Posts made by gayaznboi22

Like most of the guys here, I find a coming out party a bit too much.  It's like me trying to advertise my gayness to the entire world by fucking around with a guy in the middle of the street.  It's just too much and can easily backfire.  That's especially since we still live in a supposed "progressive time" where minorities and non-straight folk are sometimes treated worse than the majority.  I'm not saying it happens all the time compared to the 1950s and such; it's just that making a gay statement with something like a coming out party can easily rub even an understanding person or a person of the gay community the wrong way.

Which do you prefer?  I like bareback because of the thought that everything is skin-on-skin when I'm being fucked.  That there's no need to wonder if the condom broke or slipped off; it's just a means to continue a good fuck.

While I prefer bareback, I use condoms with one-night stands and guys I meet online.  The only exception is if the guy has a recent test of being clean that they can show; I guarantee very few guys are willing to show or have such evidence.  As of now, I only bareback with my fuck bud.

Considering how my college years were filled with getting fucked by guys almost every single day, some of them bareback, I'm surprised that I've never once got an STD of any kind.  That's especially since I got raped by one guy who thankfully failed to get his way with me after I fought him off.  This was all in the span of the past ten years.

I would say that you should use your experiences to reflect on how to better your sexual health.  For me, my college whore years helped me to realize what kind of sex I prefer and, when I feel like app surfing for guys on the rare occasion, how to vet guys through conversation.  I consider myself lucky to have found a good friend who's also my fuck buddy who shares in my sexual interests; it wouldn't have happened had I not had my college whore years.

That said, I wouldn't go trying to cut sex out of your life.  Tried it before in college; my want to be fucked came back with a mean vengeance and got kinda out of control.  I've been cut off from sex because of this pandemic; I only met up with my fuck bud once in the past month when we usually meet more than that.

Also, I get how you feel about condoms.  Even though I'm a bottom mainly, I don't like how they feel along my hole.  That's especially when the lube dries and the rubber kinda makes a slight burning sensation from the friction.  To get around that, I highly suggest having a fuck bud that you trust to go bareback with.  That's what I have with my fuck bud; even though we mess with other guys, we're always open with each other and careful of who we fuck with.

Hopefully, what I've said and my experiences have helped you in some fashion.

For me, it's watching a guy getting double-penetrated; taking two dicks at once.  I've had the chance to try it once myself as being the receiver, and it was hot as hell.

I'd say it's probably because of a couple reasons.  The first being that probably it's more of the older generation at the nude beaches opposed to the younger crowd.  I've always wanted to go to a nude beach, but most places in my area that cater to it have been noted by my friends as being filled with older folk.  For some like me, it's disconcerting to see folks possibly my father's age baring it all.

On the other hand, technology is so much better than it was back in the 1990s.  With wider access to pornographic material, going to nude beaches as a gay visual fantasy has become obsolete.  Why go there and expose yourself to the sun and salty air and potential pervs when you can see naked people from the safety of your computer; with the added bonus of seeing explicit sexual activity going on?

From a personal standpoint, I get what you're feeling.  I was fresh out of high school and starting college ten years ago.  With that new freedom and a chance to finally explore my sexual desires, sex was at the forefront of my mind.  I often found myself willingly skipping class to meet up with guys I found on Craigslist just so I could try out the various types of sex I've seen in porn videos.  My grades suffered for it and I actually got academically disqualified for it.  I thankfully got my act together and finished college after doing some reflection of what my sexual freedom was doing to my academic and future life.

While I wouldn't change how I acted in those sex-filled college years - because it helped mold my current sexual proclivities to which I am very comfortable with - I was a loose cannon.  It sounds like that is the same for you minus the availability to release sexual hormonal urges.  Might I be safe to assume you never played around with others before?  If so, then that can be contributory to how you're feeling.  It's how I felt before my first sexual experience to which I became a college whore for a period of time.

