Posts made by Runewell

I think the first game I actually completed was the first Grandia, which is 60+ hours long…I was just so wrapped up in the story and characters. It was my first JRPG as well!!! Everything before that had been platformers (which always got too difficult for me to complete) and fighters (which I don't think counts?).

Peacock by Katy Perry XD

I don't see anything wrong with it, really, but I could see why it would make some people uncomfortable. I'm 30 years old, and I still kiss both of my parents on the cheek (but never on the mouth, we just didn't do that). Would it have made any difference if it was his mother? Or is it because it's a family member? Everyone is set off by something.

I've seen young parents kissing their young children on the mouth, and again, it's a peck, not something extended or inappropriate. It's a sign of affection…the world could use a whole lot more of it.

I DID NOT vote for him, but seeing as how he was elected, I'm willing to give him a chance, and see what happens. Mind you, I'm terrified, but I'm ok with waiting long enough to see if he'll stabilize somewhat. I keep telling myself that he was acting in order to get the part…but his entire life's history leads me to believe this was nothing but a power grab. I hope (but at the moment seriously doubt) he did this to help Rust Belters get their manufacturing and mining jobs back. He's spent his life trying to accumulate money and power, and in questionable ways, I might add.  The pure disgust I had originally has now mellowed into a kind of hopeful bitterness. I WANT so badly to be wrong about all the ways this could go south, but I can't help feeling something bad will happen. I mean...I'm hearing whispers of Steve Bannon as Chief of Staff, and it nauseates me. All of the names that have floated up as potential cabinet members...it just reeks of hard right hatred and mob-like thuggery. NOT TO MENTION-- Dave Duke and other white supremacists will probably be knocking at the White House back door expecting some kind of bone to be thrown their way.......YES, it scares me THAT much.

In all fairness, Hillary DID win the popular vote. Literally more bodies voted for her than voted for Trump--of course, due to the Electoral College, and the way the votes are distributed between states, Trump very nearly swept the board.  Additionally, bits of each demographic everyone expected to vote for Hillary (blacks, latinos, etc., etc.) either didn't show up for her on the level everyone thought they would, or defected to Trump completely.  Obama's popularity with minorities just didn't translate 100% to her, and unfortunately I think Dems banked too hard on that.

In hindsight, Bernie totally should have been nominated instead of Hillary, but I think Dems feared he'd have lost to some of the more traditional Repubs in the case that Trump lost the nomination. I think at the time it was Cruz who was closest behind Trump...it was a calculated move that seriously shot them in the foot.

Here, here!! I'm a FF nerd as well and CANNOT WAIT.  I don't currently own a PS4 but I'll probably buy one just for this game! lol

The funny part about it is that half the people that died probably weren't even gay. There are MANY str8 people who will go the club with their gay friends….

@darkph0rze:

I'm not saying he couldn't have been a self-hating bi or gay man but it seems to me the media is overlooking the fact that he might have been scouting for targets. According to what his dad said he was angered at two men kissing a long while back. If he was carrying that hate with him then he could have been searching for single targets to murder or doing recon on the place before going on his maniacal killing spree.
Of course I guess we'll never know but I find it odd that this angle seems completely overlooked.

This is true, there's always that possibility…but I wonder why it had to be GAY targets in particular? Doesn't make sense in most organized acts of terrorism, from what I've seen.

I'm toeing a very fine line here, but basically, I'm saying that his act was aimed at hurting gay people and supporters/friends, but I don't think it was ISIS related--that's just an excuse. Whether he was gay or not, this was a hate crime, more than a terrorist attack.  Why choose a gay nightclub, at night, at 2am when everyone is about to leave instead of attacking somewhere that would affect a larger demographic of people? Granted, he killed and injured many people anyway, but I feel like it misses the typical terrorist pattern by a huge margin. It doesn't make him gay, but it does suggest he had a serious personal problem with gay people; while the anti-gay sentiment is in line with most extremist religious terrorist organizations like ISIS, this isn't typically a priority for them. Of course, it makes sense they'd try to take credit for it.

From what I read though (several different articles from several sources) he used all sorts of foul language toward all groups, so maybe none of this means anything.

