Posts made by charlesperr

I'm 28 and I've never had a BF and don't get what is going wrong here.

I have only ever topped guys, only ever been interested in guys, and sexually only really started playing about 4 years ago.

I've met a tonne of guys through Grindr, a handful who come back for more (but unfortunately the ones I fall for move abroad so nothing further happens). A couple are still friends but 99% vanish before round 2. I've even reached out to a handful of rentboys and banged them (for free) for fun so I don't think physical attraction is a problem here. Several find BFs after meeting me or just never reply or reply and we chat chat chat and nothing happens (despite inviting them back, or to the cinema, or for a drink etc). In the US its a completely different story, to the point that I got a proposal after 1 night.

I had little/no success on other apps in London (but Scruff worked well in the US, and Tinder was mostly yap yap no meeting for coffee even).

However, I am still alone as f**k and I really don't get why. Stable job. Decent looking (I think!?). Fit and healthy. In London. Been told I'm a decent guy.

My friend says it will happen when it does but at this point I feel like I've been through a tonne of guys and for none of them to have stuck is very odd. I've been to a therapist to be honest and was discharged because they said there is nothing wrong with me.

I am in the process of cutting so will have a nice tight body by June/July, generally find it easy to pull someone on Grindr, and am young/fit generally. I am looking for a holiday in July/August.

Instead of wasting my holidays for work, I was thinking to go a gay festival or something, as lying on the beach all day is a bit boring (tried it last year).

However I'm pretty new to all of this and would like some help. I have seen stuff like the circuit festival and xlsior festival but I have no idea if I can go there and what happens there.

My holiday should allow for some beach time, and allow me to meet hot guys and get laid a lot lol.

Can someone help me? Is this suitable?

In these parties I just go up to a guy I like and ask him if he wants to play or something? (I don't club or anything so very new to this)

ps I am going alone as I have no friends to go with so I also need to be safe.

Links?
How exaggerated? e.g. 9" on the website = 7" insertable?

There are some pornstars who are escorts. I'm almost tempted to hire them just to measure their cock but I don't know if they will punch me in the face for that haha.

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Something has been bothering me that I would like your opinion on please.

http://www.lucasentertainment.com/models/view/bruce_beckham
Says his cock is 9" at 5'11

http://www.titanmen.com/t2/sets.php?id=2472
Says his cock is 9" at 6'0

I think if you lifted up his cock in the second link, it would touch his belly button or be slightly under. But in videos, it is at least 1-2 inches under.

I'm struggling to think how he is 9" as he is shorter than me and mine is not as big but is close to my belly button.

Sorry to pick on this one particular guy – I can think of many many more examples like this.

My question is - how are they measuring? Are they including balls or something? Are they pushing the measure tape inside their stomach? Are they adding 2" randomly? Or are they genuinely 9" from hair to tip?

I did message the Aussie guy to spend time with him / live with him / visit him over Xmas. He was completely cool with it a week ago and now vanished from vibe and whatsapp. I have no other contact info… kinda heartbroken. Really liked it (more than sexually) he was a nice bf type guy. Sigh.

I did join normal dating websites. It results in:
1. Send me your face pic, you are hot/cute, send me cock pics, lets bang. I'm not going to say 'no' if he's hot.
2. Send me your face pic, you look nice but I'm only looking for dates, I agree, we meet up at my place, I start talking and they jump on me like they have never had sex in their life (happened today actually).
3. Let's date, then they ask 1 million questions, then never meet up with you. Or swap tonnes of face pics then vanish. Time wasters in general.
4. Rejections (but rarely I care about this as the ones I like tend to reply).

I'm a top too so I feel sometimes guys just use me for a bang as there are too many gay guys who are up to give up their bottom but not actually do any of the work lol.

