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I've had sex while drunk more times than I can count (I like my liquor – it's a work in progress, haha).

I actually worry a lot more about being the drunk(er) guy in bed, so I always disclose it first verbally -- "I'm smashed, just so you know." I know I'm going to be a little clumsy and goofy, may forget myself and get too rough, may take me twice as long to cum (believe it or not, sometimes that's not a good thing), etc.

Not once have I ever actually felt like I was taken advantage of when I was drunk, though. I'm generally the initiator when I'm like that, and the only thing that has really changed is my level of bravery -- I wanted to do it all along. Then again, I also never become this fall-down, incoherent, sloppy drunk I've seen others turn into. I can always walk, talk, and answer questions, no matter how silly I get. I also don't "black out." I always remember.

I suppose the best answer is, "how drunk is he"? If he's coherent enough to verbally talk about how drunk he is, carry on a basic conversation (even if it gets silly, slurry, and giggly), and still insists that he's down to fuck ... I'd be okay with it. I've been on the other side of the equation many times, and I know very well I'm dead serious when I agree that sex should happen, haha.

I think the "no drunk sex because it's always rape" scary admonition fails to recognize the full spectrum of inebriation (also the fact that a lot of the time, it's mutual drunkenness). It's definitely the right thing to not proceed when you're dealing with people that can NOT answer you back, at least not understandably, can NOT stand up and walk around, and don't seem to be fully aware of where they are and what's going on in general. Again, there is a spectrum of "drunk." It's definitely not cool to play around with someone, even if it was a date, who's in that state. If he's past the point of knowing what's going on, you really are a rapist.

Active participation in the event is probably the best way to tell where your partner is, in terms of cognitive responsibility. If he's just a bit tipsy and slur-goofy, but can talk about his plans for next week, how horny he is, is eager to make out and cuddle and explore and is an ACTIVE participant in the play, and can give you a clear, enthusiastic "yes" ... then go for it. He's still in control of his decisions at that point.

I'll put it this way … the more you do it, the more your body is going to produce the hormones necessary to be able to do it more frequently. There's less testosterone production as you get older, it's true, but you can combat this with good nutrition, exercise (strength training is very important), and cumming. FREQUENTLY.

Your body will see a slight drop in T-levels immediately after ejaculation, but that's very brief. If you're in the habit of cumming daily, your standard rate of testosterone production is just going to climb and climb. Testosterone production goes up if you keep your plumbing in active use.

Even if it means jacking off every day, when you're alone ... it's better to make sure to ejaculate at LEAST once per day (I shoot for three times) than zero times. Less cumming means your body is going to want to cum less often over time.

There's some kind of new straightedge "movement" among young men online (there's a subreddit dedicated to it, even, called NoFap), where they trick themselves into believing ideas that have LONG AGO been debunked by science, and try to train themselves to not masturbate. They think it gives them more energy (bullshit talk from the 1920s), that each ejaculation means lost stamina. Some do it for religious reasons, others because of completely secular ideas about masculinity and the "lameness" of needing to pleasure oneself.

Whatever their motives, they are ALWAYS misguided. Cum as much as you can (within reason, don't do it in public and don't miss work over it, and don't physically injure yourself, haha). Keep your T-levels up. Make it an automatic thing before you go to bed.

I've been with older guys before; some were still stallions and wanted to keep going time after time. Other much younger men gave me a saved-up load that they had built up over the course of an entire week, and calmly informed me that they were going to be "fine" with that ejaculation for at least three days. That depressed me. It's not necessarily about diversity amongst men, either ... every time I've dug more into the reasons behind this, I always find out it's because the guys have never shaken their 12-year-old guilt about masturbating, and trained themselves to not do it until the absolute last minute.

MISTAKE.

One final thought -- I'm sure we've all met elderly men, grandpa types, that are very sweet and funny people, personable, and fun to talk to. We've also met the grumpy assholes that yell at kids to get off their lawns. The difference between the two types is testosterone levels.

A guy in his 70s that still loves to squeeze one out in the shower every morning is the sweet lovable old guy, and the ones yelling at kids to get off their lawns are the ones that stopped jerking off because it was for "hippies" or "perverts." I guarantee it.

https://grumpyoldmenopause.com/irritable-male-syndrome/

I've never been able to manage this. Once I'm "in love" and it goes sour, I usually need a LOT of distance from the person to even begin the process of getting over it (no matter who pulled the plug), and at that point, we've grown so far apart that interaction in the future is awkward. That's best case scenario, too … sometimes, old feelings get kicked up, which is even worse.

