@flozen:
Of course, glad to escape that mind-fuck. Jumping forward, I really didn’t seek to define my non-belief until my 30s, after parents were deceased, so no coming out in that sense. Friends are cool with it – none of them attend church, I would call many of them “questioning.”
… I wish this GT Board had a more inclusive name, perhaps along the lines of “Religion and Secular Issues." Any thoughts or suggestions in that last regard?
And, of course, anyone else with an experience to share?
Am I understanding you correctly, you're now in your thirties and your parents are deceased, so you're now trying to define yourself in terms of your non-religious beliefs?
My mother's side of the family is from GA. Discussions about religion hit a wall only when I got preachy or get scholastic (the bible was written in Greek so x doesn't mean x but can more correctly be expressed as [insert needlessly wordy answer]). In other words, when I talked down to them.
I'm a firm believer that only discussion can help us articulate our thoughts. To that end, if there is someone you want to "come out to" you might try putting the idea up as a philosophical discussion about existence, evolution, the origin of language, etc. Assuming things stay civil the worst that could happen is you get labeled a deep thinker and at best they ask/discover that you're a free-thinker (the old term for athiest).
Myself, I feel a kind of respect for a true-believer who walks the walk – it's the hypocrites I despise.
I also can't hate a person who genuinely believes and thinks they're doing me a service by praying for me or trying to save my soul. It's hard to explain -- maybe you do -- but they're not being unkind and in their own way, they're trying to help you. It's kinda sweet in an ol' timey kinda way. Those fire and brimstone preachers, though. I've never met one who wasn't trying to fill his pocket.
As for the board, I don't think people are going to come to discuss if the name is changed. I think people gave up communication after the election with all the fighting. People seem exhausted here. I'm hoping that will change. I have faith it will. 