Posts made by charlesperr

Hey!

I was a skinny dude before and have been hitting the gym hard and the hard work has really paid off lol. However, I'm still struggling to find a bf that I find hot. I'm 23yo, 6'0, 200lbs/90kg, 10% ish BF, mixed race, and tanned/olive/brown type skin which a lot of the caucasian guys love (and I love caucasian guys). I'm not shy in person or anything like that.

I have tried/and the problems are:

• Online dating websites (many) - there are hot guys but usually they just want NSA or have a bf already.
• Bars/clubs - mostly older guys with beer bellies (sorry!) so its very hard to find someone. Or if there are cute ones then the bigger muscled guys take them.
• My university society (no offence but academics are not the most attractive people).
• I finally find someone hot and who I can have a conversation with something goes wrong (they move, get a bf, I'm not their type, stop replying etc)

I'm not ugly by any means and I'm not bragging either but I have contacted escorts, other really fit hot guys who have agreed to sex (free) but no one wants more I'm educated, smart, secured a job at a top firm after I graduate, I really don't know why no one wants me

I just want a BF so I can have fun, go on holiday with him, share emotions etc. But it seems impossible

What do I do???

Thanks!

lol

He is still concerned he is 'abnormal'. Anyone got any further advice?

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Ah ok I see what you mean now. I'll let him know.

Hes top (which is why I told him to worry even less and when its inside no one cares. He said penetration was fine - BJ's are not).

He is stretching his foreskin so its covers the glans once more but when erect its not going to make much of a difference haha.

He doesn't need glans enhancement as his glans are bigger then his shaft. The underside just needs the contours to make it look 'normal'.

I'm not sure what you meant by the second paragraph - sorry! Can you please explain?

Yes he is circumcised but the skin is not stitched 1 inch below the head. Its near the head so there is not really a 'visible' line. Just imagine an uncut penis but the foreskin not covering all the glans. Thats how it looks.

Only the underside lacks contours/definition.

Oh no - he doesn't have hypospadias. His meatus is in a normal position. Its a tiny bit tight but its not visibly bad and he urinates fine. Its central and on the 'penis head tip' like normal guys have it.

His penis is completely normal in every respect except the underside lacks the 'groove' and the 'coronal ridge' which is distinct in most men but not in his (imagine 'filling' that 'glans split' with more tissue - it looks like that). It works perfectly fine (so I'm told), his sensitivity is still great and everything is 'normal' (including the appearance of the upper side of the head) but just the underside is not cosmetically correct.

It looks kinda like 'c' from figure 2 here: hypospadias-surgery.com/for_doctors.html

He has not yet been rejected because he has been to paranoid to approach anyone.

He has seen many docs (including counsellors) but even if he accepts it there is still an issue of the above…. what do you suggest?

My friend has had some trouble with his penis but he's finally ok.

The shaft/balls look normal.
The top side of his penis head looks normal.

The issue is with the glans area. Its like a blur of skin and theres no definition (no 'slit' like normal guys have).

Its bothering him a lot and he has seen many docs but nothing further can be done to revise it.

It doesn't look so bad for someone to say 'no I wont have sex with you' (in my opinion).
But it doesn't look good enough for him to 'pretend' like he's had no problems down there.

He doesn't want to have to explain to everyone he sleeps with whats wrong. He's into random sex and doesn't want relationship sex only.

Hes a top, above average dick size, great body too and attractive face. It works perfectly fine and with a condom no one would even notice the issue. Its the BJ's that are a problem (as the person sucking will be able to tell).

He liked guys more then girls which perhaps makes things worse because every guy he sleep with will have something to 'compare it to'. But he avoids sex at all costs/even a relationship because he's far too insecure about his penis.

Should he be?

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