I'm always a little perplexed by people who talk about hanging out with exes as friends long after relationships are over, but I've noticed that the people who say that they can do this are the sort of people that have very high relationship turnover (the folks who can point to a long list of exes, and always seem to be "with" somebody, never single for longer than a month or two).

The only thing I can think is that their definition of being "in love" is very different from mine. Love, for me, is drowning in the concept of somebody, and if it goes on long enough, making them a secure fixture in your life. Comfortable and known and reliable. They should never stop making you happy when you get to spend time with them. I don't even cross into the "relationship" zone with them unless I'm literally getting butterflies in the stomach when I think about them.

Others just go "meh" and say "let's see how it goes" and slap that Facebook In-a-Relationship status up at the drop of a hat.

The people who have exes as friends never give themselves over to it as completely as the people who can't be friends with exes do. They're holding parts of themselves back, always guarded, so that they never risk becoming too invested. That's my theory.

I see some guys at the gym with acne who are beautiful. If you are cute and have a nice personality, I would date you regardless of acne.

Ditto. It's a non-variable to me. If I find someone attractive, it's the whole package at the same time.

I'm bi, and I regularly frequent this site (it's my favorite for man-on-man action) and one other site that focuses mainly on "straight" porn. That other site doesn't have a lot of gay porn, but I can tell you that it shows up on the so-called "straight" site, there's a devoted category for it, and some of my favorite downloads ever have come from said straight site. I've also noticed that some of the biggest hetero horndogs active in that community have been intrigued on occasion by a hot piece of ass-fucking in terms of really feminine bottoms, and privately message me for more information.

One thing that's different about here and there, though … there's not a damn hetero there that complains about the gay stuff because it offends their eyes (that includes the ones that never so much as touch the minority of gay content on that site). It's weird, because that's the exact opposite of the way things are in mainstream society, but it's literally the other way around when it comes to primarily gay communities on the Internet. The guys on the straight sites that don't want to see gay stuff scroll past it and move on, and realize that everyone's taste in smut is different. The guys on the gay sites that don't want to see straight porn are the ones that pitch a bloody fit over it.

I have often jerked off to a man fucking a woman, while primarily focusing on the man. I've done it the other way 'round, too, but my main point is that there is gay value to straight porn. I had a 100% gay-identifying buddy tell me just the other day how he used to watch soft porn on cable late at night because he just found the male models in it so hot. Plenty of guys have a "straight bro" fetish, and completely get off to watching a hot guy fuck a woman.

If you don't get into that yourself, that's just fine, you don't have to apologize for it or explain yourself -- we're all different. It's a bad idea to go about scolding anyone else for not following in your footsteps, though. Get over your hangups and over yourself, is my advice. You do have the option to filter out what you don't like, but it's silly to believe that it's appropriate to BAN anything that isn't cock-on-cock because you personally don't approve of it.

I don't like scat and golden shower videos, or wrestling videos, or condom videos (like, that's my pet peeve, especially with anything produced after PrEP) ... but I sure as shit don't go around asking people to explain themselves for daring to like those things and being glad that they're here. I take what I like from the community, politely and quietly avoid what I don't like, give back as much as I can, and trust everyone else to do the same. I don't like the idea of being asked to "explain" liking what I like, though.

Enough with the pureblood homosexual nativism vibe ... it's stupid. It was getting old to me even in the early 2000s when I was just blossoming as a young man and having fellow cocksuckers look at me in disgust when I admitted to them that I knew what vagina tastes like.

Fast forward 10 years, in this day and age .... it almost seems like a queer version of Donald Trump promising to build a wall to keep the filthy heteros out. Can we just get over the tribalism?

Just don't click on links you're not interested in, and move on. You don't need to "ban" anyone for inconveniencing you by daring to force you to spend 0.2 seconds scrolling past their upload that you don't like.

It's as simple as that.

Oh, yes. Absolutely.

We evolve as we grow older, even in spans of time as short as a couple of years. Sure, there are still types of people that are simply not for me and I'd never go to bed with, but my range has definitely widened as I grow more mature. Here's the key: meeting the right person in your real life that changes your mind. There may be someone who you'd immediately swipe away on Tinder or block on Grindr based on a profile pic that you encounter in the real world, and that person may eventually charm the pants off of you with sheer force of personality and unexplained magnetism.

In my experience, once that happens even once, that "type" of guy is forever unlocked for you as potentially attractive.

