Posts made by furfiend

As I recall, Brief Encounters from Pantheon had some funny BTS moments.

@markystarky:

It may happen that you could be attracted to one more than the other, just try to share your time and passion equally with the other two guys.

Agree.  This can happen a lot.  Be aware of it, and don't expect it to work out the way you expect every time.  Although, I was with a couple once where it was basically me with one guy while his partner watched, and they seemed to enjoy that, so… whatever works.

As marky said, just relax and enjoy it, and see what happens.

I am guilty of doing a little sniff and wear a couple times as a teenager.

The only time I can remember actually stealing any was a sheer black g-string of my father's that I stumbled across once when I was a kid.  I would occasionally steal them to wear in front of the mirror while home alone.  …until the day I got too excited and came in them.  Couldn't clean them up in time, so I just kept them.

Now, I was showering at a gym a couple months ago, and saw the speedos of the guy in the next stall hanging over the top of the wall between us.  Can't say I wasn't tempted >:D, but I left them where they were.

Et dire que je pensais qu'y avait rien à faire à Paris.  Toutes ces journées gaspillées quand j'y étais cet été… j'aurai dû venir te chercher  >:D  :bj2:

I haven't been so far, to my knowledge.  I am attracted to typically masculine traits, and grossed out by woman-boobs and vagina, so he would have to be fully transitioned.  I want to say in that case it wouldn't matter, but honestly… if I were attracted to a guy and he told me he used to be a woman... I have no idea how I would react.

I'd say talking about it with your partner, and then possibly with a therapist, would be the best places to start.  Make sure the partner knows it's an addiction to porn, not disinterest in him.  Then you can work on it together.

One other thing you might try, though, is watching porn with the partner, and playing together while watching it.  That way, you can start associating the thrill, pleasure, etc. that you currently get from the porn, with the experience of having sex with him.  With luck, maybe you can slowly start phasing out the porn after that, until you find a healthy balance that works for both of you.

Many of the hook-up apps can be used for dating, even if most of the guys are there primarily for sex.  I met one of my exes and a few friends on Growlr (if you're into bears, or are one).  I'm sure the others around here can give you suggestions on other good apps for dating.

You can also check if your new university has an LGBT club.  Most will.  It might be a good place to make gay friends, possibly meet guys, and probably talk to others, hear their stories, and get a little less nervous about meeting guys.

The answer is yes, but not that much.

Mechanically, it makes some difference.  A certain length is needed for deep-throating (slightly above average, in my experience).  Actually, the smaller ones can be nicer for sucking on a daily basis.  With regards to anal, some positions are easier to perform without slipping out depending on the length and curvature of the penis.

10 cm (4") and thick is enough to hit the right spots for me, if he knows how to use it.  Smaller than that may be a disappointment.  I haven't had any I would call "too big," but I have had a couple I would say are fine as an occasional treat, but would be too painful or too much work on a daily basis.

Big is nice to look at, but the rest of the person makes more difference to me than just the cock size.  I would say girth is more important than length, but there is also truth in the, "length for sucking, girth for fucking," adage.  And let us not forget the importance of shape, smell, and taste.  It is a package deal.

*The above statements are purely the opinion of furfiend.  Individual experiences may vary.

If you're in a relationship and it bothers your partner, you can experiment with shaving.

For random strangers, don't worry about it!  They've seen it before (especially if you are in the Middle East).
Also, I don't think most people care much, unless they are checking you out.  And if they are checking you out, there are plenty of us bear lovers who like to see that. ;D

@fitzr:

Just my 2 cents, but there's no way checking out his phone will end well.

I actually disagree.  It won't save the relationship; that's over.  I think we're all 99% sure the boyfriend's cheating or wants to.  Either way, it obviously isn't a relationship in which both partners feel comfortable discussing important matters like this.

However, I have lived through this myself, I have watched close friends live through it, and I think there is one good thing that may likely come from checking the phone.  If he knows the guy's cheating (and not just a lot of feelings and self-doubting), it can make it a lot easier to break up, get over him, and move on to a healthier relationship.

P.S. : I realise some time has passed.  Any updates on the situation?

I don't know about the application, but if you're running Windows, you can use :
dir /s /b [drive or directory name]

You can even dump the results into a text file if you want.  For example :
dir /s /b >disklog.txt

I am not a nutritionalist or trainer, but this is how I understand it :

1. Cardio is great for the heart and circulation (whence the name), but this is independent of energy consumption.  Running 1 km, jogging 1 km, and walking 1 km all burn essentially the same amount of kcal above your baseline metabolism.  So, if you do similar exercises but at lower intensity, and you can do them much longer, then you will burn more energy.  Obviously, this choice also depends on the amount of time you want to spend and your overall fitness goals.

2. Increasing your muscle mass will also increase your baseline metabolism (which otherwise decreases as you lose fat), so muscle-building exercises can help, as well.  Again, this depends on your overall fitness goals.

3. All the fat-burning exercises in the world won't help if you get hungry and regain that energy in additional food.  Watching your diet is key.  If you have trouble keeping your caloric intake down, try eating more leafy green vegetables (like salad) and other vegetables.  Just avoid too many high-starch roots or too much added fat.  A little low-fat protein can help reduce hunger, as well.  Just don't go overboard.

@Kekkaishi:

I'm 32 and I almost never have precum during sex or masturbation. however, I don't see it as a big deal so I ignore it
is it normal or should I consult with a doctor?

Normal.  Everyone is different.  I precum like a leaky faucet.  Other guys are totally dry until they shoot.

Unless you have sudden changes, pain or burning, bloody discharge, discharge without arousal, etc., there's no reason to worry.

One of my exes had a 10-12 cm dick, and it was some of the best sex of my life.  He was mostly a bottom, but he topped a few times and it was usually quite satisfying (he wasn't long, but he was thick ;D ).  That's probably the smallest size that I would enjoy, however.

A cute face, good personality, and emotional connection count far more than dick size in my book.

I've never seen this, but it seems like both guys would have to be really well hung and flexible.  And it doesn't seem like it would be very pleasant for them if they managed to do it.

As a former non-smoker, I can say it was not pleasant.

Now that I have smoked and quit, sometimes it just makes me want a cigarette.

Mostly yes.  I am nude as often as possible at home.  I have been to a nude beach, also, which was rather pleasant.  I am not sure how well I would fit in with proper nudists, though.  I still dislike looking at the women and tend to stare at the decent-looking guys. :laugh:

If they appear right on the edge of the lips, they are probably herpes.  Not much you can do about it, except try to avoid spreading it and using an antiviral cream as soon as the cold sores appear.  My dentist once told me they have a laser that is supposed to stop any particular nerve location from breaking out again, if they use it just when a breakout starts.  I have no idea if that actually works, though.

Now, if they appear very frequently (more than 1 to 3 times per year), I would definitely talk to your doctor about it.  They may have other treatments you can try.

Definitely gel over soap.  I find the soap residue impossible to rinse off.
Although, lately I just use shampoo everywhere.  Also rinses off clean, and I don't have to deal with multiple bottles.

It depends on the context, but usually I think it is Fist Fucking.