Using an enema. It could be a hand-held one or one that goes as a shower attachment; just make sure to give yourself about 30 or so minutes after the enema. Sometimes, there may be some leftover water that needs some time to naturally pass.
Also, make sure you go a couple rounds. It's done properly when the water runs clear.
I feel this is a problem more common than people realize or want to admit. I myself have a hard time staying hard when I'm about to fuck someone; it's why I usually bottom. I have no issues getting hard any other time; it's just when I'm about to enter an ass.
For me, I'm not even thinking about "I'm about to go in" or "Hope it goes well". I just legit start softening until it's nothing. And strangely enough, it's always when I use a condom that it goes down. Kinda makes me feel like George from that one Seinfeld episode where he complains about losing an erection between the time of getting a condom and opening it.
But seriously, I have no mental qualms about wearing condoms. It just seems to affect me as such when I try my hand at topping. It's somewhat better when I bareback fuck someone, but I reserve that for only one person whom I trust but is a total top who miraculously lets me at him once in a blue moon.
That said, it's best to talk to your doctor to see if there's anything you can do to change it.
Which do you prefer? I like bareback because of the thought that everything is skin-on-skin when I'm being fucked. That there's no need to wonder if the condom broke or slipped off; it's just a means to continue a good fuck.
While I prefer bareback, I use condoms with one-night stands and guys I meet online. The only exception is if the guy has a recent test of being clean that they can show; I guarantee very few guys are willing to show or have such evidence. As of now, I only bareback with my fuck bud.
Drug addicts are dirty or clean. HIV+ people have a disease or virus, and you can ask their HIV status. I thought in 2020 everyone knew how rude and stigmatizing that language is to HIV+ people. Do you call your mom dirty when she has the flu?
True, but it also isn't smart to take people at only their word. Those who really want ass will say what sounds good so as to make the other person agree to meet. Got raped in college because of that; never trusted one-night stands at their word alone ever since.
To me, it's not being rude asking about one's status and for proof. It's being as safe and prudent in an otherwise stupid situation; situation being going for a one-night stand in the first place.
"If LGBTQ+ characters were represented in the same proportion as in the general population, there wouldn't be very many."
I get that; I know that hetero-minded folks greatly outnumber LGBTQ folks. I was merely saying having at least one character to represent the LGBTQ community would be fine. Though if video or printed media did decide to make a LGBTQ character only story, it better have a damn good reason story-wise for that decision to be made.
And yes, games do tend to be quite liberal when hurling around insults. Some of the big offenders tend to be the GTA series and video games that cater to online PVP capabilities where the players openly hurl those insults. With that being prevalent, it makes it difficult for big game studios to comfortably include LGBTQ characters without some kind of backlash from the general public. I suppose it falls under the same category as trying to introduce a female character with stereo-typically large boobs; most people are going to hate it unless they are fans of that particular art and character direction.
I get that people fantasize about doing it with people of particular ethnic group; same goes for the opposite in terms of exclusion. I'm all for them removing it; it doesn't matter what race the guy is when you're merely looking to have some fun. That and I've had my share of guys just plain ignore me the moment they realize I'm Asian.
Lol how does someone's race not matter if the only thing they're looking for is fun? That's literally part of the most important aspect of what does matter - appearance. It saves everyone's time by having the option to filter out races you're not attracted to.
True, but it creates the idea that one can safely gentrify a particular race. For example, porn likes to make a show of black and latino guys having huge dicks; some studios even glorify them being super rough tops. And then there's the mainstream culture of believing African-Americans are probably setting you up to be robbed or that some Latinos are really immigrants whom one doesn't want to associate with.
In that respect, how is the ethnicity filter function any different from blatant racism in some instances? If anything, it may create a psychological connection in one's mind that gentrification is okay and thus make one practice it outside the boundaries of the Grindr app. Considering the crazy things going on in the world and United States these days; that isn't too much of a stretch to believe.
