I don't think I'm alone here as it seems plenty of guys at the sauna has this problem.
I would like to top (I mostly bottom) but one problem is I can't seem to get it up in the presence of someone else. I really have no trouble at home, wanking, or whatever but as soon as someone else gets involved it gets difficult.
I only topped a man once successfully and this is with skillful stimulation by the bottom and some viagra.
I'm finding at the sauna even viagra/cialis won't cut it... I cum long before I could even get hard.
Is this something many gays experience or is it just that "I'm not gay enough" (as some say)?