eh… Queer means like "Weird/Strange/Odd/Abnormal"
in my mind, when i hear queer, it conjures images of the rarer snowflake types: queens/trans/flamboyance etc... like... "not gender-typical"
queers can be straight, gay, bi or anywhere inbetween. but i know that's not really how the word is used... but this is the image it conjures.
also, etymologically, queer is kinda negative. "Gay" on the other hand just meant happy/frolicking. You can tell this from norwegian, whose word for "fun" is... Gøy...
i mean, i will let my friends get away with referring to me as "that dirty faggot" tongue in cheek, cause i know theyre taking the piss; but i would never accept that shit off a randomer.
having said that: considering almost everyone (except those with A+ gaydar) are super surprised to learn that i'm a full on homo… i'd say i'm anything BUT queer.
still... i think the whole LGBTQIWTFBBQ+ is getting a bit "overinclusive", that is... a group stops being meaningful when you can no longer relate to it's members... i honestly cannot relate to the life, struggles and pleasures or even the basic mindset of trans people. i really can't. i sympathise, but will never understand or relate.
literally all the LGBT+++++ have in common is "nonstraightness" and a history of repression by a prudish societal culture. that is all. it's not really a good basis to bond on anymore... there's not even really anything to unify against as a common cause. (and no, "the patriarchy" is not the answer)