Posts made by raphjd

Wow, multiple posts with multiple points.

It does seem by some of your responses that you are a bit desperate to make this the normal type of relationship.

Multiple partner-type relationships have died out? This is news to me.

For the most part YES, they have.  However, the place they do thrive is relationships such as the middle east where a single male dominates everyone else in the relationship.

Do you think muslim or FLDS/mormon women are empowered enough to disagree with their male owners?

Have you heard of "honor killings"?

So where are all these relationships where people can honestly make the choice freely on their own?!

Read the bible some time and you'll see that 1 man and many women was the normal type of "marriage" in the early days.  Move more to Jesus' day and those types of relationships are in the minority.

If the benchmark for a type of relationship's usefulness is that it continues to occur, then open-type relationships are continually useful to some segment of the population.

Open relationships do happen, but they aren't common or the norm.

I think you're confusing jealousy with avarice, which is the desire to possess. As long as avarice remains the top goal of humanity, attempts at entering into and sustaining open-type relationships will continue.

Because I'm not a whore and don't want a whore for a partner, that means, according to you, that I need to posses my partner?!

Your stance is more than clear on this topic.

I'm going over this last point of yours again because I feel it's a very important one that you've made – one for a suspension of belief -- and it deserves more than just a passing glance from me. Your assertion is that we should suspend our belief of people who say they weren't coerced because they may be "just saying that" and not really meaning it. Thus, (and duly noted by you above to have been shown before) anyone who says they weren't coerced should not be taken at face value - because we cannot know for sure if they're telling the truth. More importantly though, and I suggest overlooked by you, is that this line of reasoning requires us also to "not believe" people who say that they were coerced, and offer this "not-believing you" equally amongst the other people who said that they were coerced - because your line of reasoning requires us not to- and makes mandatory the suspecting of anything that anyone says because they may "just be saying it." In other words, the only knowable thing about a given is that it can never be known, a proposition of yours that I would argue is absolutely correct.

Now if i have followed you correctly (and I hope that I have) is what I've paraphrased above right? Or is it more your point (and I'm guessing that it probably is) that anyone who says that they were coerced should always be believed while anyone who says that they weren't coerced is a liar.

Go back to the hundreds of millions of muslim and FLDS/mormon women and tell me they had an honest say in their situation they found themselves in.

Oddly, you want us to believe all the muslim women that under threat of stoning to death (FLDS/mormons have other ways of dealing with their women) when they say in front of their husband that they are willing partners, but anyone who claims they were coerced/forced is a liar.

Until you can get rid of the billions of women throughout history that were forced into polygamy, then the weight of proof is heavily stacked on my side.

If these same people said that they didn't agree, wouldn't that also mean that pro rata the same people could have just "said" that they didn't really want it, but really did? Couldn't it also mean that they actually did agree and didn't mean it simply because "they just said it"?

People will say and do anything to make their partner happy, even if it makes them miserable.  It's part of human nature and the thing we call love.

A lot of hetero men eat pussy because their women want them to, not because they like it.  Same thing goes with blowjobs.

Huntsman sounds pretty good so far.  If he was the Repub candidate, I'd vote for him.

It's not a straw man until you prove that all three willingly entered into the "three" relationship.  Just because they say they agree, doesn't mean they actually did, as my point showed.  I'm god.  Does that mean I am really god or believe I am?  Nope, it just means I said it.

If these "three" relationships are so great, then why have they failed to take off considering throughout history they have been cropping up, with the most notable in the communes of the 1960s/70s.  Historically, we know that multiple partners existed, but died out.  If you were right, then "Big Love" would be the norm, not the minuscule exception to the rule.

Humans are by nature very jealous.  This is a primitive biological imperative, to make sure it's our seed that is spread and not every other male's seed.

I don't know of a couple that has lasted that is "open".  My monogamous relationship and those of many of our friends are still going strong.

Obama doesn't support gay marriage now that he's on the national stage.  He did support it while he was at the state level though.

Can we say "thrown under the bus for votes"?

Great, just what we need, more reasons to mutilate baby boys.

"Open" relationships are 2 people where one or both can whore around.

This "three" relationship is a hoax.  Humanity tried it in the 1960s, as well as a variety of other times throughout history and it never worked.  Humans, by nature, are jealous.

I'll tell you about one couple I knew in an open relationship.  Chris and Fred decided to open their relationship, meaning they both could fuck whomever they wanted, as long as it wasn't brought home.  Fred didn't want this but grudgingly accepted it to make Chris happy.  On the flip side, Chris never in a million years wanted Fred to have sex with anyone else, that was a NO NO.  After about a year or two, Fred decided what the hell and he started being a man slag and that lead to the downfall of their relationship.

Her's my "laying on the couch listening to music" headphones;

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They were £80 back in October when I got them for my birthday.

Here's my "going to work" headphones;

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Again, they were cheaper back in October.

My over the ear headphones are the 2nd best I tried at the shop.  The best ones were the Dennon's that cost £250.

Brand name plays a huge factor in cost.  Dre, Bose, Sony and some others are well known for adding on a lot to their products.  Some of it's out of greed and some of it's out of "if it costs a lot, then it's better" sales tactics.   I know someone that shops for wine that way.

Sound quality is subjective.  I love Dennon because they make headphones that suit my Music taste and hearing status.  Being 44yo and suffering from some hearing loss, especially at the high end, I don't want/need deep bass headphones.   Top that off with the fact that I don't listen to dance/trance music, the it makes no sense for me to bother with them.

run-of-the-mill

cost about $300

My Dennon headphones cost £80 and they are fine.

From the standpoint of logic it can be argued that if one person can have love for two parents equally or for two siblings equally then the same should hold for two boyfriends or girlfriends equally.