If it's true that you are a true virgin who hasn't had any kind of sexual encounter, my suggestion would be to take up a constructive hobby.  What got me through my sexless high school years was taking up creative writing.  While it didn't keep me from jerking off 4 times a week; it did keep my mind off of "I want to try fucking/getting fucked" and other such thoughts.

If you had sexual experiences before and are craving it again, my suggestion is the same.  I would also add that you should mentally remind yourself that you know what the feeling is and that it isn't a new novel idea to be trying; that it's already been done and you can wait to experience it once more.

As a final note, it also seems like you continually touch yourself to the point of it taking over your life.  That it is being triggered by looking at porn/sexy models all day.  Once again, my suggestion is to take up a constructive hobby.  Also, I would say that you should try dedicating a specific amount of time a week for looking at porn or other such materials.  I used to continually look at porn in college; another reason for my grades dropping.  It wasn't until I limited myself to four hours a week of porn; it could be a few minutes in a day or all four in one day.  After I reach that limit, I'm done for the week no matter how horny I am.

Of course, everything I'm saying does require a specific amount of self-discipline.  That's the shining light in your predicament; this is your first time being in such a dilemma and a chance to build up your sexual self-discipline.  If it is not working, then I would suggest asking for help from your doctor or a college psychiatrist.  Those folks are there for a reason; to medically help you out with problems no matter how personal or sexual it may be.

I do hope that you will feel better once the feelings you're experiencing come to pass.  It's not been a great time for any of us; I was lucky enough to have had sex once a month ago during this quarantine with a good trusted friend of mine.  It's still not what I'm used to in terms of sexual satisfaction, but I've learned to make due with it thanks to my sexual discipline.

Currently, the hottest place I've had sex in was my fuck buddy's room.  Yeah, it's lame as hell in terms of hotness; still, fucking with him is something special since we totally get each other sexually and vibe well in regular situations.  That's also not mentioning I get to fuck his top ass once in a blue moon.

It sounds like he likes to be a dominant person when it comes to sex.  The first few times was him getting used to you; now that particular phase is over, he feels like he has more free reign to participate in the rougher sex in which to exert dominance and territoriality.

I can see two sides to this, one I see as hypothetical and the other I side with.  The first being that you do like the rough sex.  In that respect, you should speak more openly about it with him to distinguish certain boundaries of what is and isn't kosher during sex.  With any sexual relationship, deep conversation is key while avoiding the superficial responses.

Secondly, and one I side with, is that he has gotten comfortable with having sex with you and is now exerting his more innate dominant side.  Based on his comment of wanting the world to know "you're mine", I find that to be rather disconcerting.  I would have a conversation about it in a public place and insist it be made there if only for your own safety.  If he continues to refuse or gets overly hostile, then that's a humongous red flag to plug up your ass and take it somewhere else.  Even if he is into dominant-submissive sex, there are boundaries that both parties recognize and respect; he clearly does not respect your boundaries.

My overall advice here is to not approach the topic with rose-tinted glasses.  When asking the questions, listen to what he is both saying and not saying.  Oftentimes, people sidestep questions or artfully leave out particulars that you were hoping be answered.  If you feel too attached or are in the "but I love him" phase, please take a mental step back and view the picture as a whole.

As a sidenote, I had my share of one-night stands when I was in college.  I was fucked by this one guy a few times; he was okay and normal with his style.  After a few times, he got too comfortable with me and started getting kinda dominant with me; refusing to let me cop a feel of his dick to make sure there's a condom and stuffing his fingers in my mouth or even covering it.  The last time we did it, I talked to him about it beforehand and he said I signed up for it before stuffing his barely lubed dick into my ass and practically raping me.  Gave him the surprise of his life, though; lifted his 200+ body off the ground with my 115 pound self to the point he was forced to get off lest he fall and alert his neighbors.  He immediately had me leave.

Point of that side note, don't settle for having your sexual boundaries continually being broken.  Make your thoughts known and get away if things don't change.  And don't be afraid to defend yourself if it's needed.

I always imagine being able to have live sex in front of a camera.  The only thing stopping me is my face being exposed to the world.  Being in a career where having video proof of my sexual experiences could mean being fired makes it a near impossibility.

