Posts made by bostonpolar

@amicusets:

[Trump] was CLEARLY referencing his current tenure in Congress, where Lewis has been nothing but a partisan hack, and who represents one of the worst districts in all of Georgia in terms of quality of living.

Here is a BIG CLUE for you, amicusets, and the other Trump-zombies here.

My sister and her wife have lived in Rep. John Lewis' district for over 35 years.  They have repeatedly voted for him as their representative to Congress.  He is a hero to them as he is to a great many people who live in Atlanta.

I have been to and stayed in their home.  Where they live and the surrounding area are very nice and peaceful and the neighbors who live there are extremely friendly to my sister and her wife as they are to them.  Every year my sister and her wife celebrate Halloween by putting a huge display – much of it made by themselves -- in their yard open to all to come and see.  (Last year I bought them a pair of zombie flamingoes.)  They bag treats for up to 400 children who come to visit them.  Their neighbors take part and help them on Halloween night.

Lewis's district is NOTHING like what Ignorant, Egotistical Trump ranted it was.

The day of and the day after Trump's obnoxious tweet, people who lived in that district were posting pictures on Facebook of where they lived and what was around them in the area.  Again, it is NOTHING like what the Clueless-Elect LIED it was.

On the same days, the major newspaper of the City of Atlanta posted even more photos and statements by the people who live in Rep. Lewis' district – proving once again that Trump is a Clueless Idiot who rarely, if ever, knows that he believes he does.

Being as Willful-Ignorant and Stupid as Donald Trump is, amicusets, is not something a rational and reasonable person would aspire to.

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I think it highly likely after reading many of your posts, including the ones here, raphjd, your dog thinks you are what he poops. ::)         
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Retired librarian.

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YES!

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I am an older guy who has been looking for a relationship with a younger man for decades now.

I've generally liked men in their mid-20s to mid-30s.  Part of it is physical, but a lot more in personality-wise.  I'm a major nerd – comics, video games, books, science fiction conventions, even tech to some extent (when I can afford it), etc., etc. -- and I have found over the years that younger guys are much more into those things that people my own age (even when I was in my 40s or so, I am now in my early 60s).

Also I like the generational difference because I can learn things for a younger guy that I might not otherwise be able to -- certainly, again, not with guys my own age.

I have been off and on SilverDaddies for years and maybe only meet two guys in that time in person, for coffee, and there was no repeat. 
Most of the time, guys will message you to death, but never want to actual meet if you are a guy looking for "Strings Attached".

Like most sites for gay men, SD is for hook-ups first and foremost.  Guys looking for relationships are rare.

The thing I will tell the younger guy here who is looking for an older partner is that YOU will find you get to pick and choose who you want.  Over the years I have compared the ratio of men over 40 looking for men under 40 and it is like 5 to 1 in favor of the younger guys.
You will be the one who is really making the choice.

Also, you should consider what type of relationship you want.  There are guys who just find someone of a different age more interesting -- both ways.  There are also guys who are looking for a "Daddy/son" relationship where a certain amount of Dom/sub in the relationship.  If you are looking to be treated as an equal by an older guy, you will have to look more carefully.

After literally decades of searching, I might have meet someone -- well, to the extend we are suppose to have a 2nd date this weekend.  Whether or not that happens I just have to wait to see.  I don't really hope anymore; it became too brutal to me to be stood-up over and over and over again year after year.

I am a nice guy -- but there is the saying that "Nice Guys Finish Last".

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Cthulhu Monopoly.
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Also, it would help in general if those interested knew what city you live in on this planet.  :cheesy2:

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I was very close to my father.  We had similar interests and shared them.  Once he knew I was gay, it took him a while to accept it, but both he and my mother did.  I loved him very much.

He died without any warning on Christmas Eve 2001.  I had spoken to him the day before on the phone of what my mom and he were going to be doing; they were to have travelled after the holiday.  Things in my life started to go very bad for me after his death – and I have only just started to recover this year.

