Well, you mentioned that for you it's strange that your type is not common, it's the same for me who like bears, it's far from common liking big hairy guys, so this point I kinda understand, hehe.
About feminine men, most problem with them is the fact that they resemble women. And at least for me, anything on a man that resembles a woman is a complete turn-off, if I wanted that I would search for women not for men. And I believe that is most people thinking. I don't like even if the guy has long hair, which isn't a feminine trait but is more common in women.
Although the appearance is very important, the attitudes of a man is something that really attracts me. I really like men with a rough voice, that acts like a man. Like I said, if the guy start acting like a woman, it's a turn off to me. He could still be cute, but to me I wouldn't be able to have a relation with him.
And at least on my experience, most effeminate guys I've met, where those kind of shallow people that I wouldn't even want to become friends with, not because they were gay and effeminate, but because of their attitudes. I am not saying that all effeminate guys are like that, and I would like that someone could prove me wrong about them, but that helps the fact that I'm not into them.
And also, I would never, ever, bottom for a guy less mainly than me, it's something I can't accept Oo.
