Posts made by furfiend

I hate that "dad bod" has come to mean out of shape, rather than the original description.  I personally like a nice balance of both muscle and fat, and I'm currently working on trying to improve my own ratio.

Cliché, but I'm a sucker for big arms (biceps/triceps).  Lots of good ones, though.

@JohnAllenson:

There's only two problems I can think of:

1/  Your partner considers watching porn to be something he doesn't want you to do.  (I'd find a new partner rather than such an insecure control freak.)
2/  You collect porn that is seriously disturbing/illegal:  kiddie-porn, bestiality, scat, revenge porn, blood sports….

You forgot…
3/  You use porn to hide/deny the fact that you're not attracted to your current partner.

Don't know what to tell you on the last issue, if the guy isn't willing to try other positions.  I guess don't be afraid to shove his legs apart or shove his back down if it helps, though.

On the sensitivity front, there are desensitising sprays and gels (usually designed to help you last longer).  You might just try a fleshlight and lots of practise, though.  Eventually, it should start feeling more and more pleasurable, especially if you make good associations with it.  And pee before you play.

A little bit older, but Dirty Hairy from AWV was both hot and hilarious.  Sort of a Naked Gun/Airplane!-style parody of noir detective films.  ("It was all for naught?  Oh well, anything for naught.")

My ex and I also had some good laughs at Whorrey Potter and the Sorcerer's Balls.

There is no right or wrong move.  …except in this case.  Run.  If he contacts you again, just say, "Not interested."  Nothing more than that.  He'll probably try to rope you in, make you feel guilty, pull you into a debate.  "Not interested."

Those types of manipulators have a hard time giving up control, or even perceived control.  Hell, my mother worked with a guy like that who attacked anyone who didn't lick his boots.  Later it turned out he had been seducing boys into sex trafficking for decades, and managed to talk his boyfriend into a murder-suicide pact when he was caught.

As a top, no.  30 seconds and I'm flaccid.  Although in some cases after a short break, I'm ready for round two.

As a bottom, I can usually keep going.  Depends how tired I am and how much I'm into the top.

@swegay:

A cock in the ass, one in the mouth and someone taking care of my cock 

That's the dream, right there!

Although, I have double-teamed my ex with his boyfriend, and that was pretty hot.

@chaus:

I don't really want to think of female genitalia when having sex with a guy…or at all really.

:true:  Basically.

What type of game did you have in mind?  (Sex simulator?  Gay dating sim/erotica?  Strip game?  Fighter?  Arcade?)

@nhhandyman:

I have never liked jock straps. I have large balls and the elastic fabric is very itchy.

Have you tried some of the newer models?  There's a wide variety of cuts and comfortable fabrics nowadays.  If there was something that attracted you to them (low waistlines, versatile leg straps, or general sexiness), you might give them a second chance.

@JohnAllenson:

Depends on how allergic I am to the cologne.  Sneezing fits are not sexy. :blownose:

Same answer here, though in my case it tends to be more itchy skin.

A nice cologne (not too strong) can be a big turn-on.  But then, so can a man's natural odours.

Body hair is a huge turn-on for me.  Back, shoulders, ass; it's all good.  I guess body type can made a little difference; a big, beefy guy without hair is usually hotter than a skinny or obese guy without hair.  Nothing is set in stone, though.  If I like a guy (or he's really cute :P) lack of body hair isn't a big deal.

I'm not very hairy myself, and sometimes wish I had more than I do.  I don't let it get to me, though.  As long as other guys are into me, I'm happy.

I wouldn't ask someone to shave it (or stop shaving it) unless maybe they were already considering it.  Probably because I wouldn't want them to ask me to do so, either.

I mean, it will certainly get you weird looks from some people.  But if it turns you on and you have the money, I say go for it.

Any updates?

Over the years, I have seen adverts or reviews of multiple kits to cast a mould of your willy at home.  However, as I have not used any or even seen one in person, I cannot offer any useful information.

If it helps, I went through a similar situation throughout my 20s. It started when I went on anti-depressants, though persisted even after I quit. Doctor sent me to a urologist, who couldn’t find a reason. Even tried Viagra, which helped but not 100%. Then I met a guy I fell madly in love with, and the problem went away on its own. After we broke up, the erections remained, though my performance is somewhat dependent on an emotional connection.

However, since your story started at such an early age, and coincided with other health/body issues, I still suggest the doctor’s visit to check hormone levels and other possible physical causes.

This could indicate a glandular problem, or an injury.  It could also be psychological.  I think you definitely need to talk to a doctor about it, though.  No one's going to be able to properly diagnose this without running several tests to rule out various possibilities.

It depends partly on what is causing the acne.  Adolescent hormones, stress hormones, oily skin, excessive sweating, insufficient/improper washing, genetic factors…  So many contributing factors.

General tips are make sure you wash your face often enough.  If you have oily skin, you can wipe it with something clean, dry, and absorbent, and avoid touching your face too much with your hands.  Normally, your pharmacie will have an entire shelf full of acne products – preventative washes; astringents; various gels, creams, and wipes with different medicines; micro-scrubbing products.  You can start with the gentler, preventative products, and work your way up as necessary.  Or, you can talk to your doctor and see if he has any more personalised recommendations.

Of course!  Unless you dress or act very flamboyantly, or are the subject of many rumours, you'll be coming out to different people at different times.  I consider myself "out," but that just means I don't actively try to hide it – except in rare situations.

Really, besides my family, friends, and a couple co-workers, not that many people know I'm gay.  ...I think. ???