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Okay so I'm an 18yo male & I have no idea what label I am, let’s rant.
Don't. Listen, I know in modern society labels are everywhere. (Are you male or female?, what age bracket do you fit into? What earnings bracket do you fall into? What nationality are you?) In some cases they are needed to give people information that they require. That employee satisfaction survey (Something I deal with at work every year) will give you insights on how 18 to 24 year olds responded etc.
However you don't have to apply a label to every aspect of your life. I am me… so why do I need to label myself as a British 31 year old gay man who is 99% bottom. Why do I need to fit into a check box?
The simple answer is you do not. You are what you are and if people can't accept you for you just because you didn't put a label on it then they are not the type of people you want in your life.
I’m mostly physically attracted to guys, and mostly emotionally/romantically attracted to girls.
More details: So, when I say mostly physically attracted to guys, I mean 90% of good looking, naked men, would get me turned on. And only 10% of good looking, naked women would turn me on, but not even that much. With women I have a specific type that I like. I’ve looked at women and thought they were smoking hot, but there would be very little sexual desire. I feel slight physical attraction to women, and pretty much only to women I know very well and like A LOT.
That’s where the romantic/emotional attraction comes in: I don't really look at guys in a romantic way. I have not felt romantic attraction to a guy to this date. When I see hot guys, I think ‘’Oh damn I want to have sex with them’’
To women however, I feel little physical attraction, but I think it’s like I fall in love with HER, and not her body. Like, being in a relationship with an asexual, hetero-romantical women would be perfect. Little, or no sex, but a lot of talking, cuddling, taking care of, and sometimes kissing. It’s like that’s how I want to picture my future.
However, BECAUSE I’m so damn confused I feel like I’m betraying either sexes I get close to. I don’t look for anything sexual/romantical in both women or men because I feel like I’m lying tot hem, or lying to myself…
That’s why I’m a late-bloomer have little experience with either sexes. I have had to urges to have sex with men, and I’ve also had urges to kiss girls (which almost happened a few times until my mind had to interfere)
You are 18, you are at that age where you have just become an adult and its a journey of self discovery. I had no idea what I wanted at 18. (Besides world domination…Joke). Go with the flow, be honest to yourself and others. If you meet a man and its just sex then call it that, be upfront and honest with them. You go on a few dates with women then go on some dates. You will figure it out naturally, it means putting yourself out there. Perhaps if a man asks you on a date go on a few and see how it goes. Same for with a woman, go on those dates see how it goes. You have that desire to kiss a woman, go for it and don't let your head get in the way. Something is going to click, it might take a few months it might take a few years but you will understand exactly whats natural for you. If you close your mind to the possibilities all you will do is limit yourself.
I was not the same but had a similar sort of situation at a younger age. I thought I didn't have that emotional attachment to men or women. For me I had a sexual desire towards men so thats all I did. I had a few good fuck buddies. I had one fuck bud that Id been having sex with for 2 years, he went away for 6 months with work and I missed him so much it hurt... thats when I realised I had feelings for him and everything changed.
Sometimes as humans we over think things... dont overthink it and the answer will come.