Not surprised about that. The more I read about this, the more I feel like this was a case of repressed homosexuality that turned into rage and hatred rather than a pointed terrorist attack having anything to do with ISIS.  I mean…why did he spend so much time on gay hook up apps? And at that particular gay club? Seems he didn't quite have himself figured out, and on top of that his ex wife AND ex coworker said he had severe anger issues and mood swings.

@Matie:

In some ways though gay marriage can never be equal to straight marriage- those 2 partners can never have kids together for example

Hmmm…I don't know if having children is part of the equation, though. After all, there are many straight, married couples that are unable to biologically have children. Of course, they can adopt, but an unmarried, gay couple will have a much more difficult time adopting.

Anyway, not all gay couples that want to be married are interested in having children. I think it's probably more about the rights/privileges given to people who are married vs. the ones who aren't. Gay or not, a married couple would probably have a much easier time adopting a child than if they weren't.

If a gay person wants to live a married/suburban/picket fence life, I think they should be allowed to (of course, I think that's a very narrow way to view marriage).  All people want is the legal rights and advantages that come along with the title, not to be just like every other married couple on the planet.  Being married doesn't have to mean being tied down--it depends on what you and your partner want and expect from the relationship that can turn it into a ball and chain situation.

I also don't think gays are naive enough to think that marriage is some perfect world, either. You have to work to maintain a marriage, just as you have to work to maintain ANY type of human relationship. Straight couples are quite the testament to that--there are enough married, miserable straight couples and thrice-divorced singles in this world already. If you're not cut out for marriage, you're just not, and you don't have to pretend you are. However, I think there are many gays who ARE perfectly suited for marriage, and they should have that option.

My question to you is this– Is he 100% clear on how much you like him, or are you holding back? Are you guys really on the same page? If he gets jealous with you talking to other guys, that's a good sign...but make sure he knows exactly what kind of relationship you want from him and let him make the decision. Don't let yourself be miserable! :hug:

Agreed with everyone else.

If I were you I'd go ahead and let him know (If he doesn't know already???) that I'm really only interested in him and wouldn't be cool with him having a girlfriend, AND that me getting a girlfriend to "even things up" isn't an option either.  You're going to have to be ready to walk away if he chooses the girl…but he needs to know you won't feel right settling for anything else if you're wanting to commit to a monogamous relationship.  Make it clear once, but you really shouldn't have to have the conversation over and over because if you let it drag on, you'll always be in this situation as long as you're with him...which sounds hellish to me

Whoa. That sounds horrifying…that's never happened to me. If that's happening to you, you'll have to do something about it. Wouldn't want it to get any worse than that!

I never played that one…Sonic Adventure and Power Stone were my favorite games on the Dreamcast XD

@Valicore:

You of course can't change it, anymore than you can make a straight person gay. Sexual attraction is a very complicated combination of genetics, environment, epigenetics, etc. I don't think you would be any more successful at changing someone's sexual orientation through genetic therapies than you would be at changing one's bone structure - it's too deeply embedded in the brain and in our body's physical chemistry.

Agreed–I feel like there's an infinite number of variables that contribute to homosexuality--and the one thing I can say is that it's natural. It occurs at a relatively uncommon (compared to heterosexuality), but constant rate. It happens in wildlife and humans--I don't think we could ever learn enough about what "causes" homosexuality to ever be able to change it.  And then again, why would we need to? It's never going to overtake heterosexuality but it's never going away either--it's constant. Sexuality, (and by that I mean true, willing attraction to whatever it is you're attracted to) cannot be taught. Behaviors can be taught, but behaviors don't say everything about what's going on inside the brain.  True sexual identification can only happen individually–you can never see inside someone's brain to see if their sexual experience is exactly the same as yours, even if you both identify the same way. As each person learns to understand the world differently, they come to understand themselves differently, and (what we categorize as) sexuality follows. It just is, and we're all trying to describe our experience. Our labels (homo/hetero/bi/a/pan/every other type of sexuality) are just a categorization of external behaviors, but inside each of our brains, it's much much more complex and and no two humans are alike. That's why I don't think it can or should ever try to be changed.

OOH!! Such lively discussion. Now that homophobia seems to have breached the "social visibility" line, I kinda feel like this will be the next frontier…biphobia. It really is a nuanced and sensitive topic in the LGBTQ community. I too, used to be mystified and intimidated by the idea of a bisexual man that expressed interest in me because as was mentioned before, there is a level of jealousy and insecurity involved. It's tough to put in words because it's so.... abstract but I'll try.

I think it stems from growing up learning what it was to be gay. I'm referring to the process of realizing you have interest in men but that the majority of them have no interest in you because they were straight. Fundamentally, its a battle you can not win because you are not female–its over before it starts.  Once you're past that and get into the community of gay men, its liberating and relieving.

But then when I found out there are men who are into both men and women it was a little disconcerting because it felt like a competition. I never assumed bis were in denial or anything like that--I did the opposite. I lumped them in with straights--I assumed they were just "experimenting" and didn't really romantically like men. I felt like I wouldn't really have a chance with a bi guy because I assumed he'd always like women more than me, and that, somehow, was worse than being cheated on by a gay guy with another man.

It's very binary reasoning, and it doesn't really make sense logically, but in an emotional, subjective way it does. If your gay boyfriend cheats on you with another man, it doesn't feel quite as bad because that other guy has a penis too. Your man's brain is still functioning the same, whether its with you or another man. But women are fundamentally, physically different and if it's possible for him to like "that", it's painful because I, as a man, am literally "not that". The collective "she" will always have a physical, social (and probably psychological) experience with him that I can never have. "She" can give and receive from him what I can never give or receive because I am not female. That thought is a fear of the alien and the unknown because he becomes a part of a different dynamic when he is with a woman, and that thought feels like a betrayal.

That's going preeeeeeetty deep and makes me sound completely insane XD but it's the best way I can describe my own "fear of bi".  I can't speak for anyone else but I don't think I'm reaching to say others may have felt this way as well in an abstract, subconscious way.

Let me stress that this was how I thought, say 10 years ago. My thinking has changed a lot since then. Although I might still be a little intimidated by the thought of dating a bi guy, I'd never turn him down if I liked him. I do not judge bi guys and I believe each man should be judged on his own merits, and not his sexuality. We should have enough security in ourselves as people and as sexual beings to allow bi guys to be who they are, and trust that if they like you, they like you

I have a friend who actually did a solo scene for HotOlderMale (years ago) and he's asked me if I wanted to do a fucking scene with him for it hahaha!! He's not a shy person at all, but I am way too shy for that!! Plus, as someone else said, I wouldn't be any good performing on camera!!

Have you guys ever seen Little Nemo: Adventures in Slumberland? It was probably my favorite animated movie as a kid. It had a little bit of an anime look, but still had a Western feel.  To this day I still enjoy that movie–it's lighthearted but also very dark and intense!!

Agreed, I loved that show! It came out when I was a kid but I never had the courage to watch it until I got to college, when I was fully out myself. A straight friend got me into it, and I became addicted to that show!!! I got a couple other friends into it myself XD.

My favorite horror movie of all time is probably the first Scream movie.  It took the best from so many other horror movies and just crammed it into one big, scary, funny, self-aware, funfest, and the soundtrack was amazing. I know that movie backwards and forwards and can quote it almost line for line.

Actually, a very close second (by a hair's breadth) is the 1990's remake of Night of the Living Dead. The concept and presentation just scares the living hell out of me, and never gets old no matter how many times I watch it.

I was a 90's kid, so the horror movies that affected me most, it seems, were in the 90s XD!!!

I think it probably has something to do with lack of being threatened, at least in respect to gay men.  Women aren't threatened sexually, because a gay man won't invade their space, and a gay man also isn't competition (in most cases XD).  As far as other women…in society women are allowed and encouraged to be closer both emotionally and physically to each other from a very young age--I think it is part of what is considered being feminine.  And then, in straight man land, girl on girl homoerotica is encouraged, so again, straight women are less uncomfortable with it because it's a way to get men's attention, even if they aren't into other girls. Basically, it doesn't threaten their femininity to be close to women. They can do it and still feel feminine.

Men are more uncomfortable with gay men because their masculinity is threatened by another man being too physical or affectionate with them.  Somehow, being gay means being "less masculine", the way mainstream society sees it, but this seems to be changing more or less, as far as I can see.  After all, I've met and seen many butch gay men who are so manly they'd make most straight guys feel like little girls XD.