Posts made by Domosuke

Not that religious, but I am Christian.

I however do not make a big deal about it.

I respect and I am open to anyone of any religion or lack of religion.

I was introduced to android first, but I have to say I prefer iOS.

What are Daddy Issues?

We live in a society nowadays to where many fathers are not in the picture during a persons childhood and upbringing, thus feeling that incomplete male bond that way.

This in turn causes a straight female, or a homosexual male to have daddy issues in looking for relationships with a man, to sort of act like the father role they never had. They expect their male partner to have that father authoritative role.

Daddy issues also can in a sense occur towards someone who has had a protective or spoiled lifestyle due to how they were treated by their father.

So someone will look for this in a romantic sense for a mate or partner in order to copy or imitate that. They look for a sugar daddy or someone to copy that.

What does that really mean?
I explained it quite well.

But I will add that (usually not the case), daddy issues could also mean (more pertaining towards women), when someone is scared to be around men, and older men. Due to maybe due to bad treatment they were given by their fathers. But that's not usually the case when someone mentions daddy issues.

Does porn influence us?
I wouldn't say it influences it, but people who have daddy issues, can find specific porn scenarios and themes, both gay and straight to rectify their thoughts and feelings on it.

I'm autistic, and I feel in some ways it's kinda dismissive, and it's something

I know for other people who are gay and have a disability, it's different.

No I don't tell that many people, and I feel do not feel it's something (due to the fact I'm a high functioning autistic) I need to bring up.

Don't get me wrong, it sucks being gay and autistic, but I learn to accept it I guess.

I do not.

It's very rare for me to befriend a straight guy.

Even the straight guys I am cool with, there is still something in the back of my mind that tells me no matter how straight he is, if he's  cool with me, I still think he's at least bi.

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Coffee or Tea

Mario Party

I'm indifferent. Yes and No. To me like if we were camping in the woods and had sex, that's fine.

At a park, no. That's sick and nasty to me. Especially if there are children around and shit.

TPBM likes chocolate.

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@Kekkaishi:

@Domosuke:

As we as humans move on, and generations and opinions change, something like this is dismissive.

This is something maybe back in the day would have been a cause for concern.

Having a pornography stache, or having pictures of naked people was considered very sick.

Nowadays it's very whatever, and you shouldn't worry about something like this.

There are politicians now who used to be porn stars, so nobody cares.

Of course it's known that everyone has a porn stash. no big deal.

However, You would care if a large portion of your porn consists of "Fetish" porn (not taboo of course) but there are a lot of categories

that even in porn fall into the "bizarre" category. I wouldn't want my family or friends to find out my perverted mindset.

I guess if you put it that way, I can see what you mean.

Hmm, this is interesting.

I think in this case, it would still be dismissive to some degrees.

This is private and up to the deceased persons family if they were to discover stuff like that.

Not really surprised.

But I sort of was able to gain the power to realize why people do the things they do.

Being a feminine boyish black gay man in his late 20s, who's always felt excluded from society, I just learn to pick up on common things and patterns.

For example, I learned that men who are always picking up trash in the street, hold the door open for others, give their seat up on a crowded train, guys who you can go up and ask for help or directions and give them to you are gentleman and nice.

Guys who litter, guys who don't hold the door open when walking into a building, guys who spread their legs and crotch wide open when sitting on a train, guys who you go up and ask for help give you a shitty or rude comeback, are usually assholes and not nice.

Just stuff like that.

In your profile:No. Especially if the disability is one that you feel would make you targeted or bullied. Strangers going through profiles at first glance, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to them with that.

To people who you get close with on the dating site:Yes, in the best comfortable way for you. Someone who you are dating should know this information though.

I do sometimes.

Maybe because I'm a feminine black man, and I am attracted to more bigger and masculine men, and I feel like I can't he happy and get what I want.

As we as humans move on, and generations and opinions change, something like this is dismissive.

This is something maybe back in the day would have been a cause for concern.

Having a pornography stache, or having pictures of naked people was considered very sick.

Nowadays it's very whatever, and you shouldn't worry about something like this.

There are politicians now who used to be porn stars, so nobody cares.

I would yes.

Because I'm black as well.

I feel being black and gay, I'm forced to pick a side. As usually the gay media circuit doesn't accept men who look like me. Most of the black and African cultures do not accept homosexuality at all. So it's tough trying to be under both of those tropes.

For example, right now I'm picking my gay/queer side.

But society sees me as a black man, and black men usually are supposed to be masculine and promote this straight image.

I'm a feminine gay guy, so it's just so puzzling and confusing.

Also I seem to be attracted and crush on straight men and straight agendas more than gay.

I'd rather just be straight.

I notice this shit as well. I think it's crazy they play with your emotions and waste your time like that.

I was talking to this one guy who lived nearby me, (and mind you, he was the one that messaged me first) and asked if I would like to get a drink sometime.

I said yes, and to cut the bullshit agreed to go out for a drink that following Friday evening at a gay friendly venue in town.

He later replied and said he would love to, be he's swamped with work (so why did he did ask if I wanted to grab a drink then? lol)

So I said okay, rain check. He woudln't give me an answer back, I think he blocked me.

I was talking to another guy that contacted me. We were sending lots of messages back and forth for a couple days, and I up front asked if he wanted to go out for lunch one weekend.

He replied and said that would be great. (Mind you, he picked out this place.) He messaged me a place to meet up at.

So I arrive there, and the asshole never shows up.

I later find out he blocked me on the dating site.

So yeah. Lots of gay men do this. Why I don't know. But it's getting on my nerves.

When you are not comfortable with how your partner is treating you.

Because believe it or not, to another man, the events you described would actually not fall under abuse, and those are things he doesn't mind. Some guys aren't bothered by egocentric, narcissistic men like that. Some of those issues woudln't necessarily be liberating to him, but he would find particular ways to deal with it, and it would not be considered abusive. He just likes being dominated like that.

If you love this man, then you need to find ways to deal with these types of things.

But if that's not okay if it becomes uncomfortable for you, and shit like that doesn't fly with you, then that's abuse and you need to take action over that.

@nickys1177:

so 25 is the new 18? there are so many 30 plus and still certified virgins.

Actually no, in the gay male world, it's quite the opposite.

Just that the topic clearly stated for anyone who is still a virgin to pitch in towards that.

So you are gonna get a bunch of guys saying they are virgins.

Myself included who is a 27 year old virgin, not by choice.

Too young or too old for that particulars persons comfortability.

It depends on what you're doing and who you're doing it with. Like if you are just shooting the shit with random people, then that's probably nothing. But if you are having intimate webcam sessions and developing feelings for this person, then yes to be that would be cheating.

It also depends on your partner and how they feel about it.