Posts made by 36605domtop

I have never swallowed my own cum, but have tasted it after kissing someone who has swallowed all of mine.

I prefer whomever I am with to always swallow. I voice my expectations upfront, so there are no surprises.  When that moment arrives, I take control and do not let anyone back away.  It is a HUGE turn on for me to watch a guy swallow my load, and I make sure it happens.

If I am turned on enough to be sucking someone, I will swallow as well. Anything less is hypocritical, given my expectations.

Yes to 3somes and 4somes.  (4somes or any even number are better.  Odd numbers can, but not always, leave someone feeling left out.)

Yes to Bath houses.  (Steamworks chain is a favorite.)

No to sex parties.  I have been invited, but haven't actually gone through with it yet for some reason.  (I'm excepting small private parties in hotel rooms at gay events such as Folsom, IML, White Party, Black Party, etc.)

http://9x6lubes.com/

I like silicone lubes, but hate the fact that they stain sheets so badly.  I stumbled across this lube a few years back during a trip to SF, and have been a user ever since.  Silicone based and no stains!

Hmm…no love for the French film known in the US as "High Tension"?  That was one of the best horror films to come out in the early 2000's.  A second from me would be "A Serbian Film" already previously mentioned.  That was one real mess with your mind movie.

The Original Star Wars Trilogy: Star Wars, The Empire Strikes Back, and Return of the Jedi.

1. Stay With Me - Sam Smith
2. Same Love - Macklemore
3. Free (Mood II Swing Extended Vocal Mix) - Ultra Nate (I will never forget this song from my first NYC Gay Pride in 1997.)

@pornofan:

But I am made uneasy by adverts from people who want their potential partner to be "straight-acting" or "masculine." Wtf?

I have used the term 'masculine' before to get across what I am looking for in ads and profiles online.  I can not speak for what others may mean, but I can speak for myself.

What that means for me: A man that's into guy stuff. Sports (excepting golf, I can do pretty much anything but that), beer/alcohol, the outdoors, working on cars, working with computers, fixing things, electronics, etc. Typical guy stuff.  Not ruling other things out, and I am open to suggestion, but if the only thing one can come to me with is "antiquing" or home decorating, or mens fashion, you probably aren't what I am looking for. Don't get me wrong, I am as fashion conscious as the next guy. (You have to be these days, other men, or women if you are straight/bi, have certain expectations nowadays.) I also realize that some straight guys have gotten even better at fashion than the average gay guy (oh, the horror!), but I don't live for fashion. It's not my world. Antiquing, I can do every now and then, but it's not an every weekend activity for me. Home decor - well, once it's done, it's done for me for the next 2-3 years.  If you need to redo it all every season, every six months, or even every year, then I am not for you. I'm not interested in whether the drapes match the current season. My bedroom comforter and sheets, – while always 600 thread count plus! (aggressive sex on scratchy sheets sucks) -- don't have to match the curtains. (Don't laugh.  After a hot round of sex with a guy once, he actually said that to me. I told him where my curtains were, and let him change them.  Then, I fucked him again as a reward for changing the curtains, lol.)

More importantly, masculine is the lack of feminine or stereotypically gay traits.  So - that lisp or swish, that's a no go for me. You want to dress in women's clothes? Let me introduce you to my friend, X, who may be more appreciative/receptive of that than me. A high voice? I know, I know, it's something a person has no control over, but it's a deal breaker for me. I don't need Barry White bass, but it shouldn't make me picture a purse falling out of your mouth.

For me, masculinity is how one presents himself and what his interests are.  It has nothing to do with sex.  I identify as a top, but there is nothing sexier to me than a masculine bottom grunting "Fuck me, harder, now!"  If we get into a competition to see who's going to make the other cum first, that's quality stuff right there, and I don't mind losing if he's THAT good! Being a bottom does not make one less masculine. For me, that's as masculine as it gets. I tip my hat to those who can take what I like to give, because I know from personal experience that I couldn't take it. As a top, I don't feel any less masculine if I have a hard cock in my mouth. I'm not selfish. I can give too, at least in some form. Kissing, holding hands, being affectionate in public is all cool. But waiting 3 hrs for roadside assistance to show up to change your flat tire instead of doing it yourself or using the fix-a-flat kit that many new cars come with in lieu of a donut spare?...you had better have been on a very dangerous highway if I hear that story, unless you don't know how to do either.  That's total woman type stuff right there. If you don't know how, then I need you to be open to learning, because that's something every guy should know, at least in my opinion.  You don't have to fix or know everything on your car yourself, but basic words like engine, transmission, water pump, alternator shouldn't be like a foreign language to you. If nothing else, you should know what those things are and do, even if you don't know where they are on your car.  That's nothing that a 2 hr basic car maintenance course wouldn't take care of, and I am worth two hours.  I'd even pay for it!

Hopefully that gives you a bit of an idea what masculine means for me. It's non-pc, hopefully funny, but unvarnished.  I jokingly make reference to a lot of silly situations I have come across, but I hope I don't offend too many people.

That would be legal if the legislative did away with marriage license. In effect getting out of the marriage game, but in order to do that they would also have to in effect rewrite their tax codes and many others as well. What it would boil down to would be that they would have to null and void all marriages in the state from the states standpoint.

