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@cteavin:

@1995DS:

I haven't come out yet, do you have any ideas on how to do it the right way?

There are four groups to whom we come out:

Ourselves.
Our family.
Our friends.
Our community.

Then there's the fact that we come out daily, pretty much, meaning that when we step out with our bf into public or correct someone's pronoun usage we are coming out to the strangers around us.

There's no correct order except that we tend to come out to ourselves first. (There are people who's family or freinds tell them, or to whom passers-by assume for you but that's a little different.)

If you've come out to yourself and you don't know who to trust next the I suggest coming out to your community. Find the LGBT center near you, take part in an LGBT themed event (baseball game, picnic, social group), go to the gay ghetto near you and sit in a coffee shop. In the community, most everyone will empathize with you. (There's always a bitchy queen out there who doesn't pay them no mind.) Places like West Hollywood and Castro are "safe spaces".

Going to a bar or club is another way to come out to your community but the vibe is very different and alcohol is involved, that might work for you, that might not.

@cheerfuldonu:

I came out to someone I didn't know: a net friend. Then now we  became real life friends and she's still one of the best friends I' ve ever had.

I thought it was a he.. a male net friend!

^-^

@kikhumbira:

@emmy:

I know it's hard but, at the end of the day, it is your life and they will just have to take it or leave it. Tell them. You choose the right moment. They might not understand it but they will still love you.

Why is this the right moment?

Is it?

@Frederick:

I'm watching this brand new performer on Chaturbate.  His first show ever.  He claims to be completely straight. 
He's rambling on for 135 minutes talking about his favorite music, his girlfriend, and has done nothing but take his shirt off.

But then, without any warning, he pulls out this oversized curved purple vibrator!

My guess is that vibrator is his girlfriend's, and while she was out, he tried out her toy..

UPDATE:  now he's saying he's pansexual.

pansexual.. not bi?

@brianboru72:

I was lucky enough that every singe one of my real close friends was able to accept me when I came out to them.  :love:
I did have a few who were less supportive and decided to distance themselves, but we were never that close to begin with.

Lucky you!

;D

Have you done any move?

@altoids582:

And by realize that you were pretty gay, I don't mean that you just were into men and enjoyed looking at underwear ads, I mean like that you were super gay.

For me it was when I went by a gay bar and saw this guy, probably middle aged, in the parking lot in this ridiculous outfit with leather chaps with his ass hanging out, just some cod piece thing covering his dick, and a leather vest. Was like the sort of outfit you'd imagine someone putting on for some comedy movie with the most stereotypically gay leather outfit. And main thing I could think of when I saw this guy was that I wanted to get fucked silly by this guy as he called me his bitch.

Previous to that I usually felt like I was a pretty straight acting gay guy that wouldn't want to get into anything all that weird, feeling like while I may sleep with some guys that it was basically just wanting to be like hitting up a bro and having some fun, after that night I pretty much wanted to be fucked long and hard by older and/or black men that could make me feel like the only the only thing I was good for was being fucked.

Wow!

If you hadn't visited this bar, you would have been married to a woman, wouldn't you?

::)

@alveer:

nope

Anybody thinking otherwise?

@DamaDama:

simply, being attracted to the same sex as you!

Being gay is not just about physical attraction, isn't it?

@Ononoke:

@kukashiffr:

So I wanna know that have you out someone who was in the closet or would you ever do it if you know someone who is doing it behind closed doors. How does gossip like so and so celebrity is gay also comes. Someone's is always an instigator there. Weather the allegation is true or not people just call out certain celebrities for the way they act or the ppl they hangout with even if they are openly LGBT.

For e.g ppl always call Will Smith gay and his wife Jada Pinkett a lesbian, same is for Queen Latifah and I think people also used to call Sophie B Hawkins the singer a lesbian back in the 90's but now she is happily married and have kids. So we are all ears. Out with it.  :blind:

Nope, because it's all about respect, and I respect their privacy as much as I respect mine. 
It's a different case however, if he/she's an annoying prick who has been trying to out me first. Then I might simply give them hell.  >:D

As for celebrities, well… from what I can tell (a colleague used to work in local showbiz), they actually know each other sexuality much better than their fans. So their circle of friends highly likely already aware about it, but decided to stay silent because exposing them would have negative effects on their careers as well. Heck, they don't want to risk being outed as well.

:love:

@cookies74:

I don't think I'd ever come out to my family or friends

@pittstop17:

How to come out to my parents?

How did things turn out?

@harry3500:

Super brave!

Required.. nuts!

I'm sorry.. I do!

TPBM hasn't eaten beef today!

::)

@medivh:

Guild wars 2 /Wow / Overwatch /Black desert online / warframe

Wow!

**Chess

8)**

Luckily I haven't yet..

::)

@sakyo:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_gay_villages

Most places are very close to city centers hence uber expensive housing

@warpaint:

yeah. it's easy to say, I for example say that I would kill everyone, but when it comes to something I don't really like violence. people act differently in different situations and under different circumstances. so of course, this topic had more "if you had to" tone. it's about where's the limit and if it's ever okay or not despite everything.

Interesting thought..

@Igrouve:

My ass is usually found in IT retails in Malls, to satisfy my techie needs.

I love fullfilling techie needs..

:cheers: