Sub or slave?
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Well, I´m a 39 year-old cub from Spain, with hairy chest and back, crew-cut hair and Brown eyes. I am a bottom. I have always been interested in Domination, but the few experiences I have had were not what I was expected. First of all, there´s a lot of people who tells you: " I am a master" and then, just sit down on a couch and say: " Suck it". That´s what I have found. Or some people who uses you to cook his breakfast and then after letting you suck his dick, stands up and says: " Well, i have an appointment… We´ll be in touch".
I have to be very sincere and, of course, I´m aroused with special sex which includes watersports, wrestling and dirty talk. But, on the other hand, I cannot find the person to share this. And I think there´s a big difference between being a slave and being a sub. I prefer to play daddy-son games. My face is quite childish although my body is hairy and stout ( I go to the gym three times a week ) and I have a very sweet voice. So I´m quite the boy for a DADDY, I mean a real Daddy!
I don´t like being tied, but being hold by my man´s arms. I don´t like being kidnapped but being protected. I love being a pig for a horny daddy, I need hot and very spicy sex. I love feeling that I have to surrender to my man and that situation makes me feel very very excited. I know what role is mine: of course i´m not the master... but... Tell me...
What am I searching for? Am I a sub? Am I a slave? Are my vision of sex BDSM or just another thing?
I will appreciate any advice or comment.
Thanks to all of you and Happy New Year!Hugs.
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Well, this is way late in replying to you, but over the years I have noticed this difference.
A sub is someone who is a sex slave – but NOT a slave during daily life. The submission is just during sex with a Dom.
A slave is someone who is a sex slave -- AND a slave during daily life (a 24/7). The submission is not only for sex, but when a Master tells you to do his laundry and uses you as a footstool.
Given this, you sound like a sub and should be looking for a Dom -- and not a Master.
I have seen a lot of confusion about this and I really do not understand why.
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I think that is a GREAT way to break it down! I also have noticed a lot of confusion around the topic, but that is probably the best short and simple explanation I have seen!! Thanks for that!!
