@turkishboyb said in How long does your pre-sex hygiene ritual take?:
mine is alas 30-40 mins max, and i hate it
im vers bottom but i still hate it cause it requires a lot of effort. while women dont have to do anything why we have to do this, not fair lol
Keeping a vagina clean inside and out still requires a little prep and clean, so yes it's less than than the prep for anal, but they're not "doing nothing".
@trader42 said in Shower before sex or after ?.:
Showering before and after is being presented as the maximal option here. But how about:
1. Each partner briefly showers.
2. Share a bath together in a beautiful outsized copper bathtub, with a bottle of champagne, slowly getting used to each others' intimacy.
3. Go to the bedroom to have sex once it feels right.
4. Shower again, washing each other tenderly.
5. Take advantage of one's newly clean state to put on fresh pyjamas and laze around together.
Is this the Red Shoe Diaries?
@ricky Thanks for the info Ricky 
Hi. I think the title says it all, but just to expand a little - this only happens occasionally, but sometimes a torrent shows that it has comments on the listing, but when I click to see the torrent page itself, there are no comments showing.
Not sure if this is a bug or the comments are hidden for some reason? (Wasn't aware of this feature if that is so.)
Wondering if anyone else experiences this sometimes?
Thanks
Glad I'm circumcised ;D …..never dealt with this
Cut dicks can also get smega sorry to inform you.
@tobert0 said in How do you shave your balls?:
I hope it helped and sorry if my explanations or vocabulary is not too clear ( English is not my first language and it is hard to find the right words to express myself).
Your English is excellent, so don't apologize
Yes I love moobs and men chests in general, it's the main thing on a man that drives me wild. Am I a dick or an ass man? NO I'm a tit man! 
There is no overall average. And you can't always tell just by looking at their face. Some guys with perfect coverage beards are totally smooth on their chest, some bald guys are super hairy everywhere else etc.
If you're wondering if you're "normal" - you are.
Aww that's sad news, he was great as Mouse. :love:
The site feels really snappy loading today and the listings are back to without all the preview images. Just about perfect at the moment. :police:
oh, I did a search and the thumbnails are back in the results listing. It seems sometimes it's on and sometimes it's off?
See this thread for more info: https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=66407
Not a fan of the images being on the Search page, but because I think that people should be able to see them if they want to then I'd like the option to turn them off via a setting.
yeah ..don't worry.. at the end you will find some toggles on that page where you can switch between long and short description, if you want to see pics, all pics or no pics. etc… give it some time. it'll evolve for the better.
Glad to hear about this, I was wondering why it keeps changing for me - sometimes it was like the old design with no preview images on the list, and other times they were there making the list very long to scroll. I agree having the option there for those that like them is good.
That was my only gripe really, everything else is fine, the font size is more manageable. Appreciate the work being put in to making the site more usable and modern
In addition to what everyone else has said i will also add that it isn't all just down to you, your partner also has to accept that this is new to you and his role isn't to just fuck you and cum. His main job is to give you pleasure, because the more you get the more you will give back. Bad tops just grind away, good tops send bottoms to planet 9 and back before they themselves cum. :police:
I don't.
I find labels dissatisfying, but if they work for you, happy for you.
Try to breath from the pit of your stomach. When we are anxious we often breath from high in our chest and we're tense further down. Try to breath slower and lower and focus on your asshole making sure the muscles in your pelvic region aren't tensed up.
Give your asshole time to accept the feeling of their dick inside you before they start actually fucking. A top's focus should be on your pleasure, not their own - if they want to get in there and pound away immediately, that's pretty boring on their part. Are you letting your partners know you are a little uncomfortable or anxious? If you let them know they might take it a bit slower to let you accomodate.
Try sitting on them, without riding, and just kiss and cuddle with you in control of when and how much you move, rock back and forth slowly if you like. Have fun. When your body feels more relaxed you can go to other positions for the actual fucking. You can even do the same thing in a missionary position, with them inside you and only fucking when you are ready.
Anxiety about making a mess is totally normal. Try not to eat anything too spicy or loose the day or two before (anal sex is never spontaneous I'm afraid). You know your own body and how it reacts to your diet, for me it's minced beef! I wouldn't even look at a spaghetti bolognese or cottage pie if I knew I was bottoming, lol. If you are not confident, then just say you don't want to fuck this time - there's a million other things to do besides penetration, they all end in an orgasm. :love:
No there aren't. Gay men were invented by well off middle-class white Americans sometime after the second world war. Strange but true.
I think like everything else it's a spectrum down to personal choice. Some people prefer to be monogamous, others don't. I don't think it matters what humans 'innately' gravitate to, we do all kinds of thing outside our innate nature, so that is neither here nor there.
Heterosexual people have been conditioned for monogamy because it suits the structure of human social bonds since farming was invented probably and we led a more settled lifestyle rather than hunter/gatherer. Whereas homosexual men especially were conditioned in to accepting 'second best' of anonymous or serial encounters mainly out of personal safety and staying under the radar. Both these became fetishized, and now we have the norms we have today.
In reality just like the spectrum of sexuality, some straight people would prefer a more casual sexual lifestyle and some gay people a more monogamous one - feelings are influenced by social norms, but if it was a level playing field, I think we would see a more even split. Much like gender norms.
There is also an element of mental conditioning and 'slave' or colonial mentality about gay men and monogamy, there's a lot of layers to unravel and explore to get to the bedrock of the question - the surface answer of 'gay men can't make babies so we can fuck who we want, when we want' suits some people for a variety of reasons and does not suit others likewise. Personally, I always find it interesting when people tell others what they should be doing because 'everyone else' in their group does it. Says a lot about them.