I've been an active horndog for over 15 years now. There are types I feel immensely drawn to now in my 30s that would've repulsed me when I was 18.

Here's a good example … I never liked feminine slender twinky types until I met the right guy and got a crush on him a few years ago. Now ... I can't get enough of those types. So many people proudly blast "straight acting" in their personal ads, or even go so far as to say "no fems" in an effort to keep this type away. I never went that far, but I definitely wouldn't have pursued someone overly flamboyant in the past. I'd make friends, but not want to have sex.

Now, after I fell for that one sweet little princess of a twink a couple of years ago ... a really sassy, high-pitched "gay accent" attached to a cute face with a very slender, smooth body drives me absolutely wild.

More examples: When I first turned 18, I was all about Bel Ami and bronzed jock/swimmer types, or muscley Falcon hunks. I still see those guys as attractive, but now, the porn those studios produce bores me to tears. I'd rather see a real man with a plain face who fucks hard and enthusiastically in a Machofucker or TIM video than I would an obviously bored golden Aldonis in Bel Ami simply enduring the mechanics of the sex so he can collect a paycheck.

I've learned to like well-maintained and groomed, masculine bald guys ... sexy muscle bears, skinny femmy twinks, lots of types that wouldn't have turned my head when I was just an emerging little pervert.  

There are all sorts of ways for a man to be attractive. There are also all sorts of ways for men to be gross, but yeah ... my range of acceptance has definitely widened, and that's just me with barely a few years of sexual evolution.  ;D

Cumming on poppers can be awesome your first couple of times (it tends to drain your brain of anything but sexual intensity), and it definitely makes accepting large anal penetration much easier. The high is short-lived and intense, and even just in my early 30s, it reminded me of the rush of sexual intensity that I haven't experienced since I was 13.

The problem is that there's a big consequence to pay the day after for me, and maybe even 2-3 days afterward. This might not have been the case with pure amyl back in the day when poppers first emerged, but with the altered chemicals they sell now as "leather cleaners" because of stupid fucking laws … I definitely get the headaches, the wheezy breath, and the malaise afterwards.

Also, I've lost my hardon when I've gone too far with them, which is not fun for me at all. I'm more of a top than a bottom. I don't want to be fucked for hours with a limp dick (though I wouldn't mind fucking a cute someone else for hours  ;D ). I want my dick serviced while it's rock hard, and I want to CUM.

It may just be my personal body chemistry, but there's more negatives than positives for me. I'd love to try a true 70s-version of the original poppers as they used to be before they got fucked over by puritan legislative culture, but until then, I just don't trust what the sex shops put up in their display cases.

I wasn't expecting the major pain barrier to actually be because of length and the depth of penetration. I thought all the pain would come from width and stretching of my ass.

Nope … it was the weird sensation of being dug into within my abdomen that most unnerved me. I'm mostly a top, but I do get into bottoming moods, and I wanted this guy that I had been fucking for a couple of weeks to be my first real dick up my ass. He was very well hung, both wide and long.

Sure, it was difficult at first getting initially penetrated at the sphincter level, but once I got past that, it was no big deal. The actual physical sensation that shocked me was the intense feeling from inside MY OWN GUT. It was unexpected, and I wasn't quite sure how to handle it.

This man (I miss him a lot now, I wish he was still single) was a major bottom and was doing this for me as a favor, so I could experience it. He was used to getting plowed to oblivion as a power bottom, so I think it was difficult for him to understand that he should take it slow, and that I was essentially a virgin in this regard. He seemed to want to fuck me like I fucked him ... immediately and hard and rapidly. It was too much.

Slow is good for the first time. I mean ... frustratingly slow for your top. I think it's very tough for an experienced sexual partner who's been in both roles to remember that.

Anyway, I had to stop him and we switched roles and I dumped a load of my cum up his ass, as was our usual arrangement. I eventually got fucked again by an even bigger dick, and this was with a patient guy that was willing to break me in and be gentle and help get me used to the feeling. He let me decide when the "real" fucking should begin.

At that point, I loved it ... but, yeah. Part of the feeling of anal sex is completely internal. It's not nearly as much about the width-stretching as you think on initial penetration. If you're with a guy who has a pretty LONG dick, that's going to be part of it, and you might not realize that until he's already 5+ inches into you.

Honestly, the best times I've ever had being fucked (size queens, please don't lynch me) is with moderately sized guys who I found attractive for reasons other than dick proportions. All I really need is a little prostate stimulation; I don't need to feel like I'm being stuffed like a teddy bear in a factory.

