I don't mind huge torrents as long as they come with contact sheets for everything. There's no way in the world that I am interested in all the 2000 files from the Sean Cody collection. I can instead download the contact sheets and check which ones I want and go directly to them without the need to download 1TB worth of mysterious files.
If something is too big and you're unable to grab it it's unfortunate, but you are not entitled to object to people taking a file and uploading it as is. That's already a time consuming task, not everybody has the time and technical skills required to re-process a file aiming for a smaller size while retaining visual quality.
Suggesting that the site should limit file sizes, or torrent sizes, is just as reasonable as suggesting you to hire a better internet service.
After downloading, you are completely free to re-encode the file yourself, and if you want to benefit from the ability to seed it you only need to upload it to the site.