" One of my closest female friend confessed to me earlier, we have been friends for so many years! She finally confessed to me a week ago… and ofc I cannot accept her. But the problem is that I remember she asked 'what's the issue?', I honestly can't think of any other than the fact that I'm gay and not attracted to woman?
I'm not really sure how to explain this, but I feel like as IF I'm being a 'racist' (I know that is not the correct term at all!), but basically just because she is a female and I'm not attracted to her? (if that make any sense?) "
In order to help you, i need to clarify every line here:
What did she confess? What does "ofc" mean? What does "cannot accept" mean? If she asked 'what's the issue,' with respect to what? With what do you or she have an 'issue?'
If you are gay and not attracted to woman, how does this affect your relationship to THIS woman? You can't be friends? You can't fuck her? What?
What are you doing, feeling or whatever that makes you a 'racist?' -or a woman hater?
If you are friends and have been for many years, what has changed?
If i read thru this imaginatively, i believe that, after many years of friendship, she came on to you, wanting nookie, and you either can't or don't want to.
The simple answer, which MUST be accepted, is "I'm gay." There will be a period of tenseness and awkwardness, but either she will accept you and be the same friend she always was, or she won't be able to deal, and will drop you out of her life.
In either case you have no fault or blame in this.
-Bobby