I don't think the biggest problem is the naming of things, but more how people see it. When you say gay, straight, bissexual, people think only about the sex thing, but it's not like that. Of course sex is involved, but it's also about the emotional aspect. I consider someone gay if he has both sexual and emotional attraction.
But human mind is really complex, and it's hard to categorize, so there are many people who believes that they don't fit in any of those Oo. And about the free spirit thing, to me it's bisexuality. You think that only because you're not into the sex, you're not bisexual, because you believe it's only related to sex. Although relationships start mostly based on appearance, they always evolve into personality itself. So basically, I think real bisexual people search for someone that makes them happy, not only for sex. Like everybody else.
But to me when you take sex away, it becomes like a regular friendship. Sex is one of the most basic human instinct, and it is needed. So most people need sex, and that's why it's categorized like that.
And answering your question, I always considered myself gay (starting on my puberty of course Oo), but took me some time to accept it. I actually have some emotion attachment to some women, but it's nothing compared to what I feel about men, with men it's not only the emotion attachment, but the physical attachment too. And also I think I would never be able to date a women, our minds are so different, I see straight couples fighting all the time about the most stupid things, I wouldn't be able to handle this kind of relationship, hehehe.
And to me I have no age requirement, I really don't care, as long as I like the guy. And contrary to some answers, I more into bears. I have no attraction at all to slimmer guys, with hairless bodies, it's easier to me to feel attraction for a women than a guy like that Oo. So yes, I really into appearances. If I don't feel any sexual attraction, to me is just simple friendship. To consider it a real emotional attachment, it must have some physical attraction.
Yes human mind is extremely complex, I can't explain why I like that kind of men, or why sometimes I have emotional attachment with women, although I would never have a relationship with them Oo.