That said, I'd definitely be down if my face were covered or never seen.  I have made only two videos in my life, one solo and another with a buddy whom I trust greatly, that don't have my face.  It is hot to make them, just too much worry for me if I ever intend to post them.

Only when it's stupid hot.  Even then, I have to wear a jockstrap because I always get wet dreams when I sleep with an exposed dick.  Don't ask why; that's just how my dick wants to be.

When you have sex with a significant other/random person, how do you prefer to fuck around?  Such as, what is your preferred style of participating in adult fun?

Me as an example, I like to have a calm slow fuck that doesn't include rough kinky stuff or 100-miles-an-hour poundings.  I like it a lot as an internal massage than the destruction of my anal cavity.

I personally shower after sex; don't want to walk around with lube and cum stains on me.  I don't usually shower before sex unless the guy tells me to when I'm at their place.

My aunt is currently being annoying with me.  She's a traditional Chinese woman; married my uncle via a Chinese matchmaker.  Because I'm the last child in my generation who doesn't have a significant other, she's lately been trying to play matchmaker for me.  I just politely look at the picture of girls she has whenever she visits and say no.

I haven't told any of my family that I have a tendency for male sex (I refuse to tag myself as gay) not because I'm afraid but because I find it isn't any of their business with regards to my sex life.  That would obviously change if I find a significant other who happens to be a guy, but it's not their business until then.

I honestly don't know.  I only know family from my mother's side with regards to my generation and my mom's siblings.  All of them are straight.  Though to be fair, they are traditional Chinese folk who grew up in 1960's Hong Kong/coastal China.  There was an expectation that the children would marry and birth children to carry on the family name.  Hard to say then if any are gay or at least bi.

Though with my brother, I once got onto his computer that he left on and looked at his email.  He posed as a woman and asked for dick pics.  I don't know if it was an experimental thing or if he has had a taste of dick before; I honestly couldn't say.  Granted this was years ago and he's now engaged to his girlfriend, so maybe he is bi or was simply curious.  Or maybe even bored and wanted to catfish some guys.

It's hard to tell these days.  Not all gays act campy or feminine; some act like straight guys and you wouldn't know unless they told you.

Though in all honesty, I'd say that a gay guy would know what to look for when trying to gauge another person's homosexuality.  Just like straight guys would know if a girl is interested in a guy and vise-versa; gay guys would recognize the subtle things of what a gay person is interested.

I honestly don't know.  I've done threesomes before and am open to the idea of an orgy.  The thing is that I rather it is set up with guys either I or the one hosting knows rather than be complete randomness.

I lost mine at 18.  Was too nervous to try while in high school.

I personally say no.  I once got fucked by a guy who was a little more than 4 inches.  He knew how to use it, so it wasn't an issue for me with regards to that.

Though for me when I top, most guys have trouble taking my dick.  I'm about 5.6 inches long, but I'm also roughly 5 inches thick.  I'm also not one to like sticking fingers in a butt, so most can't handle my dick.

That said, I think those that do care about how big the dick going into their butt is are just size whores.  It's really a matter of how well you can use it.

I hooked up with a pornstar once when I was 19 and craigslist was still a thing.  His name was Vixen from latinboyz.com.  It was free, but he wasn't that great.  Learned then that porn actors are generally more for show; his dick wasn't enjoyable for me and he smoked weed too much.

I was 18 and just getting into the hookup scene.  I answered an ad from craigslist and went to the guys place.  Didn't tell him I was a virgin.  I was sucked off once before this, so I had an idea on how to suck dick when he put his to my mouth.  After a bit, he put on a condom and slowly sunk into my ass without prep.  Being a complete virgin, I'm to this day surprised it did not hurt at all.  He fucked me until I came and kept on going until he came in me through the condom.  That was the only part I didn't like; I was already sexually finished and was waiting for him to be done.

My second time being fucked was a lot more memorable, but that's a different story.  lol