We have a bidet in this house and our previous house.
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In the ABSENCE of a bidet, I use baby-wipes (or an equivalent) to clean after defecating.
If I'm stuck in public and can ONLY use paper, I'll wet it (even spit on it) to TRY to improve its effectiveness, but once I get home I literally MUST go clean myself. I feel DISGUSTING if all I've used is plain, dry paper!
My old house had a bidet (attached to the toilet, not a separate item)... my current one does not, and the bathroom is not "architected" in such a way as to make it feasible - and its a rental, so I can't remodel.
FWIW: I won't rim a guy unless I've wiped his ass with a moist towelette or baby wipe or wet cloth... SOMETHING! EWWW.... :)
Thanks for the post! Interesting topic, given that the US id kinda famous around the world for our LACK of bidets! But that's changing... albeit slowly, it it changing!
I'm not a specialist, I can only speak from personal experience, researching and going to the dermatologist for a decade now.
I'd make sure that at your night routine (if you do that) your skin is really clean, a double cleansing perhaps would help. Maybe also a toner for your skin type.
We have a similar age and I noticed this year that, my under the eye skin is changing, so I'd consider an eye cream, especially because you're white.
I also noticed that when I apply cream at night, instead of serums, my skin just feels and looks better.
And, if you can, treat yourself to a good sheet mask once a week. The way I do it is, I put it in the fridge, leave it there for a while, make sure is cold enough, wash my face and just chill is my mask on.
Showering before and after is being presented as the maximal option here. But how about:
1. Each partner briefly showers.
2. Share a bath together in a beautiful outsized copper bathtub, with a bottle of champagne, slowly getting used to each others' intimacy.
3. Go to the bedroom to have sex once it feels right.
4. Shower again, washing each other tenderly.
5. Take advantage of one's newly clean state to put on fresh pyjamas and laze around together.
Most of the year, I keep my beard pretty short (~1 - 2 cm), so I just shampoo/condition it with my hair. Over the summer holidays, though, I usually let my beard grow out, and then I do use beard balm.
I find it keeps my beard much softer. It also seems to make it a little easier to manage; without it, my hair immediately curls in every direction and looks even thinner than it actually is.
I don't know what the ingredients are, but I assume it's mostly just a hydrophobic barrier to keep the hairs from drying out. If you have a somewhat longish beard and it's not as soft as you like or it's not growing as long as you'd like, I say try it out. Note, you only need the tiniest amount, so it usually lasts a good while.
You have to find a sport or activity that works for you. Help you keep active even if it is just to improve your health. Another thing is finding a diet or style of eating that works for you. Piece by piece changing your diet and habits in order to make them healthier.
After that the weight should slowly decrease. But I suggest you focus more in improving the way you feel and your well being.
People still practice it, mostly religious groups from around the globe. I know that in africa, it was done for initiation into manhood, however people bled to death, men and women, because at that time, science/medical sources weren't available.