My 2 cents, for what it's worth.
Reading the initial post, I get the feeling that you're unhappy in your life, and you have a notion that if you could just get things a certain way, everything would be perfect.
This is just my personal experience talking, but that's a fallacy on two counts. For one- if you're not happy in a situation, simply moving geography won't change it. Happiness (or, fulfillment, or whatever you want to call it) doesn't come from external sources. It comes from YOU, and ONLY you. Other people can SHARE in your happiness and ain't life grand when that happens, but if you're not happy in and of yourself, no one else can help you.
The second 'red flag' I see in that post is your very limited description of what you 'need' to make you happy. When you put blinders on and say, "I will only be happy when my life looks exactly like this: A, B, C, etc" you are simply setting yourself up for disappointment because nothing will ever be EXACTLY like you imagine in your mind.
If you're serious about getting in a situation like you describe, I'm sure there are plenty of men out there that would accommodate you. But if you go into the situation with the mindset you have now, I think you're just setting yourself up for failure. My advice would be fix whatever's wrong NOW, and then when you find the guy who will 'own' you, he will know that he has a quality piece of merchandise and he won't let it go for some 'blonde guy'…
Just a thought. You're an adult and you have to make your own decisions and live with the consequences. I wish you well.