… are you serious? NEVER.

If you need to cum, then cum. There are a few extremely rare cases where masturbation becomes an uncontrollable compulsion (as in, you can't stop, even if you're doing it 100+ times a day) ... but those are VERY RARE. It's about as rare as people who have died from drinking too much water too quickly, if that gives you any idea of how silly it is to worry about this. Your body is designed to cum as much as it can, until the day you fucking die.

For the mast majority of men, the more you can ejaculate in a day, the better off you are in terms of both psychological and physical health. I weep for the people that "challenge" themselves on the Internet to try to go 2 or more weeks without jacking off, as if that's some kind of magical goal to be achieved. That's nothing to be proud of. If anything, men would be better served in challenging themselves to be able to cum MORE times in a day.

The idea that jacking off is something that should be stopped as you get older is as unhealthy as trying to tell a young teenage boy that jacking off means he's going to Hell.

First of all, it lends credence to the archaic idea that there's anything to be ashamed of about just letting your semen go when you need to ease the pressure a little bit (there are so many people who can never quite shake their indoctrinated feelings of shame of being free and loving of their own sexuality). It's actually damaging to try to force yourself to stop ejaculating on a long-term basis. There is NO reason to feel ashamed of masturbating daily, or multiple times in a day.

Second of all, daily ejaculation helps keep your testosterone levels up, and maintainable testosterone levels are incredibly important for any man's emotional and physical health, no matter HOW FUCKING OLD HE IS.

If you've ever wondered why super-old guys are always so grouchy and yelling at kids to get off their lawn, the answer is simple (if you doubt me, a Google search will prove me right) … testosterone production lowers with age. It's a fucking mistake to stop tugging on your own meat just because you think you're "too old for it." Regularly making sure that your balls are still in working order is a way to slow that decline down.

The "nice" old guys and the "sweet" grandpas that everyone remembers in their childhood are the ones that didn't care if they dropped a load in the shower every day. The "mean" old guys that used to scare you in the neighborhood are the ones that decided that they were too old to cum. Trust me.

It's flat-out unhealthy to avoid ejaculation because of any sort of cultural reason. Do it when you want to, and never think more deeply into it than that. As long as you're not doing it in public, or can't stop yourself to the point that you're literally missing work over it or anything extreme like that (I'm willing to bet that nobody ever reading this forum is at that point, because again ... REALLY FUCKING RARE), you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

If you're holding cum in your balls and refusing to let it go to prove a point to yourself, I feel sorry for you. You're diminishing your capacity to actually perform with a real sexual partner every single fucking day that you do that to your poor reproductive system.

It's nasty enough when other people are abusive and judgmental towards you. Why do that work for them?

So many people still posting in this thread are responding as if the OP was actually talking about "politics," but he wasn't. He may have used that word, but when he elaborated on what he actually meant when he invoked said word … it's clear he's actually talking about bigotry.

This isn't simply not being turned on by someone because they're not your "type." He's already turned on, he wants to jack off, or he finds someone attractive and he feels the desire to date that person -- yet, he can't get over "country of birth." Everything else matches, but he finds out that they were ultimately born in X country or Y country, and boom -- that's the complicating factor.

... sorry, that's not politics. Talking about presidential candidates and their supporters isn't what he meant.

Different kinds of underwear look better on different men with different builds. I always thought slender, smooth twinkish types looked cutest in straight up briefs, Bel Ami type swimmer jock guys in boxer briefs, true muscle hunks in jockies/straps, and frat boy / chill straight bro' types in boxers. I'm just now realizing how complicated my system is.  

For myself to wear, I'm partial to boxers. They slip off easily, there's a nice loose hole (no peeling layers of cloth apart) in the middle that it's hot to get a blowjob through, and they don't hug my junk too much.

Nifty is hands down the golden standard with that kind of thing; I only wish they would update their site with a searchable tagging system that most other websites in the same category use. If you're looking for content that's more specific than their range of broad categories, it usually means doing some sifting to get at what you really want.

There's a lot of those categories and they usually get you in the ballpark of whatever floats your boat, though … at that point, it's worth the sifting. There's no kink-shaming to be had at nifty ... just thousands upon thousands of stories written by other horny people with the same kink as you. LOVE IT!  :cheers:

TLDR –> Flesh-on-flesh feels better than synthetic materials always, and find something with silicone in it if that's all that's involved. If you're dealing with condoms or anal toys, you're stuck with pure water products ... unless someone can correct me and name a brand that's good at both, I think it's a clear division.