Though considering it is generally cosmetic, any side-effects that occur shouldn't be too terrible barring being operated on by a quack doctor.
Circumcision not only removes many square inches of some of the most sensitive skin on the body, it denudes the glans penis of protection so that sensation becomes dulled. That is a pretty terrible side effect.
Improper circumcision is not infrequent. Some males have lost the entire penis during electric cautery circumcision while many others have been died from severe herpes infection from oral suction during religious circumcision practiced by some Jewish sects. Infections, bleeding, untreated pain are common.
Female circumcision is generally much worse but it's a matter of degree not kind and female circumcision is often illegal and considered barbaric while male circumcision is neither illegal nor considered barbaric.
You should do some research instead of making inaccurate statements.
I never once said improper circumcision was uncommon; I only said in the quote you quoted that side-effects shouldn't be too terrible.
"Oral suction during religious circumcision" constitutes rape if on a child. Even if it is part of a religion and between consenting adults, I do not count that as a side-effect. It is between consenting adults. And culture or not, that is a very weird thing to do to a freshly circumcised person; not to mention the sucker has to be really irresponsible to not even consider being tested after a sexual encounter. Not to mention the recipient would just trust the sucker and not question their sexual health.
Also, I'm only relating to children. I don't count adults as they are old enough to know whether or not they want to have a hard time peeing or having an erection for a couple weeks.
Infections and bleeding and untreated pain are common; I never said they weren't side-effects. On the grander scale of things, they aren't side effects one would not expect to happen since it is surgery. All surgery comes with pain and possible infection.
Dulled sensation of a penis is nothing to me. In fact, that is the most obvious of side-effects; it doesn't bear mentioning. As long as I can still fuck someone and feel myself having an orgasm, it is a minor side-effect unless the person is a body purist. I'm not shaming body purists; I just care whether or not my penis works just fine.
And having been swimming since I was 5, I've honestly seen my fair share of cut dicks in my life in the changing room. And during my slut phase in college, I've also seen a crap ton of cut dicks. Not once have I seen someone with a "lost penis" or suffering from extreme mutilation, so I'm willing to hedge my bets that would be considered a rather uncommon side effect and a result of working with a quack doctor. I'm not saying it doesn't happen; the way you phrased that particular fact makes it sound like it is a common occurrence.
Female circumcision is considered barbaric and illegal because of deep-rooted sexism ideals. In old cultures, a woman's job was to make a family and tend to the house. Circumcision for them was deemed unnecessary and unusual. The laws of the US do consider female circumcision illegal, but you have to wonder whether or not that decision is based on deep-seeded feelings of trying to control a woman's body. I mean, people are fighting against abortion despite the fact the woman is of sound mind to make her own decisions about her own body.
And considering we live in a male-dominated society, it's no surprise male circumcision is legal. With that mindset in our modern culture, why not give more power and choice to men, including whether or not to be circumcised/circumcise a male infant? I'm not saying that ideal is right; I'm against a mainly male-centric society. I'm merely giving potential reasons as to why female circumcision is an illegal offense whereas male circumcision is not.
I never made inaccurate statements; that would require me to make use of extremely definitive terms. That seems to be where the bulk of your counter-argument stems from; from that particular emotion. I only used general terms to describe opinions; I never claimed that circumcision is "definitely" low-risk or that the side-effects "are not" terrible. Respectively, I said "generally low-risk" and "shouldn't be too terrible". Both terms leave room for argument in moments when side-effects are worse than usual or if someone's experience with the procedure didn't go as planned.
Over the years, the video game community has been warming up to the idea of creating games that have female leads and female characters playing strong roles as opposed to just being "damsels in distress". However, I've noticed that the LGBTQ community - unless I've been living under the heaviest rock known in existence - hasn't been as prolific. Of course, I'm not saying that a game solely for LGBTQ characters should be created; just that a couple characters should exist so as to not make the video game world as a hetero-only world. The Fire Emblem series has done some to introduce LGBTQ characters; even if it really is just one character within an entire game.
