Posts made by uwsguy102

You're right. You're right. You're right. I've just never been good at making my heart listen to my head…

Ugh. I got another stupid, automated email from Facebook that my ex wants to be 'Friends'. The kicker is- he's sending it to everyone in his address book. He really has no interest in me at all anymore. The worst part is, it shows his profile picture, and he's smiling, and looking handsome and available, and it's tearing me up inside!!! I want to email him directly and say, "Delete my email from your contact list!", but that's the last, little link, and once it's gone… it's gone.

sigh

Thanks for the update, Rob… when Leatherbear passes through consciousness again, give him a high five from me!

Cheers!

Quick story- I'm an American living in Korea. Quite often I see t-shirts with English writing that's either completely wrong, or just inappropriate. A few weeks ago I was waiting for the bus and I saw a 60-year-old woman with a 'Morning Wood Lumber Company' shirt. I so wanted to take her picture but she escaped before I could get it.

haha- that's my name up there in that list… I feel just like Navin R. Johnson!!! (please, somebody, get the reference! hahaha)

Cheers!

I'm an American expatriate, and sometimes I wonder if I'll ever go back…

Hmm… always a touchy issue. Does the study about 'Sex-workers' having a much higher HIV-rate than the general public go into detail about the performers' personal lives? Are we certain that the thousands of people who make porn films are celibate off-camera, or use condoms 100% of the time?

Also, I've seen several 'condom' films that don't really promote 'safe-sex'. People think that as long as the guy wears a condom for 'most' of the scene, it's OK. I've seen the same top penetrate multiple partners without changing condoms. I've seen full on penetration during 'foreplay' before the actual sex starts. I've seen 'condom' gangbangs' where tops are cumming all over the general area of the bottom's freshly torn ass, and continuing to fuck.

Some people are vehemently opposed to 'bareback sex' because they're in the mindset that it promotes HIV infection. And for me, it comes down to personal responsibility. I can't blame a porn film if I choose to go out and have unsafe sex with strangers. In fact, my porn collection is about 95% bareback, and I've been having sex for almost 15 years, and I'm still HIV negative.

Cheers! I'll be sending you some healing thoughts and plenty of well-wishes!

I'm curious about that myself. I found a movie on another site (not a torrent site- I had to download through Hotfile), and when I watched it, there was a QUITE prominent logo for a different movie site, which the movie had apparently come from. I looked at it, and it was actually a pay site, so I decided not to upload the movie here because I didn't want people to think I was advertising the other site (which I didn't even use)… or, is it not really a problem?

haha… don't get freaked out. It's just ONE story out of many. I'm sure you could find countless examples of guys whose first experience was wonderful.

You also have to remember- I was determined to lose my virginity. I had no interest in 'romance' or 'love'. I just didn't want to build it up in my head any longer, so I went out to have the experience. If you want to wait until you find someone you're interested in as a person, and develop feelings for, then I'm sure you will have a much better time. However- with age I've come to realize that when you put limitations on what you think should happen, then you will always be disappointed because life will always move in its own direction. When you open yourself up to more possibilities, you have a greater chance of being satisfied.

For example- I went through a phase where I only dated guys who were physically much bigger than me (and preferably older). You could call it a 'Daddy-complex'. I was working at a bar, and I started talking to this guy who was sitting there and we hit it off and at the end of the evening I gave him my number, and when he stood up to leave, I realized he was actually a bit shorter than me. (I hadn't seen him come in.) My first thought was, "Crap. I hope he doesn't call me...", but he did, and we ended up dating for quite awhile and to this day, he's one of the best 'partners' I've ever had in the bedroom because we were equal in every way. But I never would have given him a chance if I had stuck to my mindset of "The man I'm going to be with will look exactly like A,B, and C..."

Trust your gut. If something feels wrong, it is. If you want to wait, then wait. There's no law that says you have to lose your virginity by a certain age, or in a certain fashion. At the same time, though, try to imagine that there's more than ONE answer to your question.

Cheers!

There's pros and cons to both sides. I can only speak from my own personal experience. I knew I was gay at a very early age, but I never acted on it until after I graduated from college. I was 24, and one night I just thought, "Enough waiting. I'm going to lose my virginity tonight!"

Long story short- it ended up being a disaster, but I don't really regret it. Sometimes you discover what you WANT by doing something wrong so you know what you DON'T want. Life is a series of experiences. You can 'know' something intellectually, but until you actually 'experience' it, you can't plan on how you will react. It's not what happens to you- it's how you deal with it that shapes your life.

Just protect yourself from STDs and don't let anyone pressure you into doing something that doesn't feel right. You deserve happiness- we all do. That's why we're here. But sometimes you have to wade through a bunch of horseshit to find it. grin

@bofors20:

how about the front??

IN the words of the immortal Smokey Robinson:

I second that emotion!!!

Add me to the list of well-wishers, Leatherbear! Take care of yourself!

I'll be sending you some healing thoughts!

'Show us yer tits!!!'

sounds of bottles falling off a table and breaking

'Freebird! Freeeeeeeeebiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiird…'

@geekguy:

haven't you done the same thing a bit in your list.  polygamy is an accepted practice in many world cultures, and if all the people involved are consenting legal adults, what's so wrong about it?  To put it in the list with pedophilia and beastiality is to marginalize polygamists the same way gays are marginalized.  I think gays who want gay marriage should acknowledge that if we can question the "gender" part of the marriage definition, then other parts of the definition can also be questioned, like the "number" requirement.

being gay is "abnormal" in the sense that it is a minority condition.  That doesn't make it wrong, but we will always have a bit of the sense of the odd/strange/abnormal, just like any other minority tribe/group/belief.  The key issue is being treated fairly and equally under the law, and not equating abnormal with bad.  I don't want to be married to one person, let alone several, but I can see no reason that my personal dislike should cause a law to limit those who do.

As for the main thread topic, it is of course a tragedy that this young man took his life for a perceived shame.  Are the two jerks who taped and broadcast him bad people? Yes.  Should they be charged for unauthorized taping? Yes.  Are they morally responsible for his death?  Mmmm… Maybe.  Should they be held LEGALLY responsible?  I don't think so.  In this day and age of so many young people living a complete internet and voyeuristic life, putting a tape of your roommate having sex online could easily be considered a prank, albeit one that has had tragic consequences.  Heck, there are spycam videos on this very site.  Are we so sure that those guys want their nakedness being spread around?  This is not to blame the victim or to minimize the tragedy, but sometimes shitty things happen in our lives, gay or straight.  Dealing with it and moving on is a must, not suicide.

You're right, but in the United States polygamy is NOT an accepted practice and therefore people equate it with being 'wrong', and those are the three main arguments proponents of laws like Prop 8 always use when they talk about keeping marriage 'safe' from deviant lifestyles.

I should have been more careful in my post, but the emotion of this story has really gotten to me. As long as the people are consenting adults, I don't care if ten people want to be 'married', but here's where (at least in the United States) it would cause problems. With marriage comes many tax breaks and legal provisions. If you have multiple spouses it then creates legal issues such as: if a man has three wives does he then have three times as many deductions he can take? If he dies without drawing up a will, do the wives have equal share to his assets, even if one woman was married to him for 30 years and the other two married him yesterday? If he goes into a coma, do all three wives have to agree on the course of action, or can 2 of the three vote to pull the plug, even if one of them is convinced he wouldn't want that?

But aside from that- I don't think Tyler's roommate targeted him in the sense of, 'He's gay! I'm going to make him suffer!', but I do believe his being gay was the primary reason his roommate posted it. And even if Tyler had been caught having sex with a woman, I doubt he would have killed himself as a result.

I do think if you pull a prank in which there's a REASONABLE chance that something negative can happen as a result, you should be held legally responsible. If I throw a water balloon at someone, and they have a panic attack because when they were 5 they almost drowned, there's no way I could have known that would happen. But if you know that your roommate is not comfortable with his sexuality and you secretly tape him IN HIS ROOM and broadcast it on the internet TWICE, then I do think you are responsible for more than just 'invasion of privacy'.

As for the 'spy-cam' videos, if you're talking about the 'locker room' videos where guys are simply walking around naked, I don't think those are particularly popular or, for that matter, damaging. Any 'secret video' where people are masturbating or having sex in a public place- well, that's a different story. If you're willing to risk exposure for the thrill of sex in public, then you don't really have a right to complain if someone catches you. Tyler wasn't having sex in a locker room. He was in his dorm room, where he had a right to believe that he was safe.

Do they come…erm... fully loaded like in the picture?

Warning- rant ahead. sigh

Years ago, I was living in New York with a roommate who is also gay. This was near the beginning of the whole 'Defense of Marriage' movement, and he said, 'Gays should just give up this fight. We're never going to change people's opinions on the word marriage, so we should fight for having domestic partnerships raised to the same level of benefits and rights that marriage has, and just let it be.' And I told him, 'It's not about the word marriage, it's about the IDEA that one group of people is somehow LESS than everyone else and therefore doesn't deserve the same opportunities as everyone else. When people say 'Marriage should only be between a man and a woman because if you let two men marry, or two women marry, then you have to let men marry children, or women marry dogs and horses, or three people get married', it subconsciously equates homosexuality with pedophilia and bestiality and other things that society deems 'abnormal', and then gays and lesbians unconsciously feel 'wrong' for being who they are.'

And this kind of thinking directly leads to a young man feeling like he'd rather jump to his death than have people know that he's had sex with a man. Not even that he's gay- this could've been a college-aged experimentation that everyone talks about, or he could've been attracted to men AND women… we'll never know. All we know is that Americans still feel overwhelmingly that it's better that gays and lesbians hide who they are. And that's wrong.

I often wish there was a way- even for a day- to take away everything that was directly produced or created by homosexuals. Straight people certainly enjoy watching the TV shows and movies that were written, directed, produced by and feature gays and lesbians. They certainly don't mind using technology that was directly influenced by Da Vinci or Alfred Nobel. They don't mind taking aspirin when they have a headache, even though the man who invented it was gay. I'd like them to see just how much gays and lesbians have contributed to their lives before they start saying, 'It's good that he killed himself. One less f****t...'

I know it's petty and we should always try to counter hate with love, but sometimes it's hard to take the high road. Ugh. I hate focusing on such negative things. I should let it go but it's been really bothering me the last day...

muy caliente!!!

I especially like that you haven't shaved your balls! VERY hot!!!

More, please!

@bluehue:

fuck yeah! one more? please? 

I agree with bluehue!!! Fuck YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!! HOTNESS!!!

One more, please?!!!

And by 'one more' I mean 'ten more'…

@blackdid:

uwsguy102, in case you read this, I've forced my unchecked "Privacy Level" to Normal : could you please confirm that my Profile is visible now ?
tia  

I just checked your profile, and it was completely….................. VISIBLE!!!!!!!

Cheers!