Longer post: Sex shops around me always upsell the Gun Oil, and I have to admit it's top-notch for bareback ... just a bit goes a long way.

Gun Oil is not so great if you're fucking with a layer of latex or playing with toys, however. I haven't found anything better but the old standbys like KY or Astroglide for that stuff, though the water-based stuff tends to dry out quickly and often needs to be woken back up with saliva, a bit of water, or more lube. It's also easy to get way too much lube this way because it dries out and starts feeling gritty, so when you do re-add in some moisture there's suddenly a very slick, very wet surface ... but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Lay down some towels.  ;D

@spam17:

@migznadal:

im 21 and i don't like it too.

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Yeah, I had the same reaction to that post, too, haha. I just didn't want to say anything.

I was like, "Bitch, you're 21, you don't KNOW what turns you on yet." When I was 21, I was jerking to the most boring plastic produced Bel Ami and Falcon stuff there was, mainstream DVDs. Bores me to tears, now.

"Extreme" is such a subjective concept; it means different things to different people. You may think the stuff you want to watch is "extreme," but your point of reference is yourself, your experiences, and your own hangups those have built up over time.  Could you let us know the exact content you're looking to find?

Nobody will be shocked or judge you, we promise. Every last one of us has a kink of some kind or other, and I think they intensify as we get older and our inhibitions and anxiety start slipping away. You're going to get responses here from fellow fappers that think your version of 'extreme' is vanilla boring stuff.  ;D

Brett Corrigan by far

Thank you. It was surprising me how far we got without that name being thrown out there. He's often described as having almost a prototype stereotypical bubble butt.

He's gotten more muscular and less twinky as he's aged (I preferred him on the twinky side of things, doing bareback, haha), but that butt was always golden.

Holy cow, is this thread old. It was necro-bumped out of nowhere.

Bottom line, we have PrEP nowadays, so any negative person that wants to do bareback sex scenes should be on it. Also, anyone in the industry who knows themselves to be positive should have the condition controlled (down to undetectable viral loads) before doing porn. There would be no further transmission of the virus if those two measures were in place …. unless the performers had that fetish on the fringe of our culture where they WANT to become infected, at which point, it shouldn't be called a "scandal."

I think this kind of sexual evolution as we age is a lot more common (maybe normal, for people that fully explore their sexuality and allow themselves the harmless, daily joy of cumming, haha) than you may think.

I'm in my early 30s now, but when I was just barely getting on the Internet at 17-18, the only thing that would turn me on were super fit, tanned bronze, flawless, gorgeous model-types. I would seek out porn and I'd basically be stuck with Bel Ami (incredibly hot to the younger version of myself), or Vivid entertainment or something. Oh, and um … I've been jerking off to both gay and straight porn for as long as I've been watching porn, so don't feel weird about it.

What kind of imagery can get my motor running has changed since then, though. I totally get it. I never used to like scrawny little feminine twinks, but Staxus and Helix make some of my favorite scenes now. Probably my favorite type. Also, I used to be really really confused by "tranny" porn, allegedly made for straight guys, but I've since watched a few things along those lines and been really turned on. I always understood wanting to fuck a pussy, or a guy's ass, but for some reason a woman with both tits and a dick just seemed like "someone else's thing" for me, and then all of a sudden ... it was different.

I dig the BBC (big black cock) interracial things too, a monster of a black cock penetrating a petite white partner (male or female). The imagery is intense, of course it's hot! There's a few scenes from Staxus that are gay but inspired by interracial white porn you should check out, if you're finding yourself like this. Also, look up the performer "Goldie" for the straight videos.

Yes, though I think smartphone apps have mostly replaced the need for Craigslist … which in turn was starting to replace the old cruising scene that existed way before my time. Tearooms and adult arcades and that stuff were the Grindr of their day, I think. I remember reading about busts in a local park when I was 15 and being so intrigued with the concept of it, haha.

There's also not much different (in my opinion) about going to a club with the full intent of getting laid within the same night, save for the fact that you have a better chance to make sure you wind up with someone you're really into and there's less judgmental, social stigma attached to getting your one-night-stand jollies that way. 

@Blastfurnace:

So why didn't you start a relationship with that guy?

All my fault. I had other things going on in my life, and striding in the direction of a new connection with someone felt like a burden I didn't want to face. I didn't even try to have sex for almost a year; I just went back to the age-old solution of jerking off (well … jerking off MORE  ;D ).

It was only a few months ago that we last spoke, though. I might still have a chance if I pull my head out; I've got his number.