Question to you all, how do you feel about the general lack of LGBTQ characters in video games made by big name studios?
Well, that's definitely a man who can't hold a good job outside the sex industry. I mean, multiple arrests for varying felonies? He probably spent more time in jail than being a productive citizen.
But seriously, it makes me wonder just how closely the porn industry vet their actors before hiring them? I mean, I get it's just a sexual performance at the end of the day. Still, it is legally a job, and I'd imagine the employers would prefer to hire those who have not shown a propensity for violence and breaking the law. And of course, I'm not counting his OnlyFans account since that's pretty much a self-run business.
I get that people fantasize about doing it with people of particular ethnic group; same goes for the opposite in terms of exclusion. I'm all for them removing it; it doesn't matter what race the guy is when you're merely looking to have some fun. That and I've had my share of guys just plain ignore me the moment they realize I'm Asian.
Having children for the sake of feeling fulfilled is a bad idea. Let's say you have a child and the only feeling you have is fulfilled? What happens when that fulfillment disappears? Is the love for both your partner and child still there? It most likely isn't, and it opens the door of wandering to other sexual partners or even being an absentee parent. It happens a lot in this world unfortunately; having kids because of love and caring is the way to go.
Christianity is a lot like picking a side in politics; you're either a liberal or a moderate. Moderate Christians tend to lean towards the literal translations of the bible to dictate how the religion should be viewed. That, of course, sometimes leads to interesting contradictions such as supposedly not eating shellfish or wearing clothes made from more than one type of fiber. Naturally, most ignore those edicts yet become so gung-ho on other issues such as same-sex issues.
Conversely, liberal Christians tend to have a more broader and inclusive view of the bible. They would be more willing to, for example, interpret Jesus's condemnation of men sleeping with other men as being context from the ancient ritual of "sexually conquering" an enemy fallen in battle; that he never once mentioned anything about consensual sex between same genders. That, unfortunately, breaks away from the traditional mainstream views that Christianity was originally born from and is probably considered a minority group in the world of Christianity.
Note that you should take what I say with a grain of salt. I am nowhere near religious; I'm more of a theist. My point is to mainly show that Christianity is a lot like being in politics; you will always be on one side with regards to the topic of gays. Which is why I am not a fan of organized religion; it's too much like being in politics with some groups being exclusive rather than inclusive.
Let's face it, we are a world founded by the belief in gods and deities. All cultures have roots starting in some form or another from deities; Christianity is one of the well-known religions in terms of founding. That would probably be why Atheists are looked down on more; they are the minority in terms of an entire world who have taken their pick of religious belief.
As to whether or not religious people are more moral, I highly doubt it. If they were, then even the most devout and right-winged Christian wouldn't choose to abandon their child the moment they admit to being gay or are caught conducting "gay" sexual activities. Morality would dictate that a parent look after their children and protect them from harm; banishing a gay child from the family or forcibly having their mindset changed through conversion therapy goes against basic morality.
I get that it is seen by some as being a lifestyle and embracing the gayness, but why do some guys make a big show of being and sounding campy? I know a couple people like that; one is naturally campy and does it without effort. Another actually makes a conscious effort to sound campy in public but is totally different in public.
That's where my main gripe is; why do some make it a point to act campy when they naturally aren't?
Wow, I'm in the minority here I think. I prefer smooth guys. There's just something amazing feeling the other guy's skin on you during sex without any kind of barriers in-between. And yes, I consider furry chests a barrier.
I am only going to respond from a medical standpoint and not fan the flames over the "religious belief" and "mutilation" arguments floating around.
From a medical standpoint, a circumcision operation is generally low-risk. Yes, there are always going to be a risk of complications when operating on a human body. Though considering it is generally cosmetic, any side-effects that occur shouldn't be too terrible barring being operated on by a quack doctor.
