Posts made by deflorare

@MikeChang:

@21mapple:

In my early 20s I had a lot of casual sex, but like you I wanted more. The way I saw it was to have fun until I met the right guy who to wanted to settle down. This didnt happen until I was 26 and 12 years later we are still together.

Eventually you will find the guy you like who you want to settle with who feels the same. Just hang in there and keep looking!

I was a late bloomer and had nothing before I came out, and very little after.  My first time with a guy was nothing more than a blowjob, but I fell head over heals only to be dropped like a stone and discover how the "gay sex/dating/romance world" worked.  That made me build such a huge wall of defence that very few got even close enough for a kiss.  Then I met this guy, he had a lot more experience than me and had been around the block so to speak, but we really hit it off and 17 years later we are still together.

We weren't looking for sex or a boyfriend when we met, just mates and it grew from there with very little effort and none of the bullshit a lot of people seem to have, it just came so natural.  Yes people tried to split us up, tried to hit on one or the other but nothing got in the way.  Do either of us have an amazing body "NO" are either of us drop dead gorgeous "NO" we are just average guys who didn't go looking for love, it found us.

That's a lovely story. Congrats.  :hug2:

Leave him and never speak to him again. 

Most other people would be polite to you in responding to a thread like this, and the reason why I wasn't in my last post was because there are countless men — straight and gay — who feel the same as you do. It's not because of other people, though. It's because of you. Obviously nobody else has told you where you're going wrong so I may as well. I'll try my best not to condescend.

1. You are too focused on looks. Yeah, you're probably not going to fall in love with someone you think is hideous, but maybe if you genuinely do want love, you should lower your standards and stop seeking guys that look sexually attractive to you, but more boyfriend material. As in, it doesn't matter if he's average looking, because his personality will make him more attractive to you if you're compatible. As in, instead of clicking or tapping on the guy's photo with the six-pack abs, visit the page with the references to things you like to do that aren't casual sex. Like sports or video games or hiking or whatever.

2. Do some soul searching. Instead of looking elsewhere and wondering why everyone just wants to bang and leave, maybe you should consider more into what it is that you're actually looking for in a man rather than just looking at his hot face and his hot body and then organising a meet-up. Take things more slowly!

3. You don't have to always say 'yes'. I know this is rude of me, but it's true. Maybe if you start saying 'no' instead of jumping into bed with anyone that you find attractive, you'll start feeling like you have more control and maybe then other men will take you more seriously. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with doing what you are doing, but if you're actually looking for a serious, adult relationship, you need to broaden your horizons outside of your type, start taking more control and rely more on your mind for romantic and physical paths rather than your penis.

With Sean Cody, I usually wish the action would stop. All that fake moaning… 

I'm surprised you didn't write "I can't see their dicks through the pixels."

I'm really bored of hearing gay men say shit like "I hate camp men like those queers on TV! They don't hae to be like that."

Do they not realise that there does actually exist some men — straight and gay — who are effeminate, and it isn't put on, just like some men are masculine and it isn't put on? Jesus christ…

I wish people would just let others live and be themselves. I'd much rather be friends with someone who is girly or campy by nature than some gymrat bro who does nothing but over-compensate to fit into a straight masculine mould and takes steroids so people will think he's more manly than he really feels.

Just be yourselves!

Why is he so desperate for gay fans?

How about instead of fucking everything with a postcode, you go on some dates and meet people in intelligent surroundings?

It's highly unlikely that you'll find true love on a hook-up app.  ::)

The reality is that 90-95% of men are straight, so there's always going to be a portion of men in pornography that are. Most gay men are attracted to masculinity. Most straight men are masculine.

I don't think we need to worry too much about it, although I do find the "masc for masc" concept quite narcissistic and sad.

@yourgoodwife:

ew, disgusting

::)

@Ohiomike:

A white ass on a tan man is sexy as hell

@bluehue:

I find it's easier, more polite, and ultimately more effective to just use positive language.

No fat or fems = Preference given to fit, healthy, and manly.

I personally avoid the people who use excessive negative exclusionary language.

But hey, I'm single. What do I know about meeting nice guys… 

I've never understood why people dislike him so much. Wasting that much negative energy on a celebrity seems silly to me. Sure, in the past he has acted like a brat, and his music is mostly bad, but why do people hate him so much more than most other mediocre popstars?

I don't really have an opinion of him myself, but I do like his butt.

I'd go on dates with him, but I wouldn't be in a relationship until he came out.

Loyal

Black or grey.

PS

I recently shaved my butt, balls and penis for the first time. It left the skin around my butt and dick irritated, but after that it felt nice. The hair grew back in a few days, though. I think that I'll just shave my balls and trim everything else instead from now on. It seems like too much effort.

@Aleedinver:

@deflorare:

You don't have to be huge to be a pornstar these days. Most American actors look pretty small in comparison to Europeans and Black men. Just look at Brandon from Sean Cody.

Brandon my be a bit boring and have an average dick, but has a gorgeous body… I wouldn't exchange his body for my cock, but I understand because many like him... same for Arad... he has definitely an under-average cock, but I'd like to worship him... I'm a top, but I don't have to be entirely gay or bottom to worship a muscle god with an handsome face...

I know he is very handsome and has a great body. I was just pointing out that most of the time in American porn, that's what you need more than a big dick.

You don't have to be huge to be a pornstar these days. Most American actors look pretty small in comparison to Europeans and Black men. Just look at Brandon from Sean Cody.