The argument in AL is completely different.  There has been no talk of stopping marriage licenses being issued to heterosexual couples (although some counties have done so until this is "figured out").  The discussion here is around the fact that the AL state Constitution specifically defines marriage as being between a man and a woman, and no one can force the state to do anything otherwise, including the US Supreme Court.  The AL Supreme Court has essentially ruled that the US Supreme Court's ruling doesn't apply to them because nothing has been changed in the AL state Constitution.

This state is heading for another George Wallace "Stand in the Schoolhouse Door moment", only this time it's a stand again gay marriage instead of racial integration.  It's a shame that AL politicians do things like this. The state isn't really as backwards as people think (especially in the bigger cities - I'll give you the many small towns and such), but many people in politics hold these outdated notions based on biblical beliefs, and the public is at fault for voting them in.  But it's the liberal and apathetic people, who rarely choose to vote given that it is a red state, that really deserve the fault.  Around 20% of the AL population voted in 2006 voted for the "Sanctity of Marriage Act". It passed with >81%.  Almost 85% of voters identified as "Social Conservatives". If you don't stand up for your rights, no matter how pointless you think it is, they can and will be taken away.

@Priest:

It is great, however, waiting for all the repercussions to come to the surface. How will some of the states handle it. What loopholes will the states take to circumvent it. (Already some states have told their county clerks they don't have to go against their religious beliefs and can not issue licenses.

This.  http://www.al.com/news/index.ssf/2015/06/roy_moore_gay_marriage.html#incart_breaking

The AL Supreme Court is just crazy.  As if what they say trumps the US Supreme Court.

I guess I am an outlier.  I can handle watching many of the things that have been repeated in this thread frequently (even if I don't particularly like them personally) such as poop, piss, BDSM, extreme type stuff, or even rape fantasy stuff, but what I can not handle is twink porn.  I like men, and twinks with little definition, shaved pubes, and baby like faces instantly kills any wood I may have.

Austin Wilde and Austin Wolf for me at the moment.

I have two 2TB HDDs full of porn.  Plus, two 1TB drives full of gay themed and softcore stuff like all those pumpingmuscle.com vids.  Most of that is from here.

I would say go easy on him.  I am probably a lot like your boyfriend when it comes to relationships.  I have trouble putting anything as a higher priority than work.  Work is what makes my world go around and allows me to be happy and enjoy life.  Work is what provides the money to live my life the way that I choose, and I let nothing interfere with that.

However, when I am in a relationship, it is hard to balance the two (work/relationship).  Sometimes the needs of the relationship must come first.  With him being only 22, he's probably super focused on work, as it is likely one of his few jobs he's had in life, and you mentioned that he is very dedicated to his work, so he probably enjoys it, too.  At 22, he has not learned when to shift priorities in life.  I'm 41, and still don't manage that well when in relationships.

My advice, is to be up front and honest with him.  Tell him exactly what you wrote here: That his dedication to his work makes you feel as if you aren't ever a first priority in your relationship.  Let him hear that from you and let him think about it.  Tell him how it makes you feel.  Suggest the little things that he probably takes for granted that would help the problem, such as remembering arranged calls, and making time for the two of you.

To fix this problem, he has to first realize that there is a problem and own up to it.  Once that is done, action can be taken.

But a word of advice.  Even in the best relationship, one can't expect to be the first priority all the time.  It really is a balancing act.  Two people in the exact opposite situation as you: Both making each other and their relationship the first priority, while being homeless, poor, and miserable, would likely say that their relationship isn't the greatest either.

It is tricky.  You have to work on that balance.  If it is truly out of balance, you have to communicate that to one another, acknowledge it, and work to change it so that you both have your needs met.

Nipplegate probably was staged.  My only issue is that there were two performers on stage when it happened, yet only janet took the heat for it.  It wasn't a wise move - we weren't at the cultural place that we are today for example - but I gained so much respect for her when she was like "I'm not apologizing for anything.  It's a titty - get the fuck over it. "

As far as the new project, the blacklisting appears to be over.  My local clear channel station has picked this song up, and it is already in high rotation - about once every 2 hours.  Fans are calling in to request it.  Hopefully this will be another "That's the Way Love Goes" for her.

Now this artwork, man, I had to do a double take.  It's in line with "Discipline" and where she is personally, but I am not sure how well it's going to go over.

And maybe one more, lol

I thought I'd add a favorite of mine.

Here's one of my favorites.

Dad Out West - Mike DeMarco and Allen Silver

CK for me.  Jockey is a close second though.

@smthwrd:

"Its not that big of a deal, they dont need to know about it. Its not like im going to try anything with them, so whats the point of telling them. But how can i trust anyone if i know that there is a possibility that one day when they find out they will toss me out of their life, like some sort of cancer that needs to be eradicated. Why should i waste my time when i will only get hurt in the end?"
Basically what goes around my head constantly. Im still not out and this is messing with me like some sort of anxiety.

By not being out, you are holding on to an illusion anyway.  Your sexuality is a big part of who you are (no matter how much we try to minimize it), and by others not knowing that about you, they don't really know you anyway.  Most people find being out to relieve a huge burden from their shoulders.  It is freeing to no longer have to play the pronoun game, to no longer have to hide what you did over the weekend in Monday morning conversations, or to have to answer the question of when you are going to settle down and have kids.  You are free to be you (any time, any place, and in any way), and if someone can't handle/deal with you, then they can just fuck off.  That is a liberation that I will not give up, now that I have tasted it.

Sure, some people lose friends because they can't deal with it, but you also gain friends, and those friends who remain often become even closer friends because all the walls and boundaries we put up are torn down and people get to know the real you,  inside and out.