I no longer can enjoy Christmas and I have come to loath the time between the USA Thanksgiving and New Year's Eve.  I do my best to avoid anything related to these holidays, but since they saturate American culture it is extremely difficult to do.

I developed chronic depression and panic disorders several years before my Dad died, so the entire month of December is basically a misery to me.

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My older sister who has been in a relationship with another women for 35+ years now and married her about 5 years ago when it began to become legal in the US.  I have no other siblings.

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http://www.bbc.com/news/health-38207594

Pubic Hair Grooming "STI Risk Linked to Skin Tears'
by BBC News
December 5, 2016

Women and men who regularly trim or remove all their pubic hair run a greater risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) than those who do not, research suggests.

Doctors say small tears in the skin from shaving or trimming could make it easier for infections to take hold.

But they also say groomers - particularly extreme ones - tend to be more sexually active too.

STIs are passed on through unprotected sex or genital contact.

The findings come from a survey of more than 7,500 American adults, published in 'Sexually Transmitted Infections' - a specialist BMJ journal.

The report, led by doctors from the University of California, San Francisco, said the two most likely explanations for the link between grooming and STIs were micro-tears in the skin, which increased the risk of viral STIs, and groomers being more likely to engage in risky sexual behaviour with more sexual partners.

–Extreme Cut

An electric razor was the most common tool used for pubic grooming among men, while a manual razor was more common among women.

About one in five men and women used scissors.

The researchers said it was unlikely that sharing grooming tools was an issue, because traces of the most common STIs had not been found on objects before.

But they did say doctors should advise groomers to cut back a little on their grooming or put off having sex until the skin had healed completely.

Almost three-quarters of respondents said they had groomed their pubic hair before, with 84% of women and 66% of men saying they had trimmed, shaved or waxed in the past.

Among the groomers, 17% described themselves as "extreme" - removing all hair at least once a month - and 22% as "high frequency" - trimming daily or weekly.

--Lice Protection

In the survey, any type of grooming was linked to an increased risk of having a sexually transmitted infection. And the more frequent and extreme the grooming, the greater the risk.

Those with the most extreme habits were three to four times more likely to contract an STI, particularly infections from skin to skin contact such as herpes and HPV (human papillomavirus).

But there was good news for groomers too - because their habit was found to protect against pubic lice.

The report said: "If grooming is found to protect against lice, individuals at risk for pubic lice could be counselled to remove their pubic hair."

--What Are STIs?

Examples are gonorrhea, herpes, syphilis and genital warts

The most common STI is chlamydia, which is easily passed on during sex

Young heterosexuals under 25 and men who have sex with men are most affected by STIs

Most sexually transmitted infections can be treated, and it is best if treatment starts as soon as possible

--How To Reduce The Risk?

Use condoms regularly and correctly

Get tested at a sexual health clinic, a genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic or at your GP surgery

Tell your partner if you have an STI, to avoid spread of infection

For more advice, see the sexual health charity FPA's website:
http://www.fpa.org.uk/help-and-advice/sexually-transmitted-infections-stis-help
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I do want to remark on the fact there seems to be a lot of short-term thinking in these posts.

Do you think gay civil rights in America is ONLY about same-sex marriage being legal?

The US Supreme Court said it will hear the case involving a trans student who wanted to use a restroom based on his gender orientation.  North Carolina had passed a law against this.  Does that not concern you?

Mississippi past a law making it legal for religious believers to openly and public discriminate against gay people – because of those believers' religious beliefs.  VP-Elect Pence also had passed and signed into a law a similar "'Religious Liberty" law when he was governor of Indiana – until gay activists and local and national businesses yelled FOUL and it was repealed.  A similar law was passed in Georgia but not signed into law by its governor because, again, activists and businesses PROTESTED.  (That did NOT happen in Mississippi, because it's economy is so bad (Mississippi ONLY survives because so much federal money goes to it) there were NO major businesses there to object.)

