Nothing.

So I should feel better? lol

When you showed your pic, did they ignore you or I wonder this is just me? I think this happens to avarage or below avarage guys. I've never have an "instagram guy/gay" charm, I think. This happens on Facebook sometimes. Some gays add my account, and nothing! I think they couldn't find, what they want!!!

@sakyo:

Certainly not just in your country, it's a universal thing. It's difficult to form relationship for gay guys especially if you in the closet, as you can't take friendship further like heterosexuals do,  where you get to know others as friends, and you observe them in their day to day activities and find out more about their personality and what they are like as a person. Online connections seem to be one of the most convenient and popular way for gay guys to connect but unfortunately the only deciding factor here is their appearance, if you don't fit a certain profile you will be automatically ignored. Women tend to go through stages where they want to settle down, and start to focusing on characters like ability to provide for family, stability etc, and settle with someone that offers more than just a pretty shell, with gay guys generally that is not an issue that's as important, so they probably would still rank appearance ahead of other qualities.

Very good explanation.

Can't oldies change themselves?  ;D Joke aside I don't agree with heterosexuals and homosexuals are same on this matter. I have more women lover than man and I feel like I attract women more. I don't know why Most gays look for the same. Muscular for muscular. Handsome for handsome. To me this is a stupid narcissistic behaviour.

Also, remember shit books generally have a better covers but I agree to some degree. My look was shit in my 20s and now I believe I look better myself, more selfconfidience. But gays are never change.

Well, I'm from Turkey, Izmir. I don't know how does it work in US and other countries but as I know, in my country lots of gays are snob and big head. If you are avarage guy (like me!) and you are not handsome or muscular it's nearly impossible to get a reply someone who is above the avarage. Secondly, most talks go nowhere. You should make sex immediately or the talk will end up soon. I don't know. I was never kind of a person who dates only one night. Yes, I did but i liked my partner but they never called again. What is this? Is this a normal procedure in gay life? Yes, I'm not young, I'm 37 years old but still can't understand what is going on. After all these, I loose my energy to meet or date a new one. Where do I do wrong?

So can I get your honest comments? Thanks.

7 minute workout couple of a week

@rayday88:

It truly requires commitment from you and your partner to make it as painless as possible.

I started out as a total bottom, and the first time, it was with a guy who knew what he was doing. He got plenty of lube in me and on his cock and watched my reactions carefully.  He eased it in gradually, and left it in when my sphincter was being stretched.  It hurt at first, but I became accustomed to it rather quickly, as we stayed stationary until the initial wave of pain had passed.  There was very little pain after that, as he gradually made his thrusts deeper so that I could acclimate to the feeling, and it felt so good.  He made sure to be expressive because of my love for making other people happy, and I was so focused on how good the two of us were feeling that I came pretty quickly, setting him off.

My next encounter was the next night, with another guy, who didn't care about my pleasure.  While his dick was shorter, it was fatter, and he didn't even lube up or give me any sort of warning.  He just shoved it in and went to town.  It was painful for far longer than it needed to be, and it only really started to feel good when he started to ooze copious amounts of precum in my ass. He kept pounding me for maybe twenty more seconds and then flipped me over and his cum gushed all over me.  I realized that I have a huge fetish for cum and stayed the night.  We did it again in the morning before I left for work, but I couldn't even enjoy it because my ass was so sore.

Eventually my body learned how to adapt to bottoming.  I wish I knew what words to tell you, other than it takes time, and effort.  Also, making the motion for pushing out while he's pushing in actually helps with getting it in deeper, since it widens the pathway.  But my most important point is that it takes two to make it a pleasurable experience.  Do it with someone who wants you to feel the least amount of pain and the most amount of pleasure.  If you're choosing to do it with someone you love, then your goals should not be to get off, but to make the experience enjoyable for the other partner.

Btw, it turns out I'm versatile.  And I'm really up for doing whatever I know will please my partner.  Lately I've been topping so much that I'm starting to miss the awesome feeling of being a bottom.

Nice! I think you're a lucky person for being a versatile.

i couldnt stand the smell

Do you use anything such as creams, oils etc. for your penis care? If so, what do you suggest to keep it in good condition?