Posts made by bebekid

My first question is "Do you want to do it?" If you don't want to do it, don't cause it will most likely hurt. If you do want to do it, as others have suggested, practice with inserting your fingers, dildo.. etc…

Relax, Relax, Relax..

I think we live in a society that encourages us to get away from our true selves, from our spirits. I think we lose touch with ourselves and don't feel good enough, or compare ourselves to other people. Place unrealistic expectations on ourselves and others.

Tell me a person you see on a billboard, magazine, TV show or movie who is all natural? From Photoshop, lighting, editing, makeup, stylist, personal trainer, photographer etc. Subconsciously, a lot of us feel inferior when we see these images. The funny thing is the person in that images doesn't even look 100% like what you see.

Our electronic world and social media allows us to do the exact opposite of it's purpose, and that's not socialize. We don't just talk to people for the sake of it. We walk by most folks with our heads buried in smartphones.

CK here also…

I like amateur because it's easier for me to get lost in. For studio, I like old stuff or stuff that doesn't feel like porn. Joe Gage did a good job with Arcade on Route 9.

Yeah, but I find it flattering. Nobody has ever been inappropriate or anything.

20 with a woman, 23 with a guy.

Yes it was.

A few months ago I met a guy at a sex party. Instead of having sex, we mostly talked and kinda fooled around for a few hours. I really liked this guy. At the end of the party he asked for my number and I gave it to him. My instinct said "don't" (probably because of where we were) but I did anyway. He contacted me immediately afterwards and said he liked our interaction and would like to have a kinda sexual/social relationship. I perceived that as a friends with benefits type deal and thought I'd be open to it. Everyday for over 2 months he would contact me which was nice. But, whenever he would ask to come over, he'd cancel right before he was supposed to come over. This happened like 6 or 7 times. He never came over. It was disappointing and confusing. He continued to ask to come over too.

This was a minor experience, but I learned 3 major lessons. The first being to listen and follow my instincts. The next and more impactful was understanding why I was disappointed. I was disappointed because I created a "fantasy" version of him in my head and was hurt when he didn't live up to it. In my fantasy, when he said he was coming over.. he would actually come over LOL. His ACTIONS showed me he wouldn't follow through and I could either accept or move on. Lastly, I wasn't clear (honest) with myself on what I wanted. I really wanted someone to date, not a friend with benefits. Secretly, I hoped we would end up dating (again my fantasy version of him). Nothing he did or said showed interest in "dating."

What's some things you guys have learned? Also feel free to comment too.

Clean.

Yes they are a pleasant surprise, but they rarely happen to me.

I don't swallow either, unless it's someone who's my partner. It's not that I hate it, I like to reserve that for someone special in my life.

Trojan Continuous Silkiness. I won't use anything else.

I agree with everyone else about not worrying about labels. I also agree with the fluidity of sexuality. Open minds and honesty with self is all that matters.

I have them and my dermatologist prescribed a regime of creams and glycolic acid to help remove them. It's taking a long time, but I see improvements.

I've never been sexually attracted to a TV or a TS M-F. That to me is like being attracted to a woman.

I'm 39

When I'm single at least once a day.

Who appointed him leader of "Lead the gays away from gay?"  :crazy2:

Is anybody reading this thread Left-handed? Were you shamed and pushed to use your right hand in school and maybe by family members? I did, and it was ridiculous. There's no rational reason behind it, only somebody somewhere said it was wrong and evil and it's been passed down for centuries. I feel the same way about trying to make a gay/bi person straight, it's ridiculous.

Can I as a gay person become straight? I don't want to, I'm exactly as I should be. I think the same goes for everybody else. It's sad this is even a question (not an attack on the op, just frustrated this is even an issue).

This is sad. Ok, to play a bit of devil's advocate in this case, how do we know the condoms weren't used for oral sex?