Again things like this make me glad to live in Canada. I got married (unfortunately), and am in the process of contemplating walking down that road again as I think I've finally found THE one for me. As for the pension thing, that's something that's been a non-issue for anyone since the late 80's or early 90's. Benefits, insurance, etc. were all changed to state "spouse or domestic partner", which encompassed both unmarried heterosexual couples, as well as gay and lesbian couples the same perks as being married through a period of residing under the same roof for at least 1 year. Although there are certain drawbacks to Canada (like December - March), gay rights overall is one area where we're far more advanced than other countries.