@lovebearlove:
@SemenDemon:
I'm not into casual sex, and I'm not into having multiple partners, but I do not care if my partner does. I'm really easy-going, as long as people give me the basic respect and consideration I deserve. Honestly and consideration are what matter to me in a serious relationship. That's really the only thing I ask of guys who want a "serious LTR" with me.
Cheating (in other words, lying) and taking advantage of my good nature really pisses me off. But I don't consider it cheating or taking advantage if my partner is upfront about it.
but would it be so unfair for u? as ur partner has an open relationship with u while ur not
Nope. As long as they're honest and with me, I don't care. I don't expect hourly bone reports and constantly being told where they are and what they are doing, just that they let me know whether or not I should wait around for them, if it's okay with me to have someone over, etc. And would I expect them to use protection for hook-ups, if only for my own sake. That's not even up for discussion. I'd expect that of anyone worth being with as part of a committed relationship. I fully comprehend why people would think this sounds weird, "unfair" or like being taken advantage of. But openness and communication is really the mitigating factor of all that for me. Also, the fact that I'm really not into flings or multiple partners means I don't feel like I'm "missing out" or being cheated of anything.
Truth be told, in my perfect fantasy world, I'd be with a guy that's into single-partner relationships like I am. But guys like that seems to be incredibly uncommon. I'd rather have a guy who is honest about having multiple partners than one who lies about it. Seems like the best compromise. I am not prone to jealousy or insecurity in relationships, just so long as I don't feel like I'm being manipulated or lied to. I don't need to "have" my partner completely. Only to feel like I have someone who I can trust and be myself with, and who can trust in and be themselves with me as well. While I like the idea of sex with someone I'm that close with, I can even live without that. I'd rather have an intense platonic relationship over a casual, disconnected sexual one. I guess it's fair to say I wouldn't want a partner with multiple committed relationships, but I don't care about flings or "fuck buddies".