Virginity is really a personal thing in terms of how much stock you choose to put in the word. Some, because of religion or personal belief, want to save it for that special someone as the ultimate gift and proof of commitment. Others believe it is just an over-hyped term that keeps people from gaining practical sexual experiences with regards to penetration sex. It all depends on how strongly you feel about your want to have a sexual performance before marriage/find your forever-person.
For me, I remember being nervous my first time being fucked. It wasn't because I was about to lose my virginity; rather, I was more worried about how painful it might be. For me, virginity was just a word that basically labeled me as an inexperienced sexual being. As I didn't want to be sexually inexperienced, I wasn't all that hard-up about having some random be my first.
Though to be honest, I find virginity to also be an emotional aspect rather than just physical. In that respect, I have given away my physical virginity but have yet found someone to emotionally let go during intercourse. Don't know if that makes sense to some of you, but that's how I feel on it.
I refuse to knowingly sleep with a married man/man with a girlfriend. That doesn't mean I might not have done it before; I'd just greatly prefer to not become the topic of a divorce.
An uncommitted bicurious guy I'd prefer more. I like helping straight guys explore their sexuality; kind of a strange kink of mine, to be honest.
I was the bottom for a fisting/regular fucking gangbang at Steamworks in Chicago. I think I took around 26 guys according to my friends who were monitoring the situation. I love group sex
26 with some doing fist fucking? Geez, you are a definite trooper! I assume not all 26 had their fist in you…? Though it's good to hear you had some friends keeping watch just in case things got weird. I assume they got a turn on you as compensation? lol
But seriously, what do you find interesting about group sex? Just being curious.
o get around that, I highly suggest having a fuck bud that you trust to go bareback with. That's what I have with my fuck bud; even though we mess with other guys, we're always open with each other and careful of who we fuck with.
That's very dangerous, not safe at all. You can have unprotected sex hundreds or thousands of times and never get HIV if you are very lucky but you can also have unprotected sex once and get it.
You can get HIV while using condoms as they are not perfect protection but they certainly decrease the risk significantly.
If you are going to have unprotected sex regardless, at least use PrEP, but just like condoms, PrEP doesn't provide perfect protection even when taken exactly as prescribed without fail, which is not always the case.
True; I just meant in reference to me and my fuck bud. I forgot to mention that he is an EMT and has a lot to lose if he gets an STD. He's always tested every two weeks as per protocol and on PReP for both work and personal reasons. I am also on PReP; we both agree to only bareback each other to lower the risk. We understand the risk and trust each other with regards to that.
Of course, I wasn't trying to say finding a fuck bud to bareback with is for everyone. Just the term bareback would be an easy turn-off because of the risk it entails. It honestly turns me off if in context outside of my fuckbud. Otherwise, I always use condoms because I'd rather a wrapped stranger in me than have his juices swim in me.
Though I do thank you for posting that site about PReP and basic HIV info. There are some on here who don't know all the basics of STDs and prevention methods.
From a personal standpoint, I get what you're feeling. I was fresh out of high school and starting college ten years ago. With that new freedom and a chance to finally explore my sexual desires, sex was at the forefront of my mind. I often found myself willingly skipping class to meet up with guys I found on Craigslist just so I could try out the various types of sex I've seen in porn videos. My grades suffered for it and I actually got academically disqualified for it. I thankfully got my act together and finished college after doing some reflection of what my sexual freedom was doing to my academic and future life.
While I wouldn't change how I acted in those sex-filled college years - because it helped mold my current sexual proclivities to which I am very comfortable with - I was a loose cannon. It sounds like that is the same for you minus the availability to release sexual hormonal urges. Might I be safe to assume you never played around with others before? If so, then that can be contributory to how you're feeling. It's how I felt before my first sexual experience to which I became a college whore for a period of time.
If it's true that you are a true virgin who hasn't had any kind of sexual encounter, my suggestion would be to take up a constructive hobby. What got me through my sexless high school years was taking up creative writing. While it didn't keep me from jerking off 4 times a week; it did keep my mind off of "I want to try fucking/getting fucked" and other such thoughts.