Twenty-eight (28) states have NO LAWS that protect the basic civil rights of gay people – such as the right NOT to be deny housing or employment nor other such protections that American citizens have.  Gay people are 2nd class citizens in over half of America's states.

In May of this year, the Republicans in Congress BLOCKED a measure that would have protected LGBT workers in businesses that had federal contracts.  What do you think will happen when similar laws are passed by the Republican-controlled Congress and go to Republican President Trump to be signed into law or be vetoed?

If you voted Republican in the November 2016 election, you did vote AGAINST the civil rights of LGBT people in our United States of America.

Wake up.
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@tempbo:

Reading this and other political boards has really opened my eyes. I used to believe that, because of the things we've been through individually and as a group, gay people were a little better than average. A little smarter, a little braver, a little more aware.

I have observed and think, in general, gay people are.  But it is not, of course, true of all gay people and, in particular, less so with gay men.

Being abused and hated for whom you are can help a person to develop empathy, because you can then related what you felt to others in similar circumstances.  I know this has happened with me, but part of that is I am smart and creative, which helps to better understand how other folks might feel.

I read a great, great deal as well and there have been studies in the last several years, that reading fiction also develops empathy:

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/novel-finding-reading-literary-fiction-improves-empathy/

I also have observed and think with many (again, not all) gay men, we are taught by the example of others to see other men – and even ourselves -- as sex objects, as things, and not as whole people in our intimate relationships.

@tempbo:

Now I see that we really are just as prone to the same stupidity and blindness as everyone else, clearly evidenced here by every mouth-breathing Trump voter. Congratulations, my fellow gays: you just as dumb and self destructive as straight people. Thanks for disillusioning me that way.  :nutki:

Again, I do not think it is the majority of gay people from what I have widely observed – but certainly it is far more than I expected.  I am also greatly disappointed by a great many of my fellow Americans.  Over the decades and observation and study, I have estimated that at least 20-25% of the people in my nation are likely psychotic in one form or other.  I had wondered about this for sometime, but what gave me a likely percentage was at the very end of George W. Bush's 2nd terms, with two wars raging, with Saddam Hussein (who hated Islamic fanatics) being blamed from what Osama bin Laden had done, with our American and the world's economies already deep in the Great Recession, that there were still 21% of Americans who gave W. Bush a positive approval rating.  To believe that, one could really only be badly out of touch with Reality.

Willful-Ignorance and -Stupidity abound in Humanity.

One example of this is the wide, wide-spread hostility towards Hillary Clinton.  It seems the a great many people who were constantly referring to "criminal" and "corrupting" nature NEVER stopped to truly consider the fact that despite multiple investigates over decades, Ms. Clinton had NEVER been legally charged with any criminal act -- and had NEVER been convicted of any crime.

Instead what actually happen was over 30 years of a slander, libel, and blatantly, vicious-circle of lies and gossip against Ms. Clinton by those on the far-right.  The ultraconservative extremist were still throwing around "Benghazi" despite multiple Republican-lead congressional investigation NEVER found her a fault -- and, in fact, several of them even cleared here.

In fact, comparison of truthfulness between Ms. Clinton and Donald Trump showed that it was Trump -- and
NOT Clinton -- who lied far, far more:

http://www.politifact.com/truth-o-meter/lists/people/comparing-hillary-clinton-donald-trump-truth-o-met/

But the smearing against her continued on and on and on until a a great many, many people believed it.

A great majority of the Republicans in American – and Trump certainly demonstrated this though out his entire campaign -- had leading the truth of the statement:

"Make the lie big, make it simple, keep saying it, and eventually they will believe it."

It was Adolph Hitler who said that.

There is one other very important thing to note.  While Ms. Clinton did loose the presidency, that was because of the very outdate and now pointless Electoral College system.

