I know this thread is kinda old but someone else refreshed it and that's why I noticed it. I thought I would add a reply because when I was 14 I was in the same kind of situation but I was the teenager in question!
Basically my dad (who I've only ever met about 7 times in my life) forced my outing as he discovered my browsing history and told my mum who in turn told all my siblings and friends… I was mortified and very scared, I lost my best friend because of this (turns out she hated gays so probably for the best! :D). I actually ran away from home for several weeks but that's another story!
Anyway when I finally came back home, one day I was in my room and my older cousin walks in, apparently my mum wanted him to have a chat with me about being gay. It was one of the most awkward moments of my life. He basically said "yeah so hi, I'm your cousin and I'm gay and your mum wanted me to talk to you. I don't really know what to say so I'm just going to stand here for 10 minutes then leave. Do you have any questions?".. I replied something like "Nope". We ended up just chatting about the usual small stuff people do then he left.
As a kid I must have been thinking something like "what the fuck was my mum thinking" "that was so embarrassing" "like they haven't already told enough people"... "When I'm ready I will talk about it myself".
So I guess it did feel like invasion of privacy. It's quite hard to think back and try to remember how you felt as a teenager in such scenarios.
Here's an extra little story some might find amusing. I have 3 sisters and 1 brother. 1 of my sisters lived away from home and it turned out everyone forgot to tell her I was gay/came out. One day she phones me up to see how I am and I was like "I'm fine, I went out clubbing last night, slept with this guy I met bla bla.. other gay club talk". She says "Wait.. what? You're GAY?!". I said "I thought you knew, I thought everyone knew, didn't they tell you?" She said "No, no one's told me anything". At this point I was stammering and stressing and really worried... she could tell and quickly replied "Don't worry I don't mind, I've known you was gay ever since you was about 3 years old". lol phew :hug:
I'd be interested to know how it went for you and your cousin. Hopefully he'll have a better experience than I did!