If you had sexual experiences before and are craving it again, my suggestion is the same. I would also add that you should mentally remind yourself that you know what the feeling is and that it isn't a new novel idea to be trying; that it's already been done and you can wait to experience it once more.
As a final note, it also seems like you continually touch yourself to the point of it taking over your life. That it is being triggered by looking at porn/sexy models all day. Once again, my suggestion is to take up a constructive hobby. Also, I would say that you should try dedicating a specific amount of time a week for looking at porn or other such materials. I used to continually look at porn in college; another reason for my grades dropping. It wasn't until I limited myself to four hours a week of porn; it could be a few minutes in a day or all four in one day. After I reach that limit, I'm done for the week no matter how horny I am.
Of course, everything I'm saying does require a specific amount of self-discipline. That's the shining light in your predicament; this is your first time being in such a dilemma and a chance to build up your sexual self-discipline. If it is not working, then I would suggest asking for help from your doctor or a college psychiatrist. Those folks are there for a reason; to medically help you out with problems no matter how personal or sexual it may be.
I do hope that you will feel better once the feelings you're experiencing come to pass. It's not been a great time for any of us; I was lucky enough to have had sex once a month ago during this quarantine with a good trusted friend of mine. It's still not what I'm used to in terms of sexual satisfaction, but I've learned to make due with it thanks to my sexual discipline.
Thank you for sharing your experience. You are extremely right. I am having these urges all the time. I fear they have returned. I have had a few sexual experiences but none of them really left me extremely satisfied. That’s why I’m also fixated and obsessed with dating apps to try to find a partner that I’m compatible with but it only resulted in damaging my mental health even more so.
I have started working full time a week ago and I have started my online classes this week and I am having an incredibly difficult trying to focus. I am afraid I’m going to do horribly because I am constantly thinking of sexual pleasure.
I have reached out to a college psychologist and will have a first time evaluation with them tomorrow but I’m not sure if I am ever going to be comfortable enough to share this problem with a college counselor. There is an LBTQ center in the area that I live and they have a 10-week waitlist
Not sure what to do. Hopefully the counselor can give me some pointers. How should I tell her what is going on with me, without going into too much detail?
I would just keep it simple. Say that you feel your sexual urges are constantly at the forefront of your mind regardless of what you're doing. That you feel it is overwhelming your want to do more productive and important matters and thus lessening your ability to be productive. At least, that's what it sounds like from what you just told me.
And just as a quick note, I completely understand what you mean about sexual experiences not feeling fulfilling. I'm 28 now; I had what I called my whore years all throughout college. I was fresh out of high school and ready to try what I've seen in gay porn for the whole of my high school life. Though unlike you, I didn't look for help with regards to feeling sexually insatiable almost constantly. I ended up getting academically disqualified from college two years in and had to work hard to be reinstated. The fact you both recognize your issue and are seeking help for it is already a step further than I took it. You're already taking a good step forward.
And as another note, might I suggest talking to guys on those hookup sites instead of outright going "hi, let's fuck." I find that if you establish a bit of conversation first and lay things out on the table, the sex can be a bit more fulfilling. Believe me when I say there's a difference between a quick fuck and fucking around in a way you prefer it to happen. That and just having someone to talk to at least somewhat openly about sexual matters can do wonders.
That's actually how I met my current fuck buddy; it was supposed to be a one-night stand three years ago that ended up actually becoming good friends. Because he understood what I was looking for and was willing to meet me in the middle, I found myself being more sexually satisfied when with him. We're still friends/fuck buddies to this day; it's also ironic he's a ambulance first responder with some specialty in psychological health.
Again, I'm glad you found my experiences helpful. I hope further insight into my sexual life will prove further helpful to bettering your mental and sexual health. Because while I do regret whoring my way through most of college; I wouldn't change it because of the invaluable experiences I earned from it that essentially made me smarter in terms of sexual topics. I hope this experience and bump in your current point will also serve as a learning experience for you.
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