Posts made by Runewell

In my opinion, having friends that you consider homophobic when you yourself are gay is very toxic and damaging to your self esteem. I know it's tough, but you have to consider how close you really feel to him, and if having him as a friend is worth it.  In my life, one of the best things I did for myself was filtering homophobic people out of my life.  You have to either come out to him, or let him know that you don't want to hear homophobic language and sentiments. It will become clear whether you should remain friends with him or not after that.

I'd say you have a couple options next time he says something homophobic and you're in a situation to actually talk (meaning no other people around to make you both feel uncomfortable): A) Say or imply that you don't have a problem with gays or being gay, and see what his response is. B) Ask him WHY he feels that way about homosexuality, and see what his response is. C) You could always just come out to him, but that may be too much at once for the both of you. I'd save this for after you have probed him a little more.

Wouldn't a real friend accept you for who you are, regardless of his prejudices? For all you know, he could be struggling with it himself, as others have suggested. While that's not guaranteed, if he IS struggling with it, you could be doing him a favor by discussing the issue openly with him.  If he's simply never been exposed to gay people in his life, you're still doing him and yourself a favor by discussing it–if he really likes you as a person, he'll try to understand you rather than shunning you. If you don't feel safe talking to him at all about it, I'd just try to find other friends--ones that you know won't have a problem with you being gay.

Again, I know it's tough, but think of it as you giving yourself permission to be accepted. You should not have to put up with someone talking negatively about you, directly or indirectly. You deserve to surround yourself with people who know all of you and accept all of you. In order to avoid rejection, you must first accept yourself, and put up with no less from others.

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Certain straight porn gets me going and I consider myself 98% gay. It's the man that gets me off, and I love to watch a hot man get his rocks off. The tits and cunt don't bother me, but I hate it when the bitch is too loud. The thing I like about straight porn is that the men seem to be more vocal. I love nothing more than hearing some good dirty talk during fucking.

That's pretty much me 100% too. It does depend on my mood, but I WILL watch a straight scene if the guy is hot. The guy is the only thing I'm paying attention to–I've always been turned on watching a man who's really getting off on pounding a girl to town. Aside from the boob and vag shots, and annoying high pitched screaming from the woman, I can enjoy a super hot, furry daddy in straight porn.  Now that I think about it, maybe there's something psychological going on because even when I watch gay porn (90% of the time) I'm tuning out the bottom and only watching the top.

Last time the power went out at my place, my roommate and I took a walk outside. It was almost dark when we started, and turns out the whole city was suffering a blackout. We went downtown and even the restaurants were dark, but you could hear many people inside, still talking, laughing and some even cheering. It was quite an experience and I got a lot of exercise XD

Wow, everyone sleeps naked!! Yeah, I always sleep with underwear (skimpy as possible) and a tshirt (also, as skimpy as possible) lol. I have only ever slept naked when I was with someone else…isn't that weird?! 

Yeah, sounds like regardless you need to ask him straight up. It could be the sexual part has cooled. It's sad but it happens–if that's the only thing binding you two together (you don't enjoy spending time with each other otherwise) then maybe there's nothing that you can do about it. But you need to ask and hope he tells you the truth.

He was married to begin with, right? Maybe it's just a pattern he goes through...gets close to someone, falls out of love/lust, then moves on

Never been caught in the act, but I've been caught with porn on my computer. SO embarrassing!!! It was behind another window and my dad went to use my computer…when he was done with the browser he minimized the window and there it was!!! He just got up and went on with his business, and didn't say anything!!  :afr:

Yeah, there's definitely a couple things to consider before buying either one. Are you a big online player? Would you want to play with your friends? What do they have? What type of games do you like? There will be plenty of games released on both, but there will be exclusives for each as well (some only for a limited time, though).

I am a big JRPGer so the PS4 would naturally be my first choice. The Xbox has some, but not as many, originally Japanese released games. If you like more of the team-based shooting or Western developers, the Xbox might be a better option (The PS4 has these as well but I feel like the XBox libraries have more of them quite and a few exclusives).

I'm looking forward to Kingdom Hearts 3, Final Fantasy XV, and the remake of Final Fantasy VII, and they will definitely be out on PS4 first.

Not to re-animate an old(ish) topic, but I'm excited too! I played the original a long time ago, maybe 1999 or 2000 and really enjoyed it. I'm so curious about how it's going to play–how do you guys think the battle system will be? I really can't imagine it being exactly the same as the PS version was, but that's what most people seem to want. FF battle systems have evolved so much, and I'm sure it'll be great fun regardless, but I am dying for a sneak peek at some live game play.

