Posts made by cteavin

@sutieday:

Trump's repugnant words and actions over the past two weeks have shown absolutely zero respect or regard for members of the military or their families.

I was watching Bill Mahar yesterday, who I think can be really funny, but he started his show by saying that the general was a liar who was covering up for Trump. I get that BM is running a comedy show but with so many people turning to comedy programs (like Sam B, Seth M, and Stephen C) they need to more accurate and less inflammatory.

I see no reason to disbelieve the general. I see every reason why someone in his position would be offended by a senator politicizing the death of a military member – to say so is not slander.

If you listen to the whole of what the general said at his press conference, I think it's clear Trump didn't speak out of turn. Simply put, if you dislike someone everything they do is going to piss you off. It was a lose, lose situation from the start.

@sutieday:

I thought Bush was one of the worst US presidents, then Trump happened…

This I'd like to see justified.

Under Bush the Twin Towers fell, the Economy collapsed (Lehman Brothers), we became embroiled in Afghanistan and Iraq, and we wasted trillions of dollars not counting such winning programs like No Child Left Behind. Should I go on?

So tell me some facts to justify Trump is worse than Bush? I get that people don't like Trump but he is in no way worse than 43, not by a long, long country mile.

@Frederick:

Other than your comments about Trump, you are posting well.

Why are you grading people!?!  :spank2:

Get that porn and go take of some stress.

I should but I won't. He's a real cunt and one day, one day when I can get away with it, I'm going to whoop his ass soundly.

You should buy yourself something nice this weekend.

:afr: Brother as in incest  :afr:

Well, I'd much rather have a lover, I have plenty of close male friends.

A home with indoor plants or pets?

Nope. The only circus I like is the Cirque de Sol.

TPBM likes to debate and argue – nicely.

Today is a major election in Japan, a Trump/Clinton level battle (Koike/Abe) but a typhoon is approaching and it's POURING outside atm. I have no idea how they're going to handle this as the typhoon was downgraded to major tropical storm.

So my plans are to watch to the events unfold on tv.  ;D

@aadam101:

I don't see what the big deal is.  I was a Boy Scout.  Our Troop leader had 2 sons and 2 daughters.  While the daughters weren't official members or anything they spent a lot of time with us.  Nobody ever gave it a second thought.  Scouting is a family venture.  Always has been.

I thought the issue was that the Girl's Scouts didn't have to integrate boys but the Boy Scout's did. If the GS want to create a space for girls then so too should the boys be allowed one.

These days, Pixar!  :cheers:

Movie in a theater or at home by DVD/streaming?

Nope. I don't get high. I rarely even drink.

TPBM has already unpacked their autumn/winter wardrobe.

@Frederick:

@aadam101:

I've been thinking a lot about this lately and I really think that this isn't going to end well for women.  Men are pigs and men want sex.  We have all had met "straight" men and I'm sure all of us have had sex with a few of them.  If I was a straight guy I would be terrified to  even look at a woman these days!  It's a lot easier for them to just have sex with other dudes.

That reminds me of something from last night…   I was watching a guy on Chaturbate.. and he was adamant that he is 100% straight.  He was jacking off while watching straight porn.  I wondered how straight he was when after he came, he ate his load for 200 tokens ($10).    I then did a bit of internet research on him, found his real name, life history, email, etc.  One comment he made on a blog is that he is completely straight, won't top or bottom a guy..  BUT he will let a guy suck his cock especially if they swallow!   Hmm.. maybe not so straight.  I am pretty sure he also lives with a sugar daddy.

@Adam, it's happening more and more (if the Internet is to be believed).

@Fred, why do we, as a culture, need to peg someone as gay/bi because they had some form of sex with a person of the same gender? It's political, an intent to normalize LGB people.

I love vegan food, raw vegan food, and cook a lot of vegetarians but I'm in no way a vegetarian. I simply have broad tastes. Straight people would have fewer hangups if they weren't pegged as closeted after a bj.

@JohnAllenson:

I feel you're misrepresenting my argument.

Your original argument was that there is a long history in literature giving positive images of asking a person out after they've said 'no' which implies it's permissable.  I replied that there's a long history in literature of things that we would recognize as rape being romanticized.

Now you say, I should use examples from the past to justify present behaviour.  Which you were doing.

I hate to break it to you.  YAOI, Bodice-Rippers, and M/M are still being written.

You and I are miscommunicating then.

What I've been trying to say, repeatedly, is that you can't go back in time and lense a story like Beauty & The Beast as supporting rape culture. No. It doesn't work. Those stories were written in a different time which had a different culture from today so if your argument is that there is a long unbroken line of rape culture stretching back millennia, I'm calling bullshit and hypocrisy: If you go that route then the Chrisitan Right and Constitutional Originalists are correct, I don't believe you think that.