Umm, my dad was my favorite parent as we had similar interests.  My older brother was my favorite for the same reason, not to mention my younger brother was a massive tattle tale.

This compersion is similar to the joy that parents feel when their children get married

Umm, you mean the evil parents that ridicule their child's partner for every and anything?  I'm sure you know the stereotypes about mother in laws.  If you don't, then you need to watch some movies and/or tv shows.  There are countless ones to choose from.

as such restrictions can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control.

You said that about monogamy, but I'd say it's the complete opposite.

Most of the couples I know that have "open" relationships, one of the partners only grudgingly agreed to it.

One partner wanted to whore, while the other wanted a monogamous relationship, but only gave in to make their slut of a partner happy while making themselves miserable.

The precedent is already set though, with herpes back in the 80s.  You have to disclose, even if not asked.  So I don't see how HIV would be under different rules.

Even if there wasn't the precedent, people that are infected with a disease should always tell their partner before hand and use safer sex.

I played the demo of "The Run" and that made me decide not to buy it.

I'm guessing that's why so many games no longer have demos, because they let us know which games are rubbish.

NOTE:  I don't know you in real life, nor have I had any contact with you here.  This means my comments can only be generalizations.

A lot of people want relationships.  In fact, I'd say that most do.

You have to consider the environments you are searching for this relationship.  Night clubs are not really the places to find one, just a fuck behind a dumpster (skip).

Another obvious answer is; how desperate are you for a relationship?  That shows through as well.  Oddly, though not surprisingly, you are more likely to get admirers when you are in a relationship than when you are looking for one.  This is because you aren't in the desperate search mode.  Don't be the woman (not calling you a woman, just using the scenario) that turns up on her first date wearing her wedding dress and yammering on about all the baby names she wants for her kids?

Here are some direct comments after looking at your website;

None of your pictures have you smiling, at least not real smiles.  That's a turn off.

You should tidy up your website.  Sadly, people will use any typos to automatically label you as "thick" and therefore dismiss you.

You seem hostile toward what you call the "gay scene".  Most gays are not part of the media created gay scene, like you see in QAF or other series and movies.  The real gay scene is pretty harmless and vanilla; ie going to movies and dinner with a group of friends.

You are 39, but you want someone a minimum of 4 years younger than you?  This is so the 2 of you can experience life together?  I don't see what life experiences you and an 18yo can do together that you can't do with a fellow 39yo.  You want a young boyfriend, that is all there is to it.  Experiencing life together isn't a real issue.  I'm sure you'd agree if you were being honest.

Yet they deported that Australian man that lived with his long time American lover who had AIDS.

Soloway based the request to dismiss the case on Alcota's marriage to her U.S. citizen spouse, Cristina Ojeda, her deep ties to her community, the absence of any adverse factors and her activism against the Defense of Marriage Act, signed into law in 1996.

That is an odd stance to take.

Since I'm against the "war on drugs" (not for drug use reasons, but rather we should legalize and tax drugs), I can start doing heroin and the courts won't mind?

Sadly, gay animals are treated better than gay humans.

However, Obama has stopped short of backing gay marriage, saying only that his personal views on the matter are evolving.

Why does he insist on repeating this tired fucking old lie?!

He used to support gay marriage, that is until he decided to run for the US Senate. That is when he threw us under the bus to gain votes in the conservative southern half of the state.

His stance on gay marriage evolved as a political ploy to get votes, nothing more.

This concept has been proven several times.

Black centric African nations aren't doing themselves any favors.

The reason AIDS spreads so quickly in black centric African nations is that they have the insane concept that if your brother dies, regardless of cause, you marry his wife(s) and have lots of sex with them.

As a gay man, I resent my hard earned tax money going to African nations that hate me and my kind.  Sadly, that supposedly makes me a racist.

It's ironic that they are not forced to hold them if they don't want to, but they demand that churches that want to hold them can't.  The Quakers, MCC and many other churches fully support full gay marriage and want to do civil partnerships, but the religious nazis won't let them.

Religious freedoms are only for those that hate gays.

As we know, hating any other group is generally frowned upon by the public and illegal.

I've been playing Skyrim on xBox 360 since 2 days before release.

Bethesda seems to have forgotten what "quality control" means.  Many quests are screwed up in some way (Red Eagle quest keeps partially coming back whenever you get the book, crimson nirnroot quest doesn't count them properly as I have 38 but the game says I only have 12, etc, etc, etc), the graphics are wonky in a lot of places (talking to people that are nothing more than 2 short sticks,  or dead dragons that are pitch black of the abyss).  On top of this, quest items, many that weight massive amounts, aren't being removed from your inventory and can't be removed because they are quest items.  I have about 80lbs (or 80 kilos, however you want to view it), and growing, of quest items taking up space that could be used for carrying loot.

We (360 users) just got our first patch (3mb) and all it did was fix 2 problems that I didn't even know existed.  When I say "I didn't even know existed", I'm including all the people on the internet that have been talking about the game too.

I was disappointed in it as well.

They definitely were going for the mass market, rather than the die-hard Dr Who franchise fans.  I guess that's what happens to British stuff when it crosses the pond.

I wonder how much of it has to do with the BBC pushing Russell T Davies (creator/writer of QAF and many others) out of Dr Who, even though he's the one that brought it back and made it the massive success that it is.  From that, he created Torchwood and the Sarah Jane Adventures.  The Sarah Jane Adventures sadly died with Elisabeth Sladen earlier this year.  The BBC can't take Torchwood away from Russell, but they do own all the rights to Dr Who.

As a side note, the Red Dwarf movie would have been made years ago, IF the creators would have agreed to do a total recast.  Hugh Grant was to play Lister.  I don't remember the rest of the recast, but Hugh Grant as Lister really sticks in my mind.