Posts made by chatnoire

26 and not out yet. Not exactly closeted though but I prefer not to say. My parents don't know (or maybe they do but I haven't declared yet to them) but my friends know. My public social media accounts are open to see the followers/friends list which consist of mostly shirtless guys.

Connor Walsh (Jack Falahee): Gorgeous, loved him!
Frank Delfino (Charlie Weber): I'd do you, sir! My personal top favorite.
Sam Keating (Tom Verica): Actually pretty nice as well, too bad he doesn't have any sex scene in the show.
Griffin O'Reily (Lenny Platt): Another gorgeous handsome man!
Oliver (Conrad Simamora): Not too handsome but geeky persona sure makes me tick!

@bear1515:

Well the main reason to own a 3DS, or any Nintendo Portable System, is if you like pokemon, hehe. I have Pokemon X and Pokemon Alpha Sapphire.

Pokemon aside, if you like Zelda there is The Legend of Zelda: A Link Between Worlds and the remakes of Zelda Ocarina of Time and Zelda Majora's Mask. If you like Mario, you can have Super Mario 3D Land, Super Mario Bros 2 and Luigi's Mansion Dark Moon.

For other types of games there are Monster Hunter 4, Bravely Default and Fire Emblem Awakening.

Well there are a few other good games, but those are the ones that I remember now, hehe.

As a matter of fact my main reason getting the system also for Pokemon. I own Pokemon Y and Omega Ruby.

Another game I would recommend would be Fantasy Life (RPG, cute-style), Zelda lines (RPG), and Mario lines. Another famous games are Monster Hunter 4, Bravely Default, Fire Emblem, Animal Crossing..

Say, you're single. And you met with this one guy who is moderately (or considerably) good looking/smart/witty/successful, like an 8 or perhaps a 9 at first glance (and he's single too).

Would you be suspicious if he says that the reason he's single is because he hasn't met the right person, or that he just said his past relationships just didn't work out well?

I for one would conjure up a series of suspicions inside my head like:
-Probably he's a workaholic,
-Probably he just wanted to fool around with no strings attached,
-Probably he has some dark sides like hot headed, too friendly/social with other guys,
-Etc.

Of course I wouldn't say that and would still be interested to know him a bit better. But I'm just curious, would you guys be?

I know in the ideal world, we are all precious and we have to value ourselves more. But in real life we often encounter people who have just have that kind of thing that we couldn't resist and therefore we tolerate their shortcomings more than we usually would, if he were another person.

So let me give my example:
Earlier today I met a guy at a store and for me he was like the most handsome human being I have seen personally. Not too tall, but the features he has that got to me is that he is well groomed and he has beards. I know it might sound weird but as someone of an Asian descent, it's really hard to grow beard. And I love 'em.

Fast forward, we chatted and I found him to be less intelligent than I am (I consider myself pretty smart and expect my partner could step up to my wit most of the time), and we don't really share much hobbies in common. But I am willing to stay and learn more about him than I normally would in this random hookup scenario. I am willing to put more effort so I would be able with this man.

Normally if he's average or I am not really interested with, I would just endure the date and never call back, but it's not the case with him. I assure you it's not "love at first sight" but maybe more to do with infatuation because he posses the traits I am attracted with.

So do you guys have this weakness, this Achilles' heel too? Share! 

Umm, average might be okay, but lower than average is awkward. I have had more than a few encounters with said size and it's not pleasant to suck and also he couldn't penetrate because it's too small.

So all I could do was concentrating on other parts of body and get creative.

At first sight? Probably infatuation and it can be hard to resist.

Love is when you get to know him better.

Well maybe the guy has just gotten out of a relationship and you were signaling you might want to get serious so he bailed (my opinion).

I myself met my man on Manjam (even worse place to look for genuine relationship) but I got lucky and we've been together for going 3 years now. Online dating is not all bad, though most of the time, it is.

Well as a few has pointed out, the main reason (as appalling as it is for some other people) is because we are attracted to the masculinity of other men. Feminine men are generally more loving, more sensitive, yes more fashionably superior and well-groomed but all those are feminine traits. I don't want to sound as if those are bad quality in a man, but feminine men tends to have all of those qualities at too much concentration, it starts to resemble a woman.

I consider myself as a 100% (well maybe 90%) gay, and I personally despite everything feminine. I am not extremely masculine either, I am short and not too bulky but I straight act (as in I don't sway every now and then, if you know what I mean).

Well, it comes back to the individual's type/preference. It's just I prefer to not use such negative language to express my preference. I would just say "same race/faith is preferred".

And I still get tons of messages from those who I said weren't my type. But I can ignore them. Some people maybe are just too exhausted getting too much messages because they are too hot for society's standard. LOL.

I'm a non smoker, and I would never date a smoker. I put this requirement in my dating profile as well as I really hate smokers..

A smoker would be more okay to date smokers, but non-smokers tend to not want to date smokers.

Being an Asian man living in Asian country, the stereotype as in all stereotype is generally true for some.

Asians' search for people to date are divided into 3 categories:
1. Those who idolized white men.
2. Those who stick with their own race (a.k.a keeping pureblood).
3. Those who are open to any.

Asian who idolized white men, and date exclusively with them, are ones who watch too much media. They watch them so much that their idea of an adonis has been shaped into the hunky, tall, white teeth and charming white men with beard. The idea of being good looking has led them to believe that only dating with white men can make them happy. This kind of Asian will fall into the "desperate" Asians who are willing to date (much) older white men. This may also have to do with Asian culture where they perceive people who has white skin are beautiful. Sure white men has different kind of white as Asian's white (milk/porcelain-like kind of white) but it's still white.

Asians are pretty diverse, and they don't always like each other. We have the whiter Asian (chinese, japanese, korean), then we have a darker Asian (malaysian, thai, philippines) and then we also have the darkest Asian (india, arab, some chinese/japanese/korean are born with darker skin). Some of the whiter Asian tend to avoid dating with darker Asian, as again, we are culturally raised to be successful by our family, and darker skin usually equals more outdoor work (which means poor people).

It's all about stereotypes, really. Living in Asian country, I date Asian all the time though I would like to try to date white guys as well.

It seems like you don't have any gay friends? I mean really friends, not friends for benefit type.

I have had boyfriends from online dating site, and from friends of friends. It really helps, having gay friends, since you can share your emotions as well with fellow gays. Ever since I have my own group of gay friends couple years ago, I cannot really be myself with my straight friends (still haven't come out), but with gays, it's enjoyable, pressureless, and fun too.

If u want sex, find a ONS or friends for benefit. I don't think you should have a BF just for fun and not for relationship (unless you guys have agreed to it).

To be honest looking at your criterias I think you have a pretty high standard for average gay males to be able to hook up with you.