@semurg30:
I have a straight drinking buddy who admitted he went to a gay club a few times to "support a friend" whatever that means. I wish I found that endearing…honestly I felt creeped out a little for some reason I couldn't quite articulate.
I didn't find it supportive...more like that feeling a black person probably gets when a white friend feels they've the right to use the N word. Not the same thing at all but I don't want straight friends in the gay part of my world and I don't want to be the token gay friend that gets them off the hook every time they do something douchey. With strangers I don't care where they go. But I don't want straight friends trying to bond with me about how supportive they are. I can stomach a somewhat homophobic friend who's at least honest about their feelings and boundaries...I don't want a fake supposedly supportive friend...those are the worst.
I'm sorry, but if you don't like your straight friends to be a part of your gay life, maybe you don't consider them really friends. Why are some of you guys trying to push your gay life apart from the other part of you. It's all you. And if your friends give you grief about how you live your life, they're not your friends. And about those bars. Everyone can go to straight bar, noone is talking about who'd go there and who wouldn't, but to go or not to go to gay pub, there has to be a discussion. I never went to gay pubs or maybe I did actually because I never knew where they were and these days I just don't go out anymore that much. I know there's this club where gay ppl would go on sundays, other nights were for everyone.