Hillary Clinton WON the popular voted by over 1,000,000 votes -- and actual vote-counting is still continuing, and as it does, her lead continues to grow.  This is twice now since the start of 2000s that the winners of the popular vote -- Al Gore and Hillary Clinton, both Democrats -- lost the presidency due to the Electoral College.

In 2000, that gave American W. Bush as president -- and by any objective standard, his term was a disaster for the American nation and its people.  And now we have... Trump.

The question was:

"Does Trump's victory in the Presidential election worry you as an LGBT individual?"

YES, it does, deeply and seriously worry me.  It worries me, depresses me, angers me greatly for not only for the pain and harm Trump, his Administration, and his supporters will bring to gay people, but will bring to American citizens and America itself as a whole.

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I cannot bear to see it anymore – especially after Trump was elected at president of the USA along with the homophobic Pence as VP.

There is more than enough pain in gay people's lives now without our having to be reminded anytime we come to your site of that terrible, horrible loss.

Please just replace it with something low-key and peaceful.

Thanks.
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@JerodParker:

Aw, hope you find a decent slave, Boston polar.

I have had really no hope for years now.  I just keep trying because I am so fucking worn out of being so lonely.  (Alone I can deal with just fine.)

@JerodParker:

Should be easier than looking for love.  But dating first then transitioning to a slave relationship is probably harder?

Well, by date I mean meeting and trying out as Master and slave to see how it works.  I should rephrase that.  Thanks.
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Well, I am feeling very depressed.  I spent most of August and September trying to meet with guys though various gay dating websites, had 10-15 I chatted and talked with and agreed to meet – and not one of them showed up to meet and they all ghosted me.

Spent most of October extremely depressed as a result of that waste of time and emotion.

So now going into the 3 BIG holidays in November and December which I have no one to spent with -- and certainly not any special "someone".  So I am going to do what I have come to do for a number of years now.  Do my best to fucking ignore them.

The person below me a scientist.
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Well, this is way late in replying to you, but over the years I have noticed this difference.

A sub is someone who is a sex slave – but NOT a slave during daily life.  The submission is just during sex with a Dom.

A slave is someone who is a sex slave -- AND a slave during daily life (a 24/7).  The submission is not only for sex, but when a Master tells you to do his laundry and uses you as a footstool.

Given this, you sound like a sub and should be looking for a Dom -- and not a Master.

I have seen a lot of confusion about this and I really do not understand why.
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@hhsq:

I am not exclusively submissive, but I like to be submissive in sex once in a while. But I guess I'm more into hard sex then into slave/master role play. It particularly turns me on being used as a human urinal and having my throat brutally fucked.

You are likely a switch.
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I'm a Master than has been looking for a "boy" to be my slave for decades now.  I am in my early 60s now – and still looking for a slave somewhere between 18-45yo, but would prefer a boy who was in his late 20s or early 30s.

I have been on 4-5 different gay dating/BDSM sites off and on for all those years as well and I have found anyone.  Over time I have expanded the range of appearance and even personality to give myself a better chance -- and nothing.

This is what is typical of what happens.  In August and September I made a major effort of 3 different sites to find a slave.  I have a profile that clearly describes I am looking for a slave, a general appearance, and what my interests and hobbies are.  I always include several photos of myself.

In those two months I was likely contacted between 10-20 different guys.  Some were outside of my general range, but I still chatted with them so we could get to know each other some before we meet.

I made arrangements to meet about 10-15 of them.  I lost count because of what happened -- which was that NOT ONE of them showed up to meet with me as we had planned.  In almost all cases they never contacted me to tell me they were not going to come and just stood me up.  Then I got ghosted by them and never heard from any one of them again.

The WORST one was a guy in his mid 30s who had previous experience as a slave.  He was bi and listed he was looking for either a Master or a Mistress.  We talked over a period of two weeks and he expressed repeatedly he was very interesting in being my slave.

The night before we were to meet, I had him call me to confirm he would meet me.  He did.  The next day, a few hours before we were to meet, he called to say he would be a 1/2 hour late.  That was fine.

He did NOT show up.  Instead about an hour after he was suppose to show up and checked my email and found a message from him where he said "I need a Mistress!  Sorry, it's not your fault."  Well, fuck you.

He and I are still on one of the websites I used and he is still looking for a Mistress two months later.

As I said, about 10-15 guys told me they were interested in being my slave, not one showed, not one replied to my attempts to contact them again.

I live in the Greater Boston area of Massachusetts in the USA.  There are a large number of universities in this area as well as the fact the my state was the first one to legalize same-sex marriage in the US.  Massachusetts has always been very forward when it comes to the rights and acceptance of gay people.  There are thousands of openly gay guys around this region.

October was a miserable month for me and I realized toward the end it was because I had spent so much time, energy, and emotion on meeting any one of these guys -- and it was all wasted.

There are a fair number of men who call themselves Masters but are either Doms or actually don't have a fucking clue what Mastery is.

In the same way there are a lot of boys who believe they are slaves, but are subs, or don't know what slavery actually is, or I think in a lot of case have NOT been able to accept that they are a slave and so cannot commit to what they need to do to become the person that they are.

(FYI, I define a sub as a "sexual slave" and a slave as a "sexual slave who does your laundry".  That is, one is a slave only in the bedroom while the other is a slave 24/7.)

I no longer have a car so it has become near impossible for me to get to bars or events to try to meet a slave in person.  I think I am just going to have to spent a lot of money on taxis to see if I can actually meet a potential slave in person at a club or somewhere.

As I said, this has been over and over again what happens for decades now and I cannot even begin to describe for extremely frustrating and depressing this has become for me.

I have wondered if it is me that is the problem.  But I have talked with those who I consider real slaves, those who have served a Masters for years before something ends the relationship (usually the Master moves away and the slave cannot be taken with him) and they have told me I am a Master and not someone who just believes he is.

I'm a smart and clever guy and I have gone far beyond what other Master have done to find a slave -- or even just as a vanilla top trying to find a vanilla bottom for a relationship.  I've search in ways that would boggle a lot of guys minds in the efforts and extent I have gone to find someone.

FUCKING HELL.

(I cannot even find an emoticon among the ones here to express how I feel.)
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@raphjd:

Basically they are the freaks of society.

Oh, you mean just like gay people are to the far-right, bigoted, hate-filled Trump-supporters.

Spare me your stupidity.
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I played Second Life a great deal of the day when I had been forced to move into a very dull city with nothing to do and was not a place where I could find friends – mainly as a way to deal with being social isolated.

The main problem I had with SL is that the social relationship there were for the most part fantasy relationships.  Most people used 2ndLife to be someone they were NOT -- as opposite to a place where you could meet people and do things that you could not in Real Life.

So the vast majority of the relationships you had there were NEVER real ones.  And also the vast majority of its users did NOT want to carry what was the occasional real relationship over into the Real World.

For almost all people there it was just role-playing -- and even within that, there were HUGE areas of 2nd Life that were devote to role-playing within role-playing.

SL is nice to be able to do a lot of things one could never do, like be a superhero or an actual furry or a werewolf.  But as a place to actual socialize with other people on a REAL level, it is very barren.

When I realized after a long time of try to find real friends and more in SL that there were next-to-none to be found there, I left Second Life for good.

Some people just disappear for SL and you never know what happened to them; it can be very upsetting.  So I wrote a note to every "friend" I had there and explained to them why I was leaving, so I just did not vanish.  I also included in all those notes my email address and phone numer in case one of them might want to contact me in the Real World.

Over two years later now, not one of my SL "friends" ever did contact me.

SL can be fun – if you realize that 99.8% of the people you encounter or have relationships with are fake people -- and there is nothing REAL about it.

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