Posts made by bostonpolar

If it followed me home, could I keep it?

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Plastic Man, because…!

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Not dead.

@horyna:

I guess I'll skip this one but those who have never seen a Couteau-movie: Give it a try, they are very special.

And after you've see one Couteau movie, you've seen them all!

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A seriously good cast with a lot of known names – I wonder if this will attract much of non-gay audience.

I had wondered for a moment if Corrigan would play himself since he has been acting in non-porn films for a while -- but I think that would have been seriously creepy.
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@wrestling82:

I've seen both men and women who are overweight but attractive and even healthy in a way. That is attractive. Slobs are not.

Well I got really fat in the last couple of years because I was stuck in a really shit town with nothing to do and no where to go.  I didn't have a car because I was use to living in a large system and using mass transit.  Then mass transit there was a fucking joke and shut down at 9pm and didn't even run on Sundays.

Plus I just had NOTHING in common with the people around me.  I tried hard to find friends and the one friend I made was generally anti-social.

I got out of that hell-hole earlier this year and am not in a place where there are a lot more places to go around me and access to Boston's major transit system.  Still do not have a car, though, and that does limit me; just can no longer afford one.  Still difficult to meet people I have anything in common with.

Health-wise, I'm watching my weight more and trying to loose the weight I put on in those 2 1/2 years.  Trying to exercise and just walk  around more because I lost some of my flexibility being in a tiny apartment in that zombie town.

And also health-wise, beyond being far too fat, my health is excellent.  Just saw my physician this month and everything came back fine to great.  Even with all this extra weight, my blood pressure is normal.  My body temperature is below average – usually between 97.8-98.4 -- but that is normal for me.

Thing is, when I am with others or with one person in particular, I usually feel great and have a good time.  It's just finding others -- or that special someone -- that has become such a major problem.

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I think my username is somewhat of a giveaway.

(I did move out of Boston about 3 years ago and now am in Medford, Massachusetts USA, which is about 4 miles from Boston.)

Would love to meet some guys from around here to hang out with.

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Way too big.

I did find a sort of quick way to delete videos in mine.  I really like to watch a bottom's face and cock when he cums while being fucked, so unless there is some REALLY special about a video that doesn't have that, it gets deleted.

Really need to delete more though.
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We have some weather here today.

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Piece of unsolicited advice- if you keep running into the same problems, maybe reexamine the type of guys you are attracted to. If you like them young, you might find that they aren't interested in something serious, or in settling down. Maybe change it up a little and meet someone older, with more maturity? Just a thought.
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I also had that thought.  I have I am looking for guys between 20-40yo; I really would like to find a guy around 30.

The guys who stood me up were 26 to 51 yo.  Three of them were over 40.

I basically had to start looking at guys in their 40s and 50s about 15-20 years ago, because almost no one younger than 40 was ever interested.

(I should mention I have also tried gay younger-for-older sites as well and again run into this experience over and over.  There it tends to be talk, talk, talk, but when it comes to actually meeting, they never want to set something up.)

Almost all of the guys who look at my profile are older than me and that does not interest me at all.  Younger guys tend to be fems or CDs and that does not interest me either; I want a guy who is a guy.

Believe me, if I told you more about how I have searched, the more you would know how this is a pounding-my-head-against-a-brick-wall experience for me.  I even started a national literary group (that is still in existence 30 years later) to try to meet some guys and that didn't work.
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Thank you for your message, buy I really do not have much hope anymore.  I'm 63 years old now.

I just spend about 10 days of a gay dating site sending messages to about 400 different guys and got back about 6 answers of those interested.  I spend a LOT of time writing messages to each and more.

I talked and chat with them each a fair amount and they were interesting in meeting so we sent up days and times to meet.  One guy even texted me that he would come down and meet in in about 2 hours.

Not one of them showed up.  Not only that but they have all ghosted me; they never called to tell me they were not coming.  None of them have answered my replied about why they did not come and about possibility meeting again.

One of these was with a "guy" who I had exchanged emails and had Skyped a good dead with – until I realized 1/2 through it was all a hoax.  A friend told me this was called "catfishing".

This is how my attempts to meet and date a guy constantly goes.  This has happened over and over again for DECADES now.  I cannot tell you the lengths I have gone to meet a guy to date.  And it is almost always the same.  They say they are interesting, we plan to meet, they never show up.

A few times I have meet a guy, well, some of them end it even before we have much of a chance to talk.

In some ways I think the worse one for me was about 10 years ago.  I was suppose to meet a guy for coffee.  I waited over an hour after he was suppose to show before I left.  I had called him several times to see if he was coming or not, but he never answered.  He never called me to tell me why he did come.

I tired to call a few times in the following days to see what happened but only ever got voice mail.  Finally, I asked a friend if I could use his phone to call and he said okay.  So I called this guy (from a different number) and he picked up at once.  I asked he why he never showed up and he said "I felt like doing something else."  Then he hung up.

Nowadays, if a guy doesn't show up -- which as I said is always -- I make one or two efforts to find out why and if they still might want to meet, but that is all.  Even as I send those messages, I know no one is going to reply.

I go through this like every 6-8 months.  I just completely burn out on trying to meet anyone and then months and months later I try again -- and they same shit happens.  No one shows up then I am ghosted.

I do understand you are trying to help me feel positive that I will meet someone.  But I stopped lying to myself about that long ago.

I make the effort because I REALLY want to find a partner.  But I do not fool myself to think that I will.

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Sometimes you will find this in older/young gay porn.
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It is not that any type of cooking oil is going to be harmful to your asshole or inside of your ass.  You COOK with those oils after all and eat them.

The problem is it can interfere with the excretion process.  Things go too quickly.

If you remember the fat-free cooking oil that someone created several decades ago, that was used to cook things such as potato and corn chips, many people experienced a side effect that such foods would go very quickly through them, because your body could not absorb this oil. (That is what made it fat-free!)

Which is why food companies stopped use this oil to cook foods.

The TRULY SERIOUS problem with any oil or petroleum-based lube is that they weaken latex.  In other words, you NEVER want to use an oil-based lube in you are using a condom, because the oil can make the condom break much more easily.

But health-wise, remember that Crisco (the solid lard) was used for many decades for anal intercourse – and in particular fist-fucking.

By the way, the solid Crisco makes the most wonderful and tasty pie crusts.

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I am a bear who finds other bears (and cubs) completely unattractive.

I prefer non-hairy or somewhat hairy men and thin to average to athletic builds.

One result of this, I realized, is that I do not have a good body image of myself – because since I am a bear and I don't find bears attractive, I do not find myself attractive.

I have longed realized that while my bear body is not one I find sexy, my body is attractive to some gay men who are NOT bears.  Fortunately, it does not seem to be very many guys who feel this way.

I am just so damn different from gay guys in general (for example, I have little interest in hookups), I have been looking for a possible partner for decades now with just no luck at all.

It is extremely depressing for me.
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I'm a smart, creative, knowledgeable guy now in my early 60s.  I have a great sense of humor and can often make folks laugh easily.   I am also very empathic and very good at understanding how another person feels.
I'm not ugly but I am not handsome.  I have sort of a generic appearance I have been told.

The problem has been throughout my entire life I seem to LACK "sex appeal".  The vast, vast majority of the time, other guys simply never find me sexual attractive.

There are a few excepts here and there – but that is over the course of nearly 50 years,  And thus either end up in the standard 3-months long "in lust" relationship fir the other guy with me -- or it is simply that I do not find the other person attractive (I am a bear who does not find other bears attractive).

My appearance has changed a fair amount over the years, usually with my weight.  For many years I was a bear, but there was a 10-year period when I was more of an otter.  Then I went back to being a bear -- and then because I live in a hellish situation for 2.5 years within the last 3 years, I became even a fatter bear.  (I trying to loose that extra weight now, but it is difficult and it going to take a lot of time.)

I have meet many other guys.  Believe me the lengths I have gone to meet other guys would boggled some people's mind.  At one time for a period of a few years I had international attention in the gay community (and the science fiction community in which I has greatly involved.)

I have been on 3-4 different gay dating websites for, well, in some case, 20 years.  I send out endless email and flirts/cruises to other guys and for every 100 I do I might get 1 reply -- from someone who thanks me (and nothing more).

Occasional I do have someone contact me who is interested.   In those cases they are usually 1000s of miles away or literally on the other side of the planet.

I have a fairly-wide range of the type of guy who physically appeals to me.  I don't like overweight guys but also every other build is fine.  I've always tended to like guys in their 20s-30s but that isn't only a physical thing, but it does have a lot to do with the fact that most of my interests tend to be shares with guys in that age range.  I have next to nothing in common with people my own age now.

I know I have a problem with my own body image, but that doesn't prevent me from putting up photos of myself on various websites and it is something I don't worry about if/when I meet someone I find attractive.

I don't do hook-up for ethical reasons, but that really is not a major issue since guys don't even find me attractive enough to want to hook-up with me.

I live in in the Greater Boston area of Massachusetts in which there are a great many colleges and universities.  And Massachusetts has long had gay civil rights laws and was the first state in the USA to legalize gay marriage.  So in general the environment here is very open and casual with regards to gay people and their partners.

I wonder sometimes in my empathy killed my sex appeal.  As I said I am very empathic and can often easily make friends if I want to.  I wonder about this because often when I do find a guy I find attractive and we hang out and get to know each other, after a month or two, the other guy will say to me "I think of you as one of my best friends -- BUT...."  I think I may beat to a pulp the next guy who says that to me.

I've become more socially isolated in the past 4 years because of some really terrible things that happen to me for a bout 10 years now when basically my Life fell apart and I ended up in the hellish living situation I was trapped in.  This are better in my general living situation, but a big killer for me is I no longer can afford having a care so it very difficult for me to meet other people.