The guy I really liked beyond sexually was the Aussie guy. He spoke about how he wanted to settle, we seemed on the same tangent, we kept in touch after our shag once he was bak in Melbourne, but now he's totally vanished too despite saying I could stay with him over xmas this year. Idk what is going on

Its not even like I want to marry / settle with anyone in a massive committed way - just a bf at this point would be great. Idk why I am struggling so much to get one when nearly every other dude on grindr is 'partnered' or 'in a relationship'. Wtf.

I've been a regular grindr user and have got laid with tonnes of hot guys.
The problem is that is it. One or two bangs and they vanish.

I have liked a handful of the guys beyond sexually.

My top 3:

One guy moved to another state in the US, and I'm in the UK, so that didn't work.
One guy I walked back to his hotel, we kissed etc in public, he offered for me to stay with him in Australia when I visited, after 2 weeks (post-going back) he stops messaging.
One guy got a bf but is still open to getting a drink.

I am sick of just banging I want more. I have done my best to turn it into a relationship but it seems because they can just find someone else to shag there is just no 'need' for a relationship despite several of them saying I'm hot/wonderful/best sex they had etc.

What do I do?

ps please no statements like 'it will happen when it does' as I've ponded a lot of a$$ now and if none of these have worked out I'm not hopeful.

Public bone? As in not where the cock touches your stomach?

Are you sure?

On men.com for example it says Alex Mecum has a 8.5' cock.

If you check out his Twitter profile he posted a pic of a vitamin bottle next to his dick and I have the same vitamin bottle - its 6'.

All the top websites have porn star profiles and almost all the guys are 7'-9' with a couple 10'+ (source: Falcon Studios, Corbin Fisher, Lucas Entertainment).

I find this hard to believe.

Anyone know how exactly they are measuring? Like including balls or something?

More curious… (and a bit insecure lol)

bump

I live in Central London but am so clueless about 'gay life' as I have no gay friends and am quite new to this world.

Was hoping someone could get in touch with me and tell me what is available/anything I am missing out on so I don't feel as clueless as I do now. Anyone youngish would be cool and perhaps we can even hit up a club together if you wanted.

Not trying to find a date here just genuinely looking for some help / a friend. Someone in London only please!

Anyone ever been to any London gay saunas?
What was your experience like?

I've never been but am thinking of going.
I read some reviews but it seems like its dominated by 40+ year old men? Is this true?

Thanks.

@Ononoke:

May I ask one question though? If by chance, someone who is NOT your type walks in and by just one look you don't think he's attractive enough to be your boyfriend, would you even consider to date him without even learning about his personalities and all?

I think I didn't give the full picture lol. I skype with them i.e. face to face and we chat for hours and random stuff (non-sex related or sometimes a bit sex related). Sometimes I'm not initially attracted to them (i.e. enough to sleep with them) and then am after we chat (which is why if they are a 'maybe' i chat first). I have also met hot guys who I chat with for 5 mins and I want to shoot myself for feeling attracted to them (this is rare though) lol and I end things.

But it never works out because of 1/2/3 above. Personality is important but either they just want to see me naked and bang OR say they want to meet then flake out…. I don't know how to get around this.

Thanks - I'll tell him to read this. And I just PM'd you.

Thanks for all the replies.

I've spoken to many guys and they all seen to fall under these categories:
1. Are taken
2. One night stand only
3. Chat for hours on Skype/say they want to meet up and then never reply again but don't block me either

Can one night stands lead to a serious bf relationship?
Where can I get a (proper) bf from?
Is the Skype chat thing a waste of time?

Sorry to bump an old thread but my friend is still having issues with it. Infact hes losing his erection over it but performs fine at night (when using a fleshlight or something - still hasn't had 'real' sex). Hes tried a counsellor but its not helped as he didn't feel they understood (they were not gay themselves). Is there anyone who can kindly offer advice? I've seen it and after all his treatment I think it looks great (not perfect but not terrible) but I'm biased.

@raphjd:

@charlesperr:

Is there anything you can take to make you cum more? (frequency and/or quantity)

Zinc is supposed to help with that.

Also, drink plenty of water so you aren't dehydrated.

Ye - tried - no improvement :S wondering if there is some tablet…