The thing I find really funny, though, is how some fans of this particular Final Fantasy installment have been begging and whining for a remake, (ignoring ALL the other FF games that have come out since then), but are GUARANTEED to complain about it once the gameplay is revealed. I've already seen so many comments on the YouTube videos and trailers about "If it doesn't have x, y, and z I'm not buying it..." or "If Square screws this up I won't buy from them ever again" so on, and so forth.  ::)

Long way to go worldwide, but it's gaining ground!

I agree…it depends on the situation. Is it a big part of life where you live? Is the subject ever present in your life? To what degree does the matter pressure you internally?

If you're surrounded by super religious people and don't have any friends, co-workers, etc that you can talk to about this, I'd stay quiet for sure. What kind of retaliation you could experience for that type of sentiment? Even non-violently, there can be serious consequences like ostracization and revocation of any financial assistance you may be receiving from family.

If you are independent, with friends and a support system outside of the faithful, maybe you're fine. Even in that case though, I'd only share it with people if they asked or really pushed you (in which case they probably already know anyway). I don't see the point in "coming out" as athiest, unsolicited. It's just something you are or aren't, a lot like being gay. No reason to hide it (if it's safe to do so) but no reason to trumpet it to the world if no one asks....

Thanks for the help guys!  ;D

Quick question–I was wondering--is it possible to change the time that is displayed to the appropriate time zone? Right now, the time displayed on the site is six hours ahead of my actual time…just a little confusing. I was looking around but I can't seem to find a setting to change it.

United States here! Currently in South Carolina visiting family but will be returning to San Francisco, California to continue graduate school in September. Can't wait to get back to that lovely city.  ;D :love:

Ah yes…it's definitely a nice feeling to crush on someone  But first things first–find out if he likes guys or not. If so, then you at least have a chance!

You are speaking my language haahha!! Looks like we have a lot of gaming experience in common!! The very same games have filled  many hours of my childhood and fueled my imagination

I definitely had my time with SSX and Burnout…somehow I lost my Burnout game though. Had many a great night with my brother on that one.

Final Fantasy - nuff said!! Also a huge fan of those games and have played every one. I'm not an MMO person but FF XIV might change that. It looks awesome!!  Kingdom Hearts is another great series. Currently have only play KH1 and KH2, haven't gotten to any of the spinoffs or side stories…but I'm waiting so anxiously for KH3!!

I've only played the first Rachet and Clank but I did love it XD. I'm pretty sure I own Dynasty warriors 2 - 7. LOL!! It just never gets old…love the hack and slash through hordes with a little strategy added.

Also a Sim City fan! I actually got into it through a mod someone did on my Xbox where he put the ENTIRE SuperNintendo library on it!! Since then I've played SimCity 4 and SimCity 3000 but I always get to a point where I just can't maintain the city anymore…bad management I guess XD

Thanks Cannonmc! I will be around a lot!

It's really tough to have a crush on someone when you don't know if they're gay or not (hell, it's hard enough even if they ARE gay!!!). On top of that its a work situation? That could easily get messy if you aren't careful! But you have to make a move in one of two directions - a play toward him, or a play to get over the crush. By doing one or the other, you'll get unstuck.

If you want to have a chance with him, you'd have to first know if he's gay or not. In your chats, you'll have to get up the courage to ask him/listen for clues about his personal life. Nothing too invasive, but enough to find the answers you need. The easiest and most common is just to ask if he has a girlfriend (at an appropriate time! Not randomly!!)
If you actually know he's not into guys, you'll have an easier time getting over the crush.

It's all about keeping yourself from pining away for your crush/holding a torch. Don't think about it as who you think they are or want them to be. Once you give up on the IDEA of them and focus on who they really are 100%, you can be around them more easily.  It will take some time for you to stop seeing them in that way.  If you know it's all in your head, then do things to make yourself not focus on him. You shouldn't avoid him, but try to see him as he really is. If you two are friendly, try to find that answer that you may not really want to hear (he's str8, already taken, not interested, etc.) Those things help you to distance yourself from an imaginary romantic ideal.

Hope that helps a little–I know this sort of situation sucks!!!  :hug2:

Anyone who'd believe that crap about some kind of HomoHolocaust is a paranoid idiot. Aside from the (obvious) abhorrence of the possibility of the idea, it also would just never be logistically possible.  :laugh: Ruining livelihoods and putting people out of power is a much more likely scenario XD.

All joking aside–it's a terrible analogy. Christians in America (can't speak for anywhere else) haven't even begun to taste what true persecution is. Not getting your way? Go cry me a river.

On a long break from school…and due to  an eczema outbreak have been staying in from the sun.  I've totally gotten back into my games, which I hadn't touched for over 6 months.

Right now, simultaneously playing through Tales of Symphonia (PS3 port) and Tales of Eternia (PS1). Rogue Galaxy is off to the side just waiting for me to start it….and I am itching to buy Final Fantasy XIII Lightning Returns.

Welcome! I'm new and liking the vibe here as well. Seems to be lots of nice people around!!