I joined a number of local area gay groups for guys with my interests, but when they meet, they are all too often in places I have no way to get to.  I do use mass transit when I can, but because I put on so much weight in the last 3 years, my mobility has been affected.  I spend a lot of time now walking down (and sometimes up) in the 14-story building I live in.

The thing is though, regardless of what my situation or appearance has been throughout my life, the thing that was always there was just that Other Guys Do NOT Find Me Sexually Attractive.

I really have no interest in sleeping with a lot of guys.  But I so very much want to meet someone who I find attractive who also finds me attractive.  Someone who I could love that would love me as well.

Even when I have had lots of friends (and I have had LOTS of friends at various times in my life) I have also been lonely because I never had a boyfriend or a partner or a husband.  At my age now, I think I likely have around 20 years left of life and more and more it seems to be I will be living them alone -- and dying alone.

I have done everything I can think of to try to meet someone -- including NOT looking to meet someone -- and the result is -- I never have meet a special guy for me.

At this point of time I have completely run out of ideas -- and most of my hope -- of meeting That Guy.

Does ANYONE have ANY SUGGESTIONS???  Please.

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FACEPALM

Sadly, I am sure there actually ARE some gay people in the Unites States who support Donald Trump for president.

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Here is a question.

What should GayTorrent.ru do about the videos with Sebastian Young on this site?

Like almost all such porn sites, they want nothing to do with pedophilia.  Does that extend to actor who does committed pedophilia outside of a video he was in?

There is also the question that also arises in controversies concerning an actor's personal actions and their acting performances – such as with Mel Gibson or Tom Cruise.

Comments?
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It depends on what you are looking for.

SimCity deals with organization, control, planning, logic, populations as a whole, and so on.

Whereas The Sims deals with people on an individual level, relationships, family life, and so on.

I've been playing The Sims 3 for over a year now.  I used a lot of mods (modifications that adds to or alters the game, some add clothing, some change basic parts of the game itself.)

My main world is the Sim's University which by some game glitch, I was able to keep my sims in instead of their having to leave after they finished their college terms (it was original just 3 guys).  I've added a lot of new buildings and other things to the University world that were not originally part of it, like a city hall, fire station, police station :police:, a school (since the University world really wasn't set up to have children), the Stone's Throw Greenhouse, a criminal hideout (in a dense forest on a mountain side), a magic shop, a general dance club and bars, more restaurants (including a Chinese one – how can you NOT have a Chinese restaurant in a college town!), a gay hangout and bar, a lot more homes, an all gay-male fraternity (oddly some of those sims look like some very handsome male actors (thank you mods!), and Simhenge.

So in my 'Sims 3' game I have a billionaire family (The Wu Family) of 15 gay male sims living in one huge mansion (5 stories high with 5 basements and sub-basements (including their secret laboratory where simbots can be created and there is a time portal) , and a greenhouse, and a stable in a group marriage (with sub-marriages as well), 13 adults sims, 2 teenager, that includes a lot of humans (of different races), a ghost, a fairy, a warlock, a pack of werewolves (7 sims, including the two teens, and a merman), 2 dogs (gay) and also a gay purple unicorn.   :cheers:

(There is also a sub-family of The Wu's) that lives in their own home to be next to the ocean of a husband/husband mermen and their teenage son (also a merman).  Part of their house is actually over the water and they have wind towers on their property to help pay their electric bills.

Sometimes when I am not watching them, they do things on their own (they love ice cream) and, well, the merman got pregnant and I do not know which of them is the father!  :hug:

Needless to say I have reach the utter top of the red level of player difficult, but I find it all a lot of fun and I really like all the sims I created with all their different personalities (one mod allows me to give them 14+ traits instead of the usual 5) and seeing how they interact with each other.   :love:

The one downside of all this is it takes literally an hour for the game to load and 15-20 minutes to save a game.  sigh  I read books while that is happening.    ;D

So, I personally would suggest The Sims.    :blink:

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Actually, this is not at all surprising.

With the help of columnist and gay activist Dan Savage, once "pegging" (a straight men getting fucked by a  straight woman wearing a dildo) was given a name, it turned out lots and lots of straight men wanted to get it up the ass.

Some straight guys wanted the real thing.

There is a 37-year old guy I know on Chaterbate (hunky, hairy, long, long hair and beard) who is 99.6% straight who has, ah, just discovering his asshole in the last 2-4 months.  He is working his way in currently with a dildo and will be getting a "Lush" sound-activated vibrator in the near future.

BUT he started talking about wanting to be fucked by a dude (he's attracted to the basketball-player-type of black man) – nothing else sexually -- and so I got him to promise on cam, with lots of folks in the room, that he would get himself fucked by a guy before his next birthday, which is at the start of December.

YUM!

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(Yes, I know of the Log Cabin Republicans.)

In the United States of America, if you are gay and Republican, you are either a selfish asshole, psychotic, or a selfish, psychotic asshole.

Period.

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