or other state agency.  Consult a lawyer in the city/state where the partnership was signed – you may both need to "co-sign the divorce," fun, fun -- and then know that you're truly free and clear.

Only be in an LDR if there is strong potential for the long-distance aspect to end. For example, waiting through college. Otherwise, it is not worth it. After all, you don't want your lifestyle to just be LDR.

Yes that is true. The current political set up is bad for liberty. Hinduism talks about including all possibilities. But political set up is against of some many beautiful possibilities.

I'll watch it.  :love:

@bobcat666:

I think it would be rough.  Unless the woman was hyper sexual it would lead to the men constantly fucking each other and then constantly talking about how their wife never wants to have sex and how difficult women are, and then the woman is over there starting to think her husbands are just gay.

Your view on the sexes is really stifling for both. Women aren't emotional jelly and men aren't rutting beasts.