Posts made by mattb36469

@geox:

Wow, that is totally a great response and I agree. Those straight guys sometimes… LOL!  ;D

@yababylol:

Something like that happened to me a little while back. At least, even if I don't think I was in "love" with the guy, I was getting there. I liked him a lot.

Long story short … it didn't end well. We were kind of drinking buddies, and .... well, alcohol lowers inhibitions, and men of all orientations and identities are horny buggers. I got into a habit of getting a bit gropey while we were both inebriated (him too), and things kept progressing. One night things hit a new level, the memories were a little too strong the next day, and we haven't spoken since (it's a complicated situation, there were a number of other, unrelated reasons too).

I still sometimes wonder just how far I could have taken it if I had been patient and tactful and bided my time, but bottom line ... most men who identify as straight, even if they'd never admit it in a thousand years, have had idle thoughts of letting another guy do things like give them a blowjob. Thoughts are one thing, though ... actions are another. If they could never be comfortable enough with themselves and their own sexuality to actually go through with it, if they just couldn't shake the spectre of social stigma --they're still effectively straight (i.e., don't even think about trying it unless you want to endure some of the greatest drama in your life).

My advice -- if you're positive he's straight (be honest, don't let wishful thinking get in the way), do your best to not focus on these feelings until they fade away over time. Get yourself out there, find some more realistic love interests, guys that may actually like you back! Fake it 'til you make it (it will happen eventually, I promise, it's part of the human experience), and see if you can really "just be friends" with the guy, and really believe it in your own heart.

I understand that it may not be possible to keep him in your life and accomplish that task if you really feel like you're in "love" with him, though (I've been in love, so I know). If you just can't heal while still being exposed to him constantly, the best thing you can give yourself is distance. The sooner you can make yourself move on and get over him, the better. There's no point in tormenting yourself with all the pining. Don't be dramatic and pouty and mysterious about it; just do your best to gradually pull away in a gentle way. All of a sudden you're super-busy, right?

I know that's easier said than done! I wish I could take my own advice.  

Hit the nail on the head, I have fallen in love with a straight guy before. Lets just say it ended badly. My advice is whatever signs you read…. forget them. They are not there. I stupidly acted on mine and got knocked back hard.

I am 100% Passive, prefer an aggressive partner…. what can I say I like a guy to bang my brains out!

I watched the show and honestly think Dr Christian deserves a medal for putting himself through some of that stuff. I was shocked to see that sort of thing existed…. Now in the USA I knew things like this happened but in the UK?

It actually upsets me when people say they don't want to be gay any more. I hate to think of some of the horrific treatments in that show that are not going to cure your gayness.... they are only going to make you sick and even worse some of them could kill you.

That is great news. Honestly I often wonder what the fuss is about, marriage is about love and commitment. When I hear the arguments about it I often think "There are children starving all over the world and your foaming at the mouth over this? All I got to say is …. first world problems.

Nigel Farage has got himself into a spot of bother over his party’s stance on same-sex marriage.

First his party made an apparent U-turn over its earlier opposition to gay marriage when, during a question and answer session with Pink News, a statement attributed to Farage said that the party would not, after all, campaign to abolish same-sex marriage.

According to Pink News, the answers given during the online interview with Farage appeared to show that UKIP would be reviewing all of its policies – including its opposition to same-sex marriage.

A welcome development. Or at least so the readers of Pink News believed.

Soon after the interview was published, however, Farage issued a statement to say that the comments attributed to him were “not made by me and not approved by me”.

“It was a draft by a staff member that should never have been sent out, he added.

Farage went on to say that UKIP’s opposition to gay marriage was two fold:

“First, we did not think it should have been made a political priority at a time of many other pressing issues and pointed out that the measure had no mandate from the electorate.
    “Secondly we were concerned that because of the role of the European Court of Human Rights in British law that faith communities which had strong objections were at risk of being forced to conduct gay marriages.”

So on the one hand UKIP are opposed to gay marriage because it’s a bad time to focus on it (there are more important issues), and on the other hand because “faith communities” risk being “forced to conduct gay marriage”.

In other words, UKIP opposes gay marriage for practical rather than moral reasons (not that that’s OK or anything).

But someone ought perhaps to tell UKIP in Wales this, for their objections to gay marriage are rather different.

A same-sex marriage statement published on the UKIP Wales website today starts off on message, saying that “UKIP Wales wholeheartedly supports the UKIP policy regarding same sex marriage”. However the party also lets slip the real reason it is opposed to same-sex marriage – and it has nothing to do with faith communities or it being a bad time to focus on the issue.

No, UKIP are opposed to same-sex marriage, the UKIP Wales website states, because “marriage is between a man and a woman for the procreation of children”.

Well, at least we’ve cleared up that it has nothing to do with pragmatism and everything to do with outdated bigotry.

Don’t vote UKIP if you’re a gay couple and want to get married. Or a hetrosexual couple who want to marry but aren’t sure about children. That isn’t what marriage is for, after all.

Guess I am not voting UKIP…. not that I was planning on doing it anyway