Wow, really? Maybe all the religious liberals should denounce their religion until God comes down and apologizes for being sexist.
What else could be next? Mankind and Womankind, even though the definition of mankind encompasses all human beings? Yeah, let’s be fair. 
One of my best friends is a married straight black man. He joked about this with me after reading a related article, though it wasn’t about Grindr. He was calling me racist because I wouldn’t have sex with him -lol. I was like, welp, I guess I gotta have sex with you then. Then his tone slightly changed like it always does when I mess with him, but we still joked. ;D This is so ridiculous and much different than specifically listing “NO {race}” or this or that only, it’s a simple filter to help users find what they’re interested in.
Although I’m not currently looking for a BF, or for any hookups or friends, I would appreciate to have those filter tools available to use.
sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo
I used to do that but quickly learned again that I’m not a mind reader. People will surprise you. I’ve made some great friends out of people I thought that it wouldn’t go well if I said something. I told them anyhow because they seemed to really like me and we’d talk a lot, but also because I don’t like wasting my time talking to people too much if they’re not going to be cool with me being gay, and don’t want to waste their time either. First I have to care enough to tell them. If it doesn't go well, that's great too, now I'm not wasting my time talking to an asshole. Surprisingly tho, that hasn't happened yet and I've told 9 people.
oh cool. good that it works for you; for me it hasn't. so yes people will surprise you. a lot of the people i've come out too the more accepting were the women, most of the time, while the men were simply tolerant at best. No surprise there since my country isn't exactly well known for being accepting of the lgbt and is at it's core at most tolerant.
I'm sorry to hear that. Hope things get better in your country! I guess I'm lucky to be born and raised in California, US.
I’m not out completely, only to my bosses and some friends I’ve made. Everyone else can think what they want. When someone seems to really want to be my friend, and the feeling is mutual, I tell them about myself and my BF. That’s after really getting to know them fairly well. So far that’s been working out great. Other people; I just say "no" if someone asks if I’m married or have a girlfriend and leave it at that when it’s someone I don’t know well enough or care for.
sometimes. i usually see if the people at work are prejudiced or any sort of that feeling. if not and i like them i slip in a casual comment during convo
I used to do that but quickly learned again that I’m not a mind reader. People will surprise you. I’ve made some great friends out of people I thought that it wouldn’t go well if I said something. I told them anyhow because they seemed to really like me and we’d talk a lot, but also because I don’t like wasting my time talking to people too much if they’re not going to be cool with me being gay, and don’t want to waste their time either. First I have to care enough to tell them. If it doesn't go well, that's great too, now I'm not wasting my time talking to an asshole. Surprisingly tho, that hasn't happened yet and I've told 9 people.
Well that's deceitful and just wrong.
On top of that, what about all the other crazy that gets twisted into rape like this stuff;
@Article:
Girl Thinks If You Regret Having Sex It Means You’ve Been Raped, Gets A Perfect Lesson On Consent
https://www.boredpanda.com/rape-consent-explanation-leannicole/
And the girl in the article above isn't alone;
@Article:
Why Women Make False Rape Accusations
And Why They Think Their Accusations Are True
https://medium.com/@meholstein/why-women-make-false-rape-accusations-938ffdf9a181
Found this one while searching for the first article I remembered from a while ago.
I feel for anyone who has actually been raped, but boo fuckin' hoo to those who consented and regretted the encounter, tuff shit!
Anyone from of the consent somehow=rape crowd in RAINN as well? ::)
I don't think she'll last very long in prison considering her crime against a child, her own child.
Hopefully she'll suffer before her end.
I don't take medication, and I don't want to. That's my choice.
Well I like opposite guys, as you could tell from another thread I posted. With for some reason Jewish and Russian men I find the most appealing really.
https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=55895.0I'm just trying it really hard to stay motivated and happy.
I like opposite men.
I have hobbies, which is hip hop dancing, breakdancing and doing gymnastics and I like hip hop and disco and urban music, but I don't want men in those hobbies.
I want opposite guys.
Yeah…it’s your choice if you wanna take medication or not. I was just thinking that there might be some medication that could help you feel better, but sometimes the side effects aren’t worth it.
How much do you prefer a guy to be opposite of you?
You said you don’t want to share the same hobbies, what about other interests, beliefs, opinions?
Don't bring them home and wait to come out after you move out? You can still date.
How do you know for sure your parents and friends are homophobic? People will surprise you. It took me a while to learn that I'm not a mind reader. 
Any of your friends who reject you were never your friend anyway. Better to wait to come out until you're independent and can take care of yourself if your parents truly are homophobic. I thought my parents were homophobic too, but I found out they weren't. Now I have a lot of regret over all the time I lost being closer to them. Come out as soon as you feel you can, it's one of the best things you can do for yourself.
Sorry to hear you're so depressed. Maybe a change in medication can help if you're taking a prescription? That might help you see the world differently, more positively, and may attract more of they sort of guys you like to you. Please forget about suicide, things can get better for you at any moment. There's someone out there for you, believe that! I don't know what kind of guys you like, or where to tell you to look, maybe a group/club of guys who share similar interests if you haven't tried that yet?
It's best to use one of the servers which allow file sharing, I doubt CA does (pretty sure). I use a NL server and my speeds are fine.
Also go into the advanced settings in the PIA client and enable port forwarding if you haven't. Mouse over the tray icon to get the port # PIA is using, then enter it into the utorrent connection settings. Don't port forward on your router if you use one, not needed. The port # will change each time you connect so you'll have to update it in uT.
"Its not that big of a deal, they dont need to know about it. Its not like im going to try anything with them, so whats the point of telling them. But how can i trust anyone if i know that there is a possibility that one day when they find out they will toss me out of their life, like some sort of cancer that needs to be eradicated. Why should i waste my time when i will only get hurt in the end?"
Basically what goes around my head constantly. Im still not out and this is messing with me like some sort of anxiety.By not being out, you are holding on to an illusion anyway. Your sexuality is a big part of who you are (no matter how much we try to minimize it), and by others not knowing that about you, they don't really know you anyway. Most people find being out to relieve a huge burden from their shoulders. It is freeing to no longer have to play the pronoun game, to no longer have to hide what you did over the weekend in Monday morning conversations, or to have to answer the question of when you are going to settle down and have kids. You are free to be you (any time, any place, and in any way), and if someone can't handle/deal with you, then they can just fuck off. That is a liberation that I will not give up, now that I have tasted it.
Sure, some people lose friends because they can't deal with it, but you also gain friends, and those friends who remain often become even closer friends because all the walls and boundaries we put up are torn down and people get to know the real you, inside and out.
Very well put.
@smthwrd: It's more of a waste of time being in the closet, especially if you're in a country where you can live freely. You're wasting your time worrying about people when you don't really know how they feel, that's exactly why you should come out if it's safe to do in your country. Why waste time on people if they don't like you? Spend your time with people who love and support you instead. Free your mind of worrying about if people will like you or not, most people will still like you. 
You're gonna miss knowing some really great people if you keep thinking like this and always assuming people won't like you if they know, now that's a waste of time!
Sure, some people lose friends because they can't deal with it, but you also gain friends, and those friends who remain often become even closer friends because all the walls and boundaries we put up are torn down and people get to know the real you, inside and out.
That smthwrd. You can have some amazing friendships, or spend your whole life wondering who your real friends are and/or feeling like nobody really likes you. Find out who your friends are and be happy, and screw everyone else…
If it were me, I'd just be supportive and a good friend. I think it's best to let them do it on their own terms really, and with some guidance and advice if they want it or seem to need it. Maybe if it comes up, you can share your experiences with them and the reasons you came out. The longer they wait, the more regrets they'll have if they're gay IMHO. Hope you don't have as many regrets as I do (dunno how old you are). I waited far too long, mainly because of my job, but I'm out there too now and everything is fine AFAIK.
Just be a good friend and it can work wonders ;)…
I use whole disk encryption, and change the sharing and permissions access of my 'File Share' folder if family or a straight friend is coming over.
No worries after that. I'm out to friends and family, but they don't need to see my porn -haha.
Mine went so well with my parents that it was a tear jerker for me, I didn't expect it to go like that at all.
What got me was when my father said "Why didn't you tell me!" in a really annoyed voice, and "I would have helped you", kinda like I'm an idiot -ROFL, but that's my Dad -haha.
Because I waited so long to come out, I lost so much time that I could have been closer to my parents. That's what teared me up too, that regret.
All those years thinking they wouldn't love me as much if they knew.
I don't have a close family. Half of them are out of the country, and a lot of the others (Mom's side) aren't the best people.
Came out to the only sane one on my Mom's side, my cousin, and that went amazingly well too. Now we're good friends and talk a few times a week (we're on opposite coasts in the US).
I wouldn't do anything if he's a good friend and you don't want to take a chance on losing him as a friend.
Also, how do you know he's a true friend if you're not out to him?
Why not come out to him first? See his reaction and if he stays your friend. Doing that, I imagine you'll have a pretty open conversations.
If he's straight, gay, or bi, and a good friend, I'd think long and hard about making any moves tho.
Yep, just enjoy what you like and don't worry about. There's no need to put yourself in one of the orientation boxes.
when you're more open and honest you start attracting like minded souls
I was thinking something along these lines too, maybe more so the vibes a person puts out. Maybe after coming out some people have more self-confidence, less stress, less or no depression (if that was a thing for them), maybe just a happier and more pleasant person to be around. Well, yea, actually, I imagine it does all those things for most people.
Coming out did wonders for me. I'm out to friend and family, but not at work…on the verge, out everywhere else.
Have you tried updating your torrent client to the most recent version or tried using a different one? Who knows, maybe the tracker doesn't like that version.
I've seen problems with this tracker and certain torrent clients and/or specific versions. Switching to something else (an update or another client) has helped other people in the past.
Dunno what else it can be at the moment, but I'll post if I think another possibility.
You seem to have pretty much everything else covered as far as configs and sharing enough of torrents with leechers.
Hope that helps.
Yea, not all of the servers are for file sharing.
Enabling port forwarding in the PIA client helps a great deal.
See my post in the thread ajax0980 linked to for directions. "Port forwarding works great. Don't forward any ports on your router if you use one with PIA or another VPN with port forwarding, only enter the port# from the system tray (Windows) or menu bar (Mac) into your torrent client".
PIA Port Forwarding Servers:
Netherlands
Switzerland
CA North York
CA Toronto
Romania
Sweden
France
Germany
I can't find a list of the file sharing servers but the port forwarding list is likely the file sharing server list too, or close to it.