I brought up Yaoi because, unless you're fluent in Japanese as I am (20+ year veteran here), then you're pulling the biggest act of white privilege there is and telling another culture what their stories mean.

(To be clear, I don't support the idea of White Privilege but they go hand in hand with reinterpreting the past.)

What I've been saying is that there is an unbroken line from the Troubadours forward that has determined what these stories mean, so that when Disney reimagines B&tB it is connected to the intent of the source material, not the revisionists.

Given all that, I do enjoy cultural critiques using Feminism and Post-Colonial theories but they can not be used to rewrite history, just give an alternative vision to help us think – that's useful. The problem is that cultural critiques are trying to write legally binding laws.

@JohnAllenson:

The Talmud lists six genders, going back some 1,500.

People are claiming labels for identities that have always existed - sometimes without being named.  There have always been people uninterested in sex, it's only now that they're organizing as Aces.

Six genders. Got it. My quota of learning something new every day. 

What's missing from an argument in having more than two genders in Western (and most Asian) cultures is that our cultures formed with two distinct gender patterns, the binary male and female. That way of thinking worked so well that it's dominated the planet and most everything good that's come from it has been from a well-balanced yin and yang.

I'm going to take a guess here and say that acceptance of homosexuality in the west means sexual orientation has replaced older ideas of gender.

Ah, feminism.

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The laws are fine as they are. They could do a generic bathroom for all people (which would be the best choice but squash privacy when you need to get away from your date). The problem isn't with trans people but people with a mental illness who've decided gender is fluid.

I think your wording has conflated two issues: protest and free speech.

Both the protest and the counter protest are free speech. Freedom of speech does not assume freedom from consequence.

Apply this to the NFL. Players take a knee: Protest. Viewers voice their opinion: Counter protest. Players and their supporters say that the counter-protesters are trying to take away the players free speech while ignoring that the counter-protesters are also engaging in free speech. (queue media bias machine)

Where this becomes contentious is when a person protests/counter-protests at work or by participating appears to be representing the organization they work for/belong to. That's why Trump is getting a lot of flack for using his free speech: People are assuming the office of the President has taken a side and not the man in office.

In the end, the Supreme Court already ruled that the Westborough Baptist Church has a right to protest/counter-protest and thought I despise their message and means, I'm glad that right was upheald.

@JohnAllenson:

What difference does it make that YAOI, Bodice Rippers, Slash, or M/M are predominately written by women?  They still romanticize Non-Consent.
(And there have been plenty of research papers on why women fantasize about gay relationships; as well as papers on why women romanticize non-consent.)
This doesn't mean that they depict behaviours that are acceptable in real life.
Granted, the question "If you ask someone out on a date and they say no" doesn't indicate WHY they said no.  If someone says, "I'm busy that day can we reschedule" that's different from "I'd rather stay just friends."

Context is everything, John.

The fiction you're using to justify your argument was written at a time when consent meant something very different. If that is to be your justification then you can make a ridiculous argument about Greeks being gay to push for LGBT cultural acceptance: What it meant then is not what it meant now. If you think it does then you've just empowered the Christian Right.

Japanese women have a long history of no meaning yes which is engrained in the language itself. Male dominance part of the appeal in Yaoi. Kabedon (Google it) has been raised the level of an ideal here but it's seen as sexual violence in the west, which is to say, context, culture, and time matters bigly.

The question isn't rape, the question is whether repeatedly asking someone out is harassment. Interestingly, I brought this up at a group dinner yesterday. The white men at the table thought asking a woman out more than once was harassment but no one else did to varying degrees of confidence in their answers. That white men felt this way might have to do with what Fred alluded to about men being falsely accused of rape or harassment.

Keeping with the original question, is serenading a woman outside her window harassment? How about if they just broke up and he's trying to apologize? How about sending a love letter to someone you're interested in but never asked out? How about if you asked them out and they said no and you send a poem expressing your feelings? All these things a part of culture. They are benign until you're told they're not and that is where the real question is.

Beethoven Symphony No.3 "Eroica".

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I don't think it's possible for me to love myself more than I do.  ;D

You should visiting Japan next year!

@kenjysn1:

Neither, scientist only. As the st. Thomas said that you can’t believe it unless you have ever seen it.

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T-shirt – I have a closet full of amazing t-shirts.

A vacation in North America or Asia?

I do! (Must be from a DC fan.)

TPBM enjoys spicy foods.