Posts made by Zeitgeist

@Ljubov89:

Trimmed or hairy, never shaved!

How close should be the trim be, though?

@raphjd:

We can't circumcise girls, despite culture or religion, but we can mutilate the genitals of boys all we like.

I guess some gender equality doesn't matter to a certain group.

How about we don't mutilate anybody? That would be cool.

"You must be white downstairs" seems like a pretty iffy thing to say to a biracial guy, tbh.

Maybe reconsider doing this? Skin lightening can be permanently damaging.

@flozen:

Did you hear about that devil worshipper with dyslexia?

He sold his soul to Santa.

…This is so bad that it circles around to being good again. Well done.

Opinion piece from the Advocate

An excerpt:

Talking about race is tricky. I think we can all agree on that.

Nobody wants to be the boy who cried racist. But it’s also important to reflect and dissect some of the ways that we think about, feel for, and judge others. Society has grown more inclusive in so many ways, but we still have a long way to go. I share my experience not for myself, but for the furtherance of inclusion and understanding of minority experiences. I also understand that we all have our types. Maybe I’m not yours. Maybe I am. I’m not here to convince you that you should find men of Asian-descent to be sexy. What I do want to have is a conversation about why this marginalization of Asian men exists not only in our own culture but on a much larger scale. For my battle personally, it’s the perception of race and the stigmas behind it, true or not, that is the issue. I hope you continue reading, continue thinking, and continue growing. I hope we can do this together.

In the last few years, I have suddenly become very aware of my race. No, I wasn’t adopted, and to my knowledge, I’m only partially color-blind. It wasn’t until Hollywood started to have a conversation about whitewashing Asian characters when I fully realized that I was part of a minority group who wasn’t being seen or heard.

I am mixed race. My mom was born and raised in Hong Kong, and my father is from California. In case you need further clarification, I’m half Chinese and half Caucasian (mostly German, we think). I ride the line 50/50. I was also born in Hong Kong and then raised in a mostly white, affluent suburb in Northern California; less than 20 miles outside of San Francisco. I even went by my Chinese name for the first 20 years of my life before deciding to go by my legally given first name for “professional reasons.” I never thought twice about it until I moved to Los Angeles to act and began to learn that some people just want to put you into an identifiable box. Asian (check!). Nerd (check!). Asexual (wait). Where I was told my “ethnic ambiguity” would be an asset, I later realized that it simply made me harder to define.

Now let’s set Hollywood aside and deal with another problem at hand: the desexualization of Asian males, specifically within the LGBTQI community. It’s 2018 and people still feel that it’s OK to write “No blacks, no Asians. Not racist, just my preference” in their dating profiles. (OK, fine. Hookup app profiles.) Excluding an entire group of people by calling out a specific race is the absolute definition of racism. Plain and simple. By writing that, one implies that if someone were choosing between the last two men on earth (regardless of personality, skills, size, shape, etc.) that one option could feasibly be eliminated solely based on skin color.

Behind a veil of anonymity on these apps, people feel that they can say whatever, no holds barred, and that no one will be offended. I believe that sexual racism exists. Those who are writing “not into Asians” on their profiles aren’t necessarily mistreating Asians in their day-to-day lives, but there must be something else that lies beneath the surface, subconscious and dormant. Again, I’m not telling you that you can’t have a type, but I want to question where this “type” stems from.

The media controls much of what we see and experience as a culture. When I was growing up in the '90s, there were ever fewer Asian actors/models/storytellers in the public eye. Sure, we had Jackie Chan and Jet Li, but they were known for their martial arts and were never considered to be traditionally “sexy” leading men – and it’s definitely not to say that they couldn’t be. I always think back on the 2000 film Romeo Must Die with Jet Li and Aaliyah. In an R-rated film, the two of them had a pretty PG relationship. Even as a leading man, Jet Li wasn’t ever set up to “get the girl.”

How often did we see the token Asian character as just a tech nerd or sidekick? How often were Asian men included in People’s Sexiest Man Alive issue? How often were Asian men positioned to lead a film that wasn’t just based in martial arts? We are making progress and kicking down doors now in 2018, fighting for diversity and inclusion, but you can’t help but wonder if this period of time has shaped the way many people think and feel about who or what they are attracted to. My mind races back to what we did consider to be sexy (or even just slightly scandalous) back then and I can really only think of the Abercrombie & Fitch catalogues, filled with what they wanted us to view as the male ideal – young, straight, muscled, and white.

Also, don't neglect diet. Abs are made in the kitchen, not the gym.

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@Dreamweaver:

Hello All,
I've been on GT for a while but new to the Forums. Looking forward to exploring the posts.

If you've been lurking for a while, what made you decide to take the plunge and join the Forums?

It's exactly what it sounds like.

Circumcision has reared its ugly head as a topic. Yes, that was an intentional pun.

Calan from CF… who seems to have disappeared entirely. Shame because he was hot.

Straight or bisexual porn can be really hot when they're pegging videos tbh. When the woman puts on a strapon and starts fucking the straight guy.

@zebrapenis:

I was raised Hindu, and am an atheist now. But I do find Hinduism's stance regarding LGBT issues very interesting. There is no clarity (unlike say Christianity or Islam), so there are many ways of interpreting scriptures. One of the more interesting ones is from the Rigveda, one of the four canonical sacred texts of Hinduism. It says 'Vikruti Evam Prakriti'  which means perversity/diversity is what nature is all about, and what seems unnatural is also natural.

I find that to be a beautiful sentiment, one that I haven't seen many religions take.

Are there any scriptures in Hinduism which you'd interpret as… homophobic? Explicitly or implicitly.

@cteavin:

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2017/oct/27/japanese-student-sues-over-schools-order-to-dye-hair-black

I know this exists but here in Tokyo, the students have a special marking on their ID's indicating they have naturally brown hair.

And you think they're worried about North Korea.

I'm both surprised and not surprised by this tbh. Japan is an unusual country.

@rufusmc:

Mine (rest his soul) slept wherever he chose too, otherwise there was hell to pay 

Winter was the time he most likley joined us on the bed, no idea why as he had blankets, basket etc.

How big was the dog? Smaller dogs tend to get more leeway on these issues tbh.

A lot of hot guys hate racists, so I would avoid putting anything potentially racist (including "white only") in your profile. You only have so many characters, which you should expend on writing other things i.e. what your personality is like.

@Ljubov89:

Thanks everyone for your kind replies to my post!

Is Katya your favourite Drag Queen? Asking based off your avatar.

Sneak peak from Andrew Kendall's new book.

Painful romantic experiences, whether casual or serious, give us the opportunity to learn from our blunders.

And since coming out in 2010 my dating life hasn’t exactly been what I thought it would be. I’ve always been a hopeless romantic—believing in Prince Charming, but somehow kissing and sleeping with one too many villains in disguise. However, in doing so I learned a vast quantity of life lessons I wouldn’t have been subject to without attempting to give my heart away to what I now know to be downright awful men.

In fact, in doing so I was able to turn pain into art in my new book titled, Unrequited: Things I Learned from Trying to Love the Wrong People.

Through almost eight years of dating, I’ve had the opportunity to discover what authentic love actually is. Ironically enough, through experiencing things like emotional, narcissistic, and verbal abuse my life was opened up to the realm of what inauthentic love both feels and looks like—allowing me to learn how to close a door filled with things like abuse and mistreatment and opening another overflowing with authenticity.

Here’s a sneak preview of my book Unrequited, with ten things I learned from trying to love the wrong people.

1. Some of the nicest, most charming people can have the most toxic and shocking personalities behind closed doors

Narcissist’s have everyone fooled—including you. They want people to believe that they’re god-like, worthy of being put up on a pedestal, because if everyone believes that they’re kind hardly anyone would believe you when you tell them about their abusive, manipulative behavior.

2. Beware of the person who lacks empathy towards others because as much as you’d like them to, they won’t develop it for you

As much as we convince ourselves that the power of our love might have enough charge to magically change someone—it won’t. If you notice that a partner lacks empathy with other people they’re definitely going to lack it with you.

3. There’s a difference between needing a little space and the silent treatment. One is healthy while the other, more often than not, is a manipulation tactic

It’s normal to need a little space to cool off every now and then, but those who are emotionally abusive usually use the silent treatment instead. The silent treatment puts the abuser in control, is typically a way for them to avoid conflict (despite them being the cause of it), and also provides them with a way to avoid taking responsibility or having the opportunity to compromise.

4. Fulfillment whispers lies that say, “Once you find a relationship you’ll be happy.”

Fulfillment is always a lie. It says we’ll be happy once we obtain or do something, but chances are that when we have it, it will only momentarily bring us joy before we go right back to where our old mindset used to be. So if you’re unhappy alone, there’s no relationship that will authentically be able to fill that void.

5.  They should make you feel like they want to be with you

If you’re partner makes you feel like you’re hard to be with…. leave. You deserve better.

6. If you place all your happiness in the hands of another, what happens if they leave?

A partner has the ability to contribute to your happiness, yes, but they cannot be the only source of it. If they were to leave, to walk right out the door, your happiness would go right along with them.

7. Don’t compromise your life, your dreams, or your happiness for someone who has proven they aren’t worthy of compromise. A real partner will never ask you to light yourself on fire just to keep them warm

Compromise in any relationship is important, but if things are one-sided you may wake up one day and realize that nothing you envisioned panned out the way you wanted it to. Though sacrifice is rational on occasion, it shouldn’t have to become your life because someone expects you to placate their behavior. Healthy relationships have an almost even give and take, and when they’re not close in number the other partner makes up for it until the numbers return back to normal. It should never stay uneven

8. Running into the arms of someone else because you’re in pain won’t make the pain go away

Fleeting moments of pleasure won’t erase the pain… no matter how hard you try.

9. If we repeatedly choose people who hurt us we may need to look within and find the reason we subconsciously continue to pick the wrong people time and time again

Relationships have a way of mirroring back to us something about ourselves that we may need to learn. So if we continuously choose the wrong people time and time again it might be an indication that something is going on subconsciously that needs to be brought to light. Only then can we eradicate the issue at hand that might be causing us to put ourselves in painful, less than satisfactory, situations.

10. Don’t become bitter, become better

The best revenge is moving on. Becoming bitter only creates more negativity in our lives and negativity only breeds more negativity. When we move on, when we become better, no one from the past has the ability to inflict harm in our lives anymore.

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During her questions about his life, Jane asked him if he had ever had sex. "Tarzan not know sex," he replied.

Jane explained to him what it was.

Tarzan said, "Ohhh…Tarzan use knot hole in trunk of tree."

Horrified, Jane said, "Tarzan, you have it all wrong, but I will show you how to do it properly."

She took off her clothing and lay down on the ground.

"Here," she said, pointing to her privates. "You must put it in here."

Tarzan removed his loin cloth, showing Jane his considerable manhood, stepped closer to her and kicked her right in the crotch!

Jane rolled around in agony for what seemed like an eternity.

Eventually, she managed to gasp for air and screamed, "What did you do that for?!"

Tarzan replied, "Check for squirrel."

Anal sex. It’s a thing that happens. Especially when you’re gay.

Bespoke Surgical, a private gay proctological and anal surgery practice with offices in New York City and Los Angeles, interviewed 300 gay men of various ages about their anal sex habits.

Here’s what they found:

• 13% of gay men have anal sex daily

• 39% of gay men have it a couple times a week

• 24% of gay men have it a couple times a month

• 5 in 6 gay men have it at least a few times a year

• One in six has it less than once a year

The breakdown of guys who identify as tops, bottoms, or versatile was fairly even. 39% said they prefer topping, compared to 33% who said they are vers, and 29% who said they prefer being on bottom.

When it comes to hygiene, the vast majority of guys are very thoughtful. 78% said they think about hygiene always or most of the time during anal sex, compared to just 9% who never do.

Other stats about hygiene:

• 42% of men always or frequently use an anal cleanser prior to having anal sex, compared to 38% who rarely or never do, and 21% sometimes do.

• When it comes to cleansers, 25% say they prefer a water-based enema, 20% use a saline enema, and 18% use a shower adapter.

• 61% say they feel “cleaner” if they used an anal cleanser post-coitus.

So there you have it, folks. Everything you could possibly want to know (and more!) about the anal sexing habits of your gay brethren.

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