Would You Be Suspicious?
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Say, you're single. And you met with this one guy who is moderately (or considerably) good looking/smart/witty/successful, like an 8 or perhaps a 9 at first glance (and he's single too).
Would you be suspicious if he says that the reason he's single is because he hasn't met the right person, or that he just said his past relationships just didn't work out well?
I for one would conjure up a series of suspicions inside my head like:
-Probably he's a workaholic,
-Probably he just wanted to fool around with no strings attached,
-Probably he has some dark sides like hot headed, too friendly/social with other guys,
-Etc.Of course I wouldn't say that and would still be interested to know him a bit better. But I'm just curious, would you guys be?
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Or he's just looking for a "Side Piece". He's looking for some action on the side so he won't tell you much in the beginning. Or maybe you caught him at the right time and he's really single. You should be asking him questions and getting to know him if you're interested.
Say, you're single. And you met with this one guy who is moderately (or considerably) good looking/smart/witty/successful, like an 8 or perhaps a 9 at first glance (and he's single too).
Would you be suspicious if he says that the reason he's single is because he hasn't met the right person, or that he just said his past relationships just didn't work out well?
I for one would conjure up a series of suspicions inside my head like:
-Probably he's a workaholic,
-Probably he just wanted to fool around with no strings attached,
-Probably he has some dark sides like hot headed, too friendly/social with other guys,
-Etc.Of course I wouldn't say that and would still be interested to know him a bit better. But I'm just curious, would you guys be?
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Given some time like 3-4 weeks into dating, at some point formally ask him "we're dating right?". Then meet a close friend of his and mention you're dating. That should end the speciousness. If he keeps you away from friends or gay friends after a month, that is a weird sign. At least in my world.
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Would you be suspicious if he says that the reason he's single is because he hasn't met the right person, or that he just said his past relationships just didn't work out well?
I would be more concerned with those who practice de omnibus dubitandum.
Everyone has a prime assertive right to be their own ultimate judge. If he is his own ultimate judge, he does not need to explain his being single to someone else for them to decide if it is right, wrong, suspicious or whatever.
You do, however, always have an assertive right to just tell him that you are uncomfortable with attractive single people. As they've no current/past ex you can inquire of, this leaves you to discover any personal failings or problems of theirs on your own – something you'd prefer others to have done for you.
They then would have the option to either disregard your preferences, work out compromises, or change their dating tactics in preparation for something more serious and meaningful, hopefully with you. :hug:
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I go through this all the time, especially if I think the guy is hotter than